Should my ex's gf be allowed to take baths with my son?

Stephanie - posted on 05/24/2012 ( 170 moms have responded )

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I recently found out that my ex's gf is taking baths with my son. My son will be three soon and I find this completely disturbing. What should I do? There was a picture posted of her naked body in the bath with my son. He was sitting on her lap as she covered her boobs while the picture was snapped.HELP!!!!!!!!

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Ashley - posted on 05/24/2012

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OMG go straight to your ex. If he doesn't comply I would go to the court system. This is totally wrong and I would not tolerate it. How you haven't beaten the chicks face in already show's how strong you are. But I'd take immediate action.

Ashley - posted on 05/24/2012

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I would do all the things you've said. And everything else that you've done with your lawyer is the correct way to approach it. Though I think you should also keep your son from going over there til the issue is resolved as well.

Christal - posted on 05/25/2012

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My daughter was 2 when she started to get observant and notice body part when i showered with her. Thats when it stopped. I think when they start to notice is when you stop taking the easy showering method, (kill 2 birds with 1stone). I dont think its right for me to shower with her let alone how you must feel with a stranger. I would go the the proper athourities, whoever that may be, the cops, social services, a lawyer...make sure you bring the picture for proof. Maybe get a restraining order against her, or if you ex doesnt agree to see your son without her being there, then make him get supervised visitation. There should and has to be something you can do to stop this. (i say this nicely but if i was in your shoes i wouldve gone to her house dragged her out by her hair and beat her a$$.) just sayin.

Tiffiny - posted on 05/24/2012

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oh hell no.... beat her ass..... and say she is not allowed around your son at all..... that that is abuse..... get a restraining order against her that she cannot come within so many feet of your child and that when your child is with your ex she cannot be there at all

User - posted on 05/25/2012

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I think you must have had a misunderstanding with DHS, you need to 1st let your ex know (without acting emotionally) that you feel it is inappropriate and if it does not stop immediately you will file a complaint with child services. If you find out it is continuing you need to go file a complaint, not aska question, if you file the complaint it will be investigated and she should be told to cease immediately at very least.

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Xaviera - posted on 09/17/2012

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I think ur ex is doing most of this stuff out of spite. But you can over turn a court order if ur persistent

Stephanie - posted on 09/15/2012

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Just so everyone knows she is now apparently not dating my ex and she was charged with an aggravated misdemeanor for her class c felony instead. She is on probation for two years now. smh.

User - posted on 07/31/2012

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I would never think that's okay... Maybe sitting outside the bath but in it. That's weird why would she even think that's okay.

Katie - posted on 07/31/2012

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UM. COMPLETELY INAPPROPRIATE.....
i don't tolerate that, and neither should you.
Children get taken advantage of everyday...its the scary truth. being naked next to a grown woman in a bath tub?? You should ask the DHS worker what she would do if it were a little girl with a grown man in the bath tub naked, it really is the same thing...
If your ex doesn't cross this chick out of the picture, i'd go for full custody of your son. "bad judgement," is an understatement. That's quite disturbing. I don't even take baths with my children... if someone else did, I would lose it. Bring out the mama bear and step up-- your son depends on you.

Tina - posted on 07/27/2012

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Lol I think you'd know if he picked it up from you. Your ex sounds like a jerk. Guess that's why he's an ex.

Tracey - posted on 07/26/2012

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sorry but she should not be in the bath with him naked and have a photo taken let alone posted on line. This is not legal or right.

Stephanie - posted on 07/23/2012

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yeah... I was just thinking it could be possible since she does work in a nursing home where this is common.... I brought up the possibility to his dad and he replied with "he could have got it from you if you house is dirty which it probably is the reason since he is with you more!" HA! right... because you have been to my house... NEVER....... idiot.

Tina - posted on 07/22/2012

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I'd be taking doctors records with you to court. Keeping a diary showing any evidence possible. Keeping a diary. I swear if some dumb woman tried to rationalize this you're seriously f**cked up and shouldn't have kids. Mona the reason boys have issues with woman is because people these days aren't taught rules and respect for woman. Not because they're a mother doesn't want her son bathing with a strange woman. Now as a result this child has a serious infection.



I really feel for you Stephanie. This is pretty serious. Good chance he got this from bathing with this woman. Pretty sick woman.

Aracely - posted on 07/22/2012

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Oh my goodness! I hope he's ok! and I hope that when you go to court something is done!

Stephanie - posted on 07/22/2012

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My lawyers still say that there is nothing I can do but they did say that it is definitely something that will be coming to court with us in the end of August... Btw... the infection my son had on his bottom turned out to be MRSA.... which is a resilient staph infection.......

Aracely - posted on 07/21/2012

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WOW!! being that im in your situation as in i'm not with my son's dad...I would have FLIPPED OUT!! That is NOT OK! What it comes down to is what if that were a 3yr old little girl with a 20 yr old naked man??? and side note: i feel bad for Mona's kids because something 'major' has to happen for her to react!...you need to take that to child services and tell them your concerns. It shouldn't have to get that far for it to be stopped. and if they don't do anything keep going. talk to the police if you have to! keep us updated on what happens..

