Should I stop potty training?

Jaimie - posted on 08/05/2009 ( 26 moms have responded )

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My son just turned two and showed all the signs of being ready to potty train just recently, but as soon as we started he stopped all the signs and is deathly afraid of the potty. Should I wait it out or try again later?

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Sally - posted on 08/08/2009

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I have 2 boys and 1 girl, they have all been different! My eldest boy was by far the easiest and was fully trained by the time he was 2. My youngest boy is 3 in two weeks time and he has been trained now fully for about 3 months. My only advise for you is this... Don't put a pull up on him at all, unless your going out for a long time or bed time. Just put some pants on him and yes he will create alot of washing but its always easier in summer, he can toddle round in just his pants. He will soon understand he gets wet if he does use the potty!! Also with my youngest he much prefered the big boys toilet then the potty so that might help.. Whatever advise you get remember this.. he is your son and you can listen to advise from family and friends or even strangers on here but you have to do what feels right for you!! So good luck xx

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hi my daughter was always afraid of de potty so i never used it i just used de toilet and it worked great !!

Laura - posted on 08/08/2009

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Hi my daughter was really hard to toilet train was 3 when she finally started to use the toilet or potty in the day and she is nealy 4 now still is not dry at night.

Hillary - posted on 08/07/2009

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i wouldnt stop all togeither my son was the same way it toke me and my husband 2 1/2 years we tried everything cheerios and the only thing that really worked was routine we used dipears at night and pull up big boy under wear during the day and had a time period after he drank some thing and right after naps we would try and set on the potty he is four now and he goes with out being asked he just got fully potty trained right after per school was over and it helps to have everyone on board with the whole idea like daddy and babysitter stuff like that cause if your the only one doing it it wont do any good not in less u are a stay at home mom

Tracy - posted on 08/07/2009

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I have 2 boys and they were 4 and 3 before they were potty trained, if he is regressing wait it out! you don't want to scare him away from it. Try letting him watch daddy do it (I am not kidding my oldest learned best when we let him do this) even though it sounds gross. But I wouldn't force the issue my sons didn't want anything to do with it but when they were ready they were potty trained in a WEEK! Good luck!

S. - posted on 08/07/2009

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stick at it,at the end ov the day it's only a bit of mess,my oldest daughter was just over 2 years old and fully potty trained,my youngest is one n half and most day's she run's around bottomless. good luck and at the end of the day do whats best for you and your son.....good luck x

Nicole - posted on 08/07/2009

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I think that you should keep going. my now three year old daughter did the same thing but it turn out okay, you just have to keep at it. Best of luck!

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My son will be four in December and I started last week training him and tadah!! 2 days later and he is trained..boys take soo much longer to learn. By all means if you want to stick with it go ahead but I did the same thing and said forget it. I couldnt deal with the hassle of it. Good luck in whatever you choose!

Laura - posted on 08/07/2009

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I had this same exact poblem with my son... I stopped trying to potty train him all together and waited a little longer to start again.... You dont want to puch it onto him if hes not ready... It could be even harder, if hes not ready then it is of he is all or it.... My son was afraid of the potty too.... I waited a few more months and when he was showing signs again, I took him out and let him pick out a potty... Then I sat him on it with all of his clothes on to show there was nothing to be scared of..... We made up a potty chart and the rest is history.... It took awhile but we finally got there... Just relax and thigs will go the course.... Hell be ready in no time.... Also dont let people tell you when your child should be ready... I had that problem.... Hell know and hell go when hes ready

Kristin - posted on 08/07/2009

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My son was four before he was fully potty trained. I just put him back in pull ups and would get him to try to go to the potty but he just stopped so I gave up. Then one morning he woke up and put on underware and said he was a big boy and he was going to use the potty, only had a few accidents after that. So my advice is they will do it when they are ready in their own time.

Veronica - posted on 08/07/2009

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if i were you i would stick with it.. i have 3 kids 2 girls and a boy and i had them all trained shortly after they were 1... i dont think its up to the child but more up to the parents determination and patiance as to when the child is trained. good luck

Casey - posted on 08/05/2009

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My daughter was almost three when she was toilet trained. I took nappies off her in the day time and nappies were only for nigh nighs. It doesn't confuse them. we went through piles of laundry but in the end it only took a few days and she was going on the toilet. After a couple of months she stopped wetting the nite nappy so we put a plastic sheet on the bed for any accidents and shes only had a couple. just choose a path and stick to it i say, continuity is the key.

Amy - posted on 08/05/2009

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We just got my almost 3yr old boy trained. We went through 6 mini pottys and 3 different big potty inserts. He tried the little potty first (he liked the one that sang every time he peepee'd in it) after a few days of going in the bathroom every time with daddy, he wanted to use the big potty.
My boy was scared, but as soon as he knew he had options (and we kind of backed off a little) he got more comfortable with it.

Amanda - posted on 08/05/2009

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Try talking to him about why he is scared. My son did the same thing and when I asked him why he was so scared he said the "toilet was going to explode again". I was very curious as to what he meant, so after some investigating I found out that he put too much toilet paper in the toilet and it started over flowing - which tramatized him I guess. (poor thing) So if he is honestly afraid of something I believe you should help him resolve the fear and be able to move on. But if his fear is un-founded then just let it go for a while, he'll let you know when he wants to try again.

