Should I or shouldn't I?

Rosa - posted on 05/29/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am a bridesmaid in a dear friend's wedding this June, and my daughter will be 10 months. A few months ago, I had asked her what were her thoughts about babies/kids at the wedding and she said she was leaning more towards it being adult only, but she would think about it.

Here are a few key factors:
1) I am still nursing
2) I live out of state, and while my parents do live where the wedding will be at, my daughter has only been around them a handful of times
3) I will be gone from about 7 am til midnight

While I want to respect her wishes of having no kids there, I honestly don't know how I will be having to be away from my daughter that long. The longest I have been away from her is 12 hours.

I feel like it would be okay if my daughter is there because she can't walk yet so its not like she will be running around. I have thought about getting a hotel near the wedding venue so it would be easier to check up on her and be there if she needs me.

Am I being selfish for not wanting to spend the entire day from her? My friend said if it does end up that my daughter comes to the wedding, that's fine but I know that she would rather not have that happen.

I'm trying to come up with a solution where all parties are happy. Advice is welcomed and appreciated!

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Cc - posted on 05/31/2013

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Mommy....if you trust your parents with your daughter, leave her with them and enjoy a day off!!!! Just pump a few times that day to relieve yourself. I believe it's healthy for you to have some time to yourself and for your daughter to learn to trust other loved ones besides mommy only. I would be so glad to have a day off of mommy duty!

Rosa - posted on 05/30/2013

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My parents live an hour away from where the ceremony and reception would take place.

However; I think I did come up with a solution - I would get a room at a nearby hotel (connected by skyway to the venue) and my parents can watch her there while I am at the reception. That way they are close by if she really does need me, and I can check in on her if need be.

Thanks!

MissMommyMay - posted on 05/29/2013

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Maybe if your parents werent to far with her youcould check on her throughtout the day in off times. like between ceremony and reception. or leave her with your parents just during the ceremony.

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