Jackie - posted on 07/16/2012

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i wouldnt like to be in ur shoes i would have beat the bitch!! i dont take baths with my 3YO son manily cos he splashes me to much and i sure wouldnt post photo's of us in the bath! and when my daughter is older she wont be having bath with my husband cos i dont think its right and we are their parents!

Tina - posted on 07/12/2012

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I don't even post rude pictures of my own kids. I have taken pictures of them in the bath as you do as a parent they're memories but those type of pictures aren't for public viewing. Whether it was meant to be innocent or not. It's not appropriate.

Blossom - posted on 07/12/2012

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If the situation was reversed and it was a naked man in the tub with your child you would have probably already called the police and social services. Get your son out of that house and call the authorities for help. It may have been innocent (some moms bath with their children) but she is not the childs mother, they took a picture and you don't know what else happened. Put your foot down and don't let your ex's poor judgment rub off on you!

Tina - posted on 07/09/2012

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I couldn't agree with you more Amie. That's exactly what i've told others where my kids are concerned.

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I couldn't agree more with what people are saying! This is really wrong and hopefully she gets in trouble with this.

Amie - posted on 07/09/2012

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If I were you and I found this out at the age of your son 3 years. I'd start teaching your son that its gross and to say no to strange people. I am not letting my son stay the night at his dads until my son can speak and tell me if anyone is doing harm or wrong to him.

Jennifer - posted on 07/09/2012

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Wow Mona. I can't believe someone wouldn't have a problem with this. That is why so many things happen to children cause ppl turn away and pretend everything is ok. It is not ok for a gf to take a bath naked with someone else's child. Especially of the opposite sex. Stephanie I feel for you. I am a mother of three with one on the way and I have a huge problem . I think it's sad that you have to go through something like this anyway. Your being the good mom and your ex is blowing caution to the wind and thinking of only himself instead of his child. I can guarantee my husband would have a problem with this.I wish you and your son the best and I hope the outcome is in your favor. I also feel that you can never go overboard with your children. If you don't stand up for them who will. I may be overprotective so etimes with mine but I know that if something happens its not because I was being careless and turning the other cheek.

Tina - posted on 07/07/2012

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I hate it when people try to rationalize something that's clearly wrong. It's like when a young girl gets abused and they blame her for it. Maybe she lead the man on. There's some seriously sick and twisted people in the world. In the more reasons mummy's have to be so protective and not take anything lightly when it comes to their children. I trust no one anymore.

Christine - posted on 07/07/2012

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you should tell her how you are feeling, if she really cares about you and your son then she will respect your wishes.

Chelsea Ann - posted on 07/06/2012

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omgoodness ide have a heartattack and i would go after that girl (not crazy like) no way should another woman be naked in the bath tub with your son and your ex should have more respect for you than that and if he doesnt ide make up some guide lines before ur son went back aaahhhhh ide go nutz sorry and tell her to never ever do that again again sorry thats a touchy subject for me :)

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uh no. i don't think it should be allowed. They are the opposite sex for one. Two he's old enough to be curious. I recently had to stop showering with my 2.5yr old because she started trying to see what my business was all about. Third, he didn't come out of her! I know to some people will say step moms are equivalent to a mother, but the hormones she gives off are different than your own mothers. She can arouse him sexually and stir up other feelings, a mother gives off different pheromones when it comes to her children, the chance of sexual arousal are less.

Sam - posted on 07/05/2012

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Oh my gosh Stephanie, your ex's gf should defo not be taking baths with your son !!! That's wrong and I be your ex wouldn't be best please if you're bf ( as an example ) took a bath with your son. The fact she's is facing a class C felony for willful injury and a serious misdemeanor for assault would make me very wary about having her anywhere near my son. Can't say I blame you for freaking about and wanting to bring your little guy to the doctors..I'd be the same. Sam xx

Tina - posted on 07/05/2012

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@Mona McQuade so is it ok for a man to bath with his nearly 3 year old daughter with her sitting in his lap covering his privates and being photographed? My son is nearly 2 and yeah for sure he's seen me naked. But I atleast try to be discreat. I can't help that he follows me everywhere that's normal. He knows I'm different from him. But I also feel it's important that kids learn that they're entitled to some sort of privacy. By all means the step mother can be in the same room as the boy. Someone has to be but there's no reason for her to take off her clothes and get in the bath with him. I don't bath with my son or my 1 year old daughter. They're much more curious and aware of things at this age. And completely inappropriate to be bathing with a stepson of this age let alone photgraphing it. I'd certainly be giving the ex and his girlfriend a talk and if it doesn't get resolved taking it further. The boy is nearly 3 and perfectly capable of sitting up in a bath on his own. If it was an infant that had no control and it made it a little bit easier bathing him it might be a different matter. But this is a boy who is like a sponge.

Lauren - posted on 07/05/2012

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this to me is a big NO NO..
especially with nothing on.... my dad (grandfather) wheres swimming shorts when he gets a bath wth my kids so an exs gf defo should be covered with something...
talk 2 ur ex and if that doesnt go well then the courts etc

Stephanie - posted on 07/05/2012

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Mona, that's not the point. I'm not afraid he has seen her boobs. It is because she is taking baths naked with my 3 year old son. Trust me, he sees me naked all the time. You are just a psycho.

