Should I let my 7 year old son get his ears pierced?

Christina - posted on 05/10/2011 ( 81 moms have responded )

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My son is seven years old and he has asked me can he and I don't know what to say? I have seven holes in my ears and a belly ring and his dad has his ears pierced plus my 5 year old girl has had hers done since she was 3 months old so its not should "my child" its the question "should my son" get his ears pierced? UPDATE NOTE: I have also commented in the news feed so before you answer read all of my 5 comments b/c this has been a full on conversation way beyond the explanation in this box. I keep having to explain myself over and over. Thanks for your time and even though I have made a decision other moms may use this to make theres so feel free to continue to argue your feelings :) God Bless UPDATE as of 6-16-11 We went yesterday and got his ear pierced (just one) and he chose a little blue metal ball. He done good (didnt cry) and is so happy :) I'm glad I did this for him. I can barely notice b/c its small but he has been smileing ever since :)

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Chrystal - posted on 05/10/2011

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Honestly I think that is totally up to you and your husband. My daughter is only 10 months old LOL, but I've pretty much made up my mind that I am going to wait for her to come to me and ask me if she can pierce her ears before I even bring it up to her. I would like her to decide that she wants her ears pierced. I don't want mommy to decide for her. Good luck with your decision.

Tarina - posted on 06/01/2011

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@Jaysh - Since the 1980s? about 1/4 of the guys I went to HS with in the 90s had one or more ear pierced and now its even more so - Christina I think you made a great decision using it as a reward for his sports, and supporting his decision to express himself is a GREAT thing that all moms should do as long as there is no danger involved!

Darci - posted on 05/13/2011

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I personally think earnings on men/boys are out dated and just unattractive really. I dont thing boys should have their ears pierced, not because its girly, but because its just plain stupid looking i think. So there is no way in hell I would let my son do it. But if your husband has them and you like them I dont see why not let your son get them. Its not like a tattoo its not permanent you can always take them out I guess. I can honestly say I haven't seen them that often on boys since I was in highschool though. It was popular at one time.I really dont think its popular anymore maybe among some age groups i guess and depending where you live. But to each their own if he really wants them and he will feel good about it then sure.As long as he feels good about himself and you feel that it is okay. Like I said they arent permanent. Its hard to say no and explain when his daddy has them ya know.

Cynthia - posted on 05/13/2011

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well to be fair i would say yes.but life isnt fair. there is no way i would let my son. and if i saw a boy with ear rings, i would think what was his mom thinking!!! so my answer is no.

Christina - posted on 05/10/2011

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I won't allow my boys to get their ears pierced at that young of an age, but I don't see anything wrong with it if he really wants it and you don't object. (My husband also has his ears pierced.) I allowed my daughter to get her ears pierced for a second time on her 8th birthday. People think that's extreme, but for us it wasn't.

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Sage - posted on 10/04/2012

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I wouldnt have let him because there is a difference between male ear pieercings and female piercings... What if others make fun of him just because he has a "girl" piercing. I would have made him wait longer before getting it so he could really decide for himself, but at least he is happy with it.

Claire - posted on 05/25/2011

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if he really wants it done then it would be ok n if u want make him do chors so he getts money and he can pay for it himself

Jaysh - posted on 05/24/2011

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I answer is no - too young. Since when did boys start wearing earings. As he grows up and asks you for other stuff - are you going to give in as well.

Christina - posted on 05/23/2011

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I dont appriciate the rude comments and again I have commented four times saying the same crap over and over. Once again....I have made him wait six months, he is doing it b/c he thinks it looks nice not b/c it is what his frien(d) did, and I have already made my decision....unexpected all stars tryouts then to the piercing studio we go....I may get a tatoo while we are there :O Google piercing people the holes grow up...if he changes his mind a year from now it takes five seconds to take an earring out. An earring is not permanent. No I will not let him pierce anything else (such as lip face whatever) and NO he will not get a tattoo until its none of my buisness anymore. & PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE before you comment on here read all four (now 5) of my updates thanks

Karen - posted on 05/23/2011

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Is this a joke!? My son can do whatever he wants to his body when he is 18 yrs and moves out. Ridiculous!