Jackie - posted on 08/05/2009

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i would wait. does he have a potty or go on the toilet? my son didn't like the potty at all, so i got him a seat to use. he also stopped going when i tried to get him to start, so i just put him in pull ups and now he'll be 3 on the 23rd, he's gone pee a bunch of times but still refuses to poo. you should let hi in the bathroom with you and let him flush, so he can see that it's ok.

Cathy - posted on 08/05/2009

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Lauren's idea I feel is the best, it's how I trained my oldest daughter (haven't started with my youngest yet - she's two on 16th August). I trained both day and night at the same time, and it was all over after two weeks. We still had a couple of accidents now and then, but by the time she was almost 3 it's all good.

I strongly suggest NO NAPPIES FOR SLEEPING... it will just confuse the child about keeping aware of their bodies. You just have to monitor their fluids before bed (such as no drinks at all 2 hours before their bedtime, and if they really want a drink, they can only have a sip). I got this advice from my sister-in-law who has trained 6 children, 3 boys and 3 girls (she said there was no difference between boys and girls for her).

This sister-in-law said something similar to Laura - use training pants, but put them on the potty/toilet every 1/2 hour and make them sit for a little while and tell them to do a wee or poos... chuck an absolute berserker party when they get it right, go and tell everyone in the house etc... when they get it wrong and have an accident - chuck them on the potty/toilet straight away (clothes and all) and say wees/poos go in the potty/toilet in a firm voice (not angry)... you know, just so they see the difference in success and failure.

As for night training, you have to really sleep lightly for a while. My sister-in-law said that most kids wee when they first wake up, and so as soon as you hear them stir in the morning you grab them and put them on the potty/toilet and tell them to do a wee/poo... ladada, eventually they 'get' that you are pretty full on about it, and it's happening all day and all night, and if you're going bananas about when they do it right, they pick it up reeeaaal quick.

User - posted on 08/05/2009

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My son is gonna turn three the end of august. He did the same thing when he was about 2. I stopped trying until he started to show interest again. I just now got him fully potty trained. I put his potty out where he was most during the day and let him run around bottomless and had him sit down on it about every 30 min. Now he likes to climb up onto the "big boy and girl potty".

Deborah - posted on 08/05/2009

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My daughter was potty trained right before she turned 3 and I hae been working with my son who just turned 2 and i put him in 'big boy' underwear and he hass accidents but he still goes to the potty chair and the toilet. He is too short to stand to but he climbs up on it and does it that way but I have found if you back off too much then it's that much harder to actually get it done because they think you'll just give up after awhile and let them continue as they are. But yes make it fun, I sang a song to my daughter my son I put him in the bathtub with a handheld shower head and cold water just the cold spray from it got him to go and after I showed him that was how it worked he started doing it himself. Now we just use diapers at night because that is harder to train on but they will eventually get it. It just takes time on that.

Betty - posted on 08/05/2009

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Try again later. Something might have scared him so just give him some time to forget about it. You started this because you thought he was ready so you should end it because he showed you he isn't really.

Jemma - posted on 08/05/2009

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I'd leave it a little while my son was nearly 3 but it took me a few days, wherever i've started my daughter at 2yrs 3mths and she was good at first but was'nt interested after a few weeks so i left it until now and she's 2yrs 5 months and its going good so far.

Stephanie - posted on 08/05/2009

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I don't know why people say boys are harder because our son trained easily, but then again he is my first and only so maybe i just caught a break this time around. I would go with sarah's idea and put him in underwear. See how he feels about the situation. Maybe he's afraid of having an accident so be as encouraging and excited about pottying as you can.

Lindsay - posted on 08/05/2009

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My son did the same thing. He's going to be 3 next week and is still not fully trained. I would possibly chill out on it a little but keep the potty around so he can check it out if he wants. My son ended up climbing up on the toilet instead and prefers that. He also has a little step stool because he prefers to stand but isn't talk enough yet. We throw cheerios in there and make a game out of it. He tries to sink them! Mine isn't afraid anymore but can't seem to get his timing down right. Mt daughter was fully trained at 2 and obviously he is giving us a little bit of a harder time. Good luck to you! Just remember, it will come one day...

Sarah - posted on 08/05/2009

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With my daughter as soon as she started showing signs i put her in underwear all day and yes she had a couple accidents but that is expected, thats being a mom and lucky for you its summer so just spend a lot of time outside less to clean up!!! GOOD LUCK

Kathryn - posted on 08/05/2009

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They say girls are easier than boys and i have girls so i might not be the best to help but i can try, don't stop completely as he showed signs himself, maybe take the pressure off, suggest going to the toilet and make a big fuss if he just goes and sits on it, then maybe putting a plastic ball in the toilet ball and try to make a game of seeing if he can get the ball (i've seen it on the telly), maybe seeing if he wants some special big boy pants, or reading him a story when he's sat on the toilet/potty then saying he can have another story if he goes to the toilet.Just start with sitting on the potty fully clothed to stop him being afraid , all else fails you can try stickers.Hope it helps

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