should i no longer allow my mother in law to see my child

Shannon - posted on 01/11/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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my mother in law is a total nightmare every since i got with my husband three years ago she's been nothing but clingy and it got even worse after i found out i was pregnant with my son i explained to her that its nothing personal but i don't feel the need to invite you every time i want to go out to a restaurant or the movies with my guy the weird thing is that his sister to has the same complaint that they aren't close but my husband told me that him and his mother and sister never had a close relationship even when they were kids. The whole time i was prego she never asked how the baby was matter of fact when we told her we were pregnant she told us she needed to find a different name besides 'grandma" because shes to young even though i was 26 and my husband 25 and she's 50 years old! when i first moved in with them she was so up my sister in laws boyfriends ass that she never took the time to get to know me she would get off from work and her and colin (my sister in laws boyfriend) would go to the movies together and crap like that and when we moved to dothan al we found out that she was even paying colin's cell phone bill ! but the real issue is i don't agree with how she raised her kids she allowed colin to move in with her and her daughter when at at the time my sister in law was only 5 yrs old! she also bragged to me about how she gave my husband and his high school friends liquor when they graduated high school which she thought was acceptable cause she took everyones keys! are you kidding me but what really killed the relationship was when my sister in law told us last year on christmas that she was molested by her 14 yr old cousin when she was 7 and my MIL did nothing about it! whats worse is my father in law who i am close to has no idea about it because she covered it upi flipped out because i am a victim of sexual assault by my stepfather and my mother takes his side so i completely ex communicated her and haven't allowed her to see my son because of it every since she told us no one has addressed the issue since but now she keeps telling everyone that i am being mean to her and that its all me she's even has my sister on law turned against me which is stupid because i am only mad because of the injustice she was done with she was a child just like i was this christmas 2012 she started and argument that completely destroyed the family because she kept lying to my father in law and mother in law that it was my fault why the family is destroyed i was 2 seconds from telling my ftaher in law what she had done but didn't because my sister in law asked me not to tell but at this point me and my husband want nothing to do with her and my sister in law because we are sick of the drama we have had two christmas ruined for our son because of this family secret am i doing the right thing by ex communicating her

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Shannon - posted on 01/11/2013

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well i feel as though i shouldn't because i refuse to let my child deal with having half ass grandparents either be there for my son or don't be there my son is a baby now but when he's at a age where he does understand its going to hurt him more to see that his grandmother only deals with my son when she's ready to be bothered and until she has some kind of counseling for herself her taking him or having him alone is completely out of the question she allowed her daughter to be molested and didn't do anything so no i don't trust her with my child knowing that about her

September - posted on 01/11/2013

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Unless she is of harm to your child I would not keep your child from seeing her just because you don't like or get along with her. That's not fair to your child.

Shannon - posted on 01/11/2013

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and i also meant my mother in law kept lying to my father in law and sister in law

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