Cheri - posted on 05/23/2011

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It doesn't matter what you say. You and your husband have already set the example that is ok to get pierced no matter what age or gender.

Tiffiny - posted on 05/23/2011

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personally if it was my son , i wouldn't do it but if my sons came to me today and asked b/c all his friends are doing it could he, i would make him wait a little while b4 taking him just to make sure it is what he really wants and not just b/c his friends are doing it .... my hubby says absolutly not but i would possibly consider it

Laura - posted on 05/23/2011

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Sorry. Buy I don't think you should. To me that's just wrong. He only wants to do it because everyone else is. Pretty sons he'll see kids with tattoos and he'll want one. So I think you should wait till he's older, like 16 maybe.

Tami - posted on 05/23/2011

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my son got his done at 4.5 months old and it is super cute my sister also did her sons by the time he was 6months old and he is now 4.5 years old and decided he didnt want it anymore so his mom said okay and took it out for him not a big deal at all do you what you and your son want and what will leave you both happy in the end.good luck.

Tami - posted on 05/23/2011

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why not? hemight chicken out when you get him in the chair anyways and if he doesnt want them in a few more years he can always take them out. i would as it is not going to harm anyone.

Christie - posted on 05/23/2011

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7 is very young i think he should wait a bit at least a month but probably a year or more before going ahead, i would say the same for a girl my brother was told he had to wait till he was 16 . you might find hes not so interested in that time but if he still wants to get it done then he will value it even more, if you just go ahead then hes not likely to understand the consequences of just jumping into a decision. i make my hubby wait a year for a tattoo, thats a year after coming up with a design for the same reason piercings aren't as permanent but its still something you have to live with ,

Sara - posted on 05/23/2011

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I have read enough of these... I will say this...if YOU have to ask or even think twice about it then I think you. Shouldn't do it and I also agree with whoever said don't let him since he is just doing it to be like everyone else...and also. Think makking him wait until highschool is a great idea!

Sammie - posted on 05/22/2011

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If it's one earring in a boy, I'm all for it. My dad has his done, as does my children's father. I have 2 girls. One had her eyes done at 6 months, and so will the next one. I have 7 piercings in my ears, my eye brow and my tongue. I don't see anything wrong with it :)

Alana - posted on 05/22/2011

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personally i do not think you should pierce his ears until he is old enough to make that decision for himself. call me old fashion but thats my view; especially since he want to do it because it is the "it" thing. following "It" things are what is getting our children deceived in todays' society. Ultimately though..to each his own. Blessings.

Rowena - posted on 05/22/2011

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if he has asked for it to b done i would let him. That's the way im going to deal if my son asks me i won't force it on him just incase he asks but if he dose i will let him get it done hope this helps you

Jacinta - posted on 05/22/2011

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I'm having to make that same decision right now for my sons they're 10 & 11. My dad's a minister and he's always had a problem with guys and earrings, so I worry about what my family may think, however, I personally don't think an earring makes a person who or what they are, I believe it's simply a fashion statement to me. I, like you, have piercings ears, belly button and nose and I have tats! I think that's a personal decision that parents have the choice of making for their own children and the age depends on what we as parents decide. Don't know if that helps, hope it does a little!

Shanna - posted on 05/22/2011

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i wouldnt allow it but you are his mother and should do whatever you think is best for your child and you! if he wants to express himself and be an individual then you are doing a great job!!

User - posted on 05/20/2011

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I think you should wait for him to get a little older. what if you do it now and he grows up not liking it??

Anabel - posted on 05/20/2011

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I think it depends on you and the dad plus always remember even though all the other kids has it doesn't mean he has to be like the other kids, being different is cool then being like evey1 else, I also don't think it matters if you and the dad has piercing done ya'll r both adult who works to get what ya want he's only 7 but like I said it all depends on you and the father.

Tekiri - posted on 05/19/2011

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Of course!! It may be the it thing at school but by the sounds of it, its also an it thing inthe family so this may be encouraging the trend. He may be wanting to fit in with the rest of the family as well.

