Should i put my 12 month old in daycare?

Morgan - posted on 09/28/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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since my 12 month old was born my husband and i have pretty mcuh splint taking care of the kids 50/50 but the money isnt cutting it. hes gotten a good job offer but its full time so i eighter have to quit my job and stay home with the kids or put him into daycare a few days a week. my husband is pretty much against him going to daycare and it makes me nervous doing it before hes even old enough to tell us if something is wrong. finacially if i did not work we could pay our bills but it would be really tight. if i worked we would be more finacially comfortable but is it worth it? any input is appreciated!!

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Jessica - posted on 09/28/2009

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Quoting Ashley:



Quoting Jessica:

My son was neglected at a daycare when he was 6months old. I'm not trying to make you worry more but it can happen. I have had him in other daycares since and nothing bad has happened to him. I think that daycare is a good way for children to get used to the idea of other kids and how to get along with them.
But if you are still worried about it, try a friend with a different work schedual than you... Take turns watching eachother's children. Or the grandparents. Daycare is very expensive and will take most of your paycheck, but most licenced daycares are a safe and fun place for the lil ones to go and play with other kids.
As to your lil one being able to tell you that something is wrong. You will know. His temper will change, he will cry when you tell him that he is going to the daycare, and he might have nightmares if something is hurting him or scaring him. That is how I figured out that something was going on at the daycare where my son was neglected.






Oh my goodness...I don't know if I would be able to find another daycare if something like that happened!  That is terrible!  I am happy that he is now in a good daycare; poor sweet boy.





He actually isn't in daycare anymore. He is a healthy happy 6yr old with a 4yr old sister. I just found out that I am having twins and my hubby and I both figured it would be best to keep them home. 4 kids in daycare just wouldn't work for us, it would be my whole paycheck and half of his. Plus the Dr said no more working until after the twins are born (2-21-2010) ...  It's sad though because the daycare that I had them in was like another Grandma to them. She let them get away with everything (after school work was done) and was always making their day fun. She wont have room for the twins and my other two so I will just be a stay at home mom from no on.

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If you choose to go with a daycare then they are certainly ways to find out if it's a good one. Insist that they let you observe the classroom your son will be in for a few hours, ask around to friends a neighbors about their experiences and also check to make sure the daycare is licensed and that all the teachers are certified.

However as long as you're debating the issue don't forget to look at the hidden costs for daycare. Remember you will have to pay for gas to and from that location everyday, lunches/snacks, you will probably have to buy some extra items to keep at daycare (i.e. blankets, sleep mat), your son will be more apt to get sick which could mean more doctor's bills and more days off work for you. I don't work and my husband and I are on a VERY tight budget but to me I'd much prefer it that way. I do my best to buy whatever we can secondhand and I've really gotten into shopping sales and using coupons at the grocery store which can save a lot of money. Whatever you decide, good luck!

Ashley - posted on 09/28/2009

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Quoting Jessica:

My son was neglected at a daycare when he was 6months old. I'm not trying to make you worry more but it can happen. I have had him in other daycares since and nothing bad has happened to him. I think that daycare is a good way for children to get used to the idea of other kids and how to get along with them.
But if you are still worried about it, try a friend with a different work schedual than you... Take turns watching eachother's children. Or the grandparents. Daycare is very expensive and will take most of your paycheck, but most licenced daycares are a safe and fun place for the lil ones to go and play with other kids.
As to your lil one being able to tell you that something is wrong. You will know. His temper will change, he will cry when you tell him that he is going to the daycare, and he might have nightmares if something is hurting him or scaring him. That is how I figured out that something was going on at the daycare where my son was neglected.



Oh my goodness...I don't know if I would be able to find another daycare if something like that happened!  That is terrible!  I am happy that he is now in a good daycare; poor sweet boy.

Jessica - posted on 09/28/2009

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My son was neglected at a daycare when he was 6months old. I'm not trying to make you worry more but it can happen. I have had him in other daycares since and nothing bad has happened to him. I think that daycare is a good way for children to get used to the idea of other kids and how to get along with them.

But if you are still worried about it, try a friend with a different work schedual than you... Take turns watching eachother's children. Or the grandparents. Daycare is very expensive and will take most of your paycheck, but most licenced daycares are a safe and fun place for the lil ones to go and play with other kids.

As to your lil one being able to tell you that something is wrong. You will know. His temper will change, he will cry when you tell him that he is going to the daycare, and he might have nightmares if something is hurting him or scaring him. That is how I figured out that something was going on at the daycare where my son was neglected.

Michelle - posted on 09/28/2009

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I work in a daycare and I can tell you that it can get pricey. I would suggest going around to the different centres and finding one that you feel comfortable with. Ask lots of questions and get a feel for the way things are run. Putting your child into daycare can be a great way to help get them use to being around other children, and it helps to get them ready for school. Goo luck in whatever you choose!

Ashley - posted on 09/28/2009

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Well, daycare around where I live is very expensive, pretty much it takes your whole paycheck.

I have heard horrible things about daycare from a close friend.

If you do decide to send your sweet boy to daycare, I HIGHLY recommend you do a serious background check on the place, and get some recommendations from friends if possible.

I know some places are reputable, but some are not. My mom used to work for Kindercare (not sure if you have that chain near you), and they seemed to be very good (I visited there quite often).

Not sure if any of that helped you...

Good luck to you! :)

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