Sleep Issues... (Only Good Comments, Please)

Vickie - posted on 03/20/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )




I have a 4 month old daughter, who means the whole world to me... only one thing, she has slept with myself and my boyfriend since the day we brought her home, for our own personal reasons. But now, we are moving to a new apartment and I would love to get her to sleep in her crib. I have tried the Cry It Out method, and either, I am doing it wrong, or else it just won't work for us. It honestly breaks my heart to hear her cry. But I need to get sleep, I am exhausted! The only way that she will sleep is cradled in my arm, or lying on my chest. She won't even sleep with anyone else this way. She is, however, sleeping through the night already... unless I place her in her crib, or move her in a way that she is no longer sleeping with me... (I have resorted some nights to laying quilts on the floor, just so I can attempt to sleep, it works for about 10 minutes... and then she wakes up.) I love her to death, but I am going to go nuts if I don't get a good nights sleep. If you have any suggestions on how to make the transition to the crib easier on our family, please, PLEASE let us know.

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Danielle - posted on 03/22/2010




Okay I had this problem with my son but he was about a month old when we transitioned him from our bed to the crib so I'm not sure if my suggestion will help but I will tell you what we did anyways.

Firstly, you must be consistent. Which means being very tired for you for a few days. The first few nights I put my son in his crib when he was completely asleep. He woke up about a half hour later. Again I got him back to sleep and then put him in his crib. I kept doing this every time he woke up. After a few days, he'd stay asleep in his crib after I put him down (other than to wake up for feedings of course). So I then began to put him to sleep drowsy but still awake. After about 5 minutes he's start to cry so I'd comfort him and then put him back drowsy but awake. This continued another few nights until he eventually just drifted off to sleep in his crib. It was a long week and a half or so because I had to get up with him continually but it was the best thing for us because he's been going to bed in his crib for many months now. I don't even put him to bed drowsy anymore. I can put him to bed awake at nap time and he doesn't fight me at all and he goes right to sleep. I hope this works for you! What I cannot stress to you enough is how important it is to be consistent in situations like these. Going back and forth will just confuse her further. One final point, the crib was in our room for a few months.

Stephanie - posted on 03/22/2010




Maybe you