Christina - posted on 05/19/2011

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Um okay so the first 50 comments were mostly nice and encouraging I dont know whats happening now but I do think its rude to insinuate that I (being the one that has now chosen to pierce his ears)am a bad mom. Its the same thing as him asking to cut his hair a certain way or wear sketchers b/c they look nice. He doesnt only want them bc his friends have um. He wants um b/c he thinks they will look nice. I did give him a time limit to think about it....six months, after ball season and his last game is Saturday so for the fifty of you that told me to think it through and go for it..Ill be posting a pic of his new studds before Monday :) For the close minded moms out there.... Thanks for your opinions, I really do appriciate your time answering my question, but I am a mature adult and a damn good mom and I can responsably make decisions for my child. Funny thing is no one said a thing about my 3 month old girl getting hers done. Its a minor thing guys...chill out :P Oh and for the 4th time.....earring holes will grow up :)

Christine - posted on 05/19/2011

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Sara Carvajal "I think he should make that choice when hes old enough to make choices for himself....age 18." You make it sound like kids can only make decisions for themselves when they are 18.

Christine - posted on 05/19/2011

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The only reason I would not pierce my son's ears is if there were a social stigma against it or he might be teased or treated differently because of it.. if it is incredibly popular these days I would not worry about that amongst his friends. I guess I still might worry about comments from people of our generation though.. I think how kids are treated affects them (like kids do learn about gender roles when you say something like "you probably shouldn't paint your nails that's something girls usually do") but if I really didn't think anyone would treat him differently I guess I would. If I thought people would treat him differently I'm not sure I would. With ear piercings you can always take them out later of course and they do make clear earrings/retainers so that's always something to keep in mind. Have you decided what you're going to do?

Tarina - posted on 05/19/2011

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To everyone saying they'd never "Let" their son do it... What happens when your son is old enough to just do it himself? (Ive seen it happen) Wouldnt you rather take him to get it done by someone who will be sanitary? And teach him how to care for it? Or worse yet, does it BECAUSE he knows you hate it? Let your kids express themselves! Better an ear piercing than experimenting with other things...
If its something he REALLY wants, have him wait until a special occasion (Celebrating the end of baseball season sounds perfect!) and then take him as a reward!

Eleanor - posted on 05/19/2011

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Ultimately its up to you! Do you like the idea? Then think - what is the real reason you like it/don't like it? If Dad has them then it probably seems normal to your son for boys to have pierced ears, especially if his friends are doing it too.

If you're not sure, and think he may change his mind, set up a "thinking time", mark a date on the calendar that he may get his ears done if he still wants to. That way he won't be uncool cause mum said no, but hes got some time to think about it. Set it after ball season, that way you have a really legitimate reason too!

Christina - posted on 05/18/2011

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Um to some of the comments: I have NO part in his decision to pierce his ears. I'm saying if he wants it done then he can have it done. This isn't a spare of the moment decision, he has been asking me for about six months. To the comments about him not being able to clean it: I wiped his butt for two years so it can't be as bad as that, lol and it's not a major surgery or anything...gah. To the ones who asked me if I would let him get a tatoo too: Hell no, There is a big difference between a tiny hole in his ear that will grow up if he changes his mind and a life long tatoo. I am a good, no GREAT parent and it pisses me off when letting my son express himself and make some small decisions for himself makes me look like a bad parent. I am a sahm so my children are ALL my life is about. Logan is a smart child (perfect grades in school) and very mature. He never asks for anything, does everything I tell him to do, keeps his room clean, helps around the house, and is so sweet; so when he finally does ask for something I'm going to make it happen for him. Thanks for all the comments, really!!!

JuLeah - posted on 05/18/2011

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I think age 7 is young. Had you had them pierced as a baby, you could have care for them and kept them clean. When he is older, he can too, but not many 7 yr olds keep up with such things. My daughter wants her ears pierced, and I am making her wait till she is a bit older.
But, that said, your question seems more about gender ..... I have no issue with boys getting their ears pierced. I draw the line on things that will forever alter their look ... the big rings some fellows wear that stretch out the ear lobes ... tats .... a nose job .... that kind of thing needs to wait till the child is an adult and can make their on choice with an adult mind

Amy - posted on 05/18/2011

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We had this debate about our oldest son, although to be fair, we decided when he was still a baby. I grew up in a family where we couldn't do anything like that until we were 18 and able to do it on our own. My now-ex-husband (the kids' dad) said they should be able to do it once they turn 10 (when he got his done). We compromised and agreed on age 13. If our boys want to get their ears pierced then, no problem, but not before.

