Should I move out?

Briana - posted on 11/26/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My Husband and I live with my parents. We have a 4 month old and can't really afford to live in our own place right now. I am so stressed out living here now that I'm starting to become very angry and almost every little thing. My mom is very controlling and very over dramatic. Even though my husband and I are adults she still likes to try and tell us what to do. Granted my mom is annoying but she is not the biggest problem. My biggest problem is my brother. He's 22 years old, never moved out of my parents house and has no job. All he does is sit in his room and play his X-Box all day. He's lazy and doesn't help with anything around the house and he is extremely disrespectful. He calls his own parents names and calls me names over nothing and even threatens to hit me. He has a really bad anger problem and gets mad over the smallest things. He expects everyone to give him what he wants or he throws a fit about it. I'm tired of it but no matter what I say or do I just get yelled at and my mom always takes his side even if I just defended her from him calling her some sort of name. We are always fighting and I'm just tired of it. I hate when he yells at people in the house in front of my baby and calls people names because I don't want my son growing up thinking it's okay to disrespect his parents and siblings. My other problem is that my husband and I are always getting lectured about something yet here my brother is being lazy and doing nothing and he's never bothered or being told to get a job. My husband is the only one in the house working by the way. And I'm going back to my old crapy job next week because we have such a hard time keeping food in the house and my brother is too lazy to get a job and both my parents are disabled. So now I am giving up time with my 4 month old son to work because my brother won't get a job to help us live. My husband and I have talked about moving out and living with his mom but I worry if we leave my parents will struggle without our help. But at the same time I'm getting so stressed out being here that I've been feeling so angry and feeling so much hate. And I get so frustrated even at my son and that just makes me feel like a terrible mother. I don't know what to do anymore. Should we just move out?

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Serena - posted on 11/27/2013

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If your baby doesnt feel the stress yet they probably will soon. For the best interest of both your relationship as a couple and for your child's well being you should move to a place that is less hostile, whereever that may be.

Jessica - posted on 11/27/2013

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You should move out. Living with in laws is never a good idea once you hae your own family if you can avoid it, causes too many problems. As for the drama in the house, there is really nothing you can do because it is not your house and if your parents allow your brother to behave the way he does then that's their choice.

Susan - posted on 11/27/2013

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i think u should moved out coz fr now ur breastfeeding ur not supposd to be stressed ur milk production will reduce, and another thing ur family members dont respect u despite that ur husband is the one providing

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Briana - posted on 11/27/2013

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Thank you guys. Susan I have already had to stop breastfeeding cause my milk supply went down a lot and wasn't getting enough for Logan and I tried everything for weeks to make it go back up again. I hate that I'm not able to breastfeed anymore.

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