Mona - posted on 07/04/2012

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I can't believe all you stuck up mothers~!! its because of people like you that boys have issues with females as they grown up!! OMG he's seen her boobs omg omg omg omg call the cops the navy and USAF

Please be real and focus on whats real not your fears

Angela - posted on 07/02/2012

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i would stop him going to see his dad hun. she should not be doing that at all

Samantha - posted on 06/30/2012

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what about your sons infection in his bottom? did u ask the doctor if its POSSIBLE that he could have got it from being in the bath water sitting with his bare bum on this girls vagina??? get a letter from the doctor if he says its possible n bring to lawyer or police??? your ex is a DICKHEAD hes just enjoying lookin at her naked!! i bet your son didnt just randomly ask to get in to the bath i bet he was encouraged

Samantha - posted on 06/30/2012

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you didnt say anything bad on here, y dont u print this out and give it to them and say if u think im being stupid, well this is what others have to say.....
would anyone here mind if she done that??? what do yous all think of that idea?? keep us posted of what happens please whatever u do. i think i know the type.. my ex's brothers girlfriend is very over powering and does things that are totally in-appropiate like stripping infront of my then boyfriend, bending over, sitting on his lap and rubbing him, but shes weird with everyone, and even if my newborn is screaming she takes the child from me without asking and takes over, she went in when granny was changing her colostomy bag n then told evryone that she done it for granny... oh she would DEFO be the type to do somethin weird like your situation... and if anyone dare say anything she would just open her big mouth n start a fight n say she will get them bet up. but these people have issues and at 6 years old anyway boys get erections so how would she deal with that in the bath...
she should at LEAST wear a bikini. what if she has a STD

Holli - posted on 06/29/2012

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This should not be taken lightly just because if their genders! If it was a boyfriend taking a bath with his gfs three year old daughter it would addressed immediately!

Emma - posted on 06/28/2012

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oh my goodness! that sounds like a horrible situation. I hope that you have gotten the justice you and your son deserve.

Tia - posted on 06/26/2012

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File a temporary restraining order against them for the safety of your child. Until you've seen a doctor and find out if anything has happened to him then I think thats the best way to go about it. A 3 yr old boy shouldnt be in a bath with a woman because the body parts are different. And not to mention she is not his mother. I know I stopped undressing in front of my own child when he turned two and knew I didnt look the same. I hope all goes well with this and that nothing has happened to your child. I really recommend a TRO and/or supervised visits til things clear out.

Kayla - posted on 06/25/2012

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Totally wrong I dont even take baths with my own four year old daughter. At that age they like to ask questions and are learning new things and she has no right to your son. Your the parent lay down the rules and if they cant obey thats all.

Laura - posted on 06/25/2012

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without your permission...this cannot be.!..the question is NOT about a parent or parents taking baths with.their kids, that is a horse of a different color,...but THIS is someone who does NOT have YOUR PERMISSION !....

Danielle - posted on 06/24/2012

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OMG I don't know what you can legally do so I would talk to a lawyer. If I were you I would do everything in my power to make sure she was never in the same room with him again!

Ron - posted on 06/24/2012

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And of course your right, at 3 he is fully capable of bathing by himself too.I'm a Dad I apologize, I was dead wrong on that one lol.

Ron - posted on 06/24/2012

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Actually, I have changed my mind after some thought on the subject. She is in fact not his Stepmother but just a Girlfriend. And, if your not ok with it, then your not ok with it and your husband should listen.

Stephanie - posted on 06/24/2012

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The fact that he is three is the problem.. Three year olds don't need an adult in the bath tub with them.... especially not someone that isn't their parent. Are you a mom ron?

Star - posted on 06/23/2012

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I would say arrested for indecent exposure to a minor or exploitation of a child; since they posted a nude picture, where obviously people would see it (which most sites say are not allowed)

Shanay - posted on 06/23/2012

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my son is 5weeks old and I personally can tell you I would be in jail. That b*tch would've been in the hospital. And dad would be too then after Igot out of jail and went to court for attempted murder jk I would be going through the necessary precautions to have his rights takeaway. Your doing it the smart way which is good fir your son. Good bless you I am so proud of you.

Erica - posted on 06/23/2012

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YOU are the mom, YOU are in control! NEVER forget that! If you don't feel as your son is SAFE going over there, you do NOT have to send him there, court order or not!! chances are if he doesn't care about his sons welfare he won't take you to court to fight for his vistations. That is NOTTTTTTTTT right for her to take a bath with YOUR child, its disgusting!!! She should be ashamed of herself she is NOT his mother!!..If he does try to fight for his vistations, you can simply explain why in court! If you have that picture I'm sure any judge will see it your way! and the fact she has charges pending, get a restraining order ASAP!!!

Ashley - posted on 06/23/2012

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NO!!!! Let your ex know, this is completely unacceptable (although, i would def use some choice words) and get it in his head that youll have her arrested for idk, endangering the welfare of a child, at the least. Thats disgusting!!

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