Ultimately, the decision is up to you, his parents. Yes, if you do it, you'll probably hear other people's opinions about it, but that's what we have to deal with as parents...everything we do is under scrutiny. People will always "know best", but remember, nobody knows your child better than you.

Bonnie - posted on 05/18/2011

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Thanks Teresa. I think I was on the computer a bit too much yesterday and I was seeing things. Numbers just weren't in their right places in my eyes LOL.

Nikki - posted on 05/17/2011

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You are his mother and if you think he's too young to get his ear's pierce then it's your call. Who cares what others say or if it's an "it thing". Others aren't raising your kids so you make that judgement.

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Your call. MY son? Nope, not happening. Of course, my 9 year old girls don't even have their ears done yet. ;)

Sara - posted on 05/17/2011

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I think he should make that choice when hes old enough to make choices for himself....age 18.

Julie - posted on 05/17/2011

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There is a reason children have parents- we are to have more wisdom and insight into issues that a child's temporary fads or wants. When he is 18 he can do what he wants. I am willing to bet that he will be glad he did not get his ears pierced and will thank-you for not allowing it.

Kaara - posted on 05/17/2011

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from the few posts iv read the only thing that hasn't been brought up is the bullying aspect, kids can be really cruel, and if they happen to start a fight the first thing that is going to go is the earring. you should also check the school policies, i understand that "your child, your choice" but some schools are really enforce the policies so you may end up with a fight from the school.

Kelly - posted on 05/17/2011

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If everyone else in the family has it done, then why not? He's asking for it, he wants it. I wont pierce my sons ears until he asks for it. But after that, both his fathert and step dad have theirs pierced so why not?

Bonnie - posted on 05/17/2011

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This thread is a year old so not sure if you already decided, but If he really wants it done that badly and you are okay with it, than take him to get it done.

Sara - posted on 05/17/2011

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Hmmm if my eight year old son came to me asking if he wanted his ears pierced. I would tell him all he would need to do to look after the ear plus how to keep the earing clean, what will happen during the process of getting his ear pierced and ask what earing he wants in then see what he thinks .... knowing him he would likely change his mind. I am more worried when the time may come that he might want a tattoo.

Belva - posted on 05/17/2011

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I say let him get his ears pierced. If he doesn't want it later on in life then he'll let it close up. What's the big deal. I have some friends that pierced their boys ear when they turned 1. Its not like you're taking him to get a tattoo.

Sami4002 - posted on 05/17/2011

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that depend on you ofcourse the boy see all that huge numbers of holes sure he wants to get one

Alicia - posted on 05/17/2011

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I have several holes in my ears as well, but I have chosen to make my children wait until they are either 13 or 18 I haven't decided yet. I say if you are willing to let him get his ears pierced wait until he is older and he is willing to take care of the piercing himself, right now you will have to be the one to clean it every day and it is up to you if you want to do that. I just say wait until he is maybe 13 and see what happens then, but in a situation like this it is totally up to you and his dad.

Toesheta - posted on 05/17/2011

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Honestly that's something a boy should do when he is a teenager by then he would be responsible and really knows if that what he wants no child should be able to make a decision like that at age 5 nor 7 I see if he ask for a mohawk that's different you have to tend to your ear after its pierce what if he get hit in it playing around or sports there goes an infected ear but like others said its up to you and your husband.

Christine - posted on 05/16/2011

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No big deal! It's bound to happen when there's like 30 pages of postings haha I was like "wait what about hair? I'm confused" lol but then thought maybe you weren't replying to my comment and just making a comment to the poster/someone else so IDK confusing but glad it's all resolved!

Stifler's - posted on 05/16/2011

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Do you want him to get them pierced? Since it's you who has to pay/nurse him if he's sick with an infection I'd say it's you who has the final say.

Crystal - posted on 05/16/2011

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Whoops! Yeah, I did misread the spelling and thought you were talking to me, Christine! Sorry about that. :p

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