sibling fights

Mayssa - posted on 05/24/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 4yr old son keeps hitting my 3yr old daughter, i tried everything, naughty chair, threatning, bribing,screaming, even the silent treatment!!!! he laughs, say sorry, knows why its wrong after i explain, appolagise, AND DO IT AGAIN! WHAT SHOULD I DO? its getting to me and upsetting me.

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Mayssa - posted on 06/18/2009

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Dear Becki and abby,

Thanks for replying, actually when I tried spanking him once (on the bum with an open hand) it hurt him emotionally more than phisically, but he kept on doing it again, I now use a point system, where instead of of explaining over and over againwhy was what he's doing wrong, I say everyday: whom ever gets 5 points today will get to use the paint brush for half an hour, or will be my little helper in making cupcakes, or will come with mommy to the supermarket, through out the day I try to catch them doing things right: so I'll say:GOOD! one point for salman for sharing his toys with dana, or wow, 1 point for each for staying far away from the TV, and the same thing goes for being naughty: one point off for hitting your sister, too bad, u had 4 points, u were so close, now u only have 3! so he quicly appolagises so he gets a point for that, THANK GOD something worked!! hehe, now they get 5 good points sooo fast that I had to make them 10 for really good stuff, like 10 points for a visit to the water park.

Abby - posted on 05/24/2009

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"spanking" is a difficult one, you're telling a child not to hit his sister and then ur gonna slap him on the bum, in a kiddies eyes that's the same thing. im not against a tap on the bum or hand but it's a difficult one when it comes down to hitting!

Becki - posted on 05/24/2009

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i am someone who beleives there are times in life when spankings are in order. this sounds like one of those times. you have tried everything else in the book and are not getting results. it seems the best thing to do now is show him how getting hit feels. do NOT beat him, just a swat on the butt (not a bare butt and only use an open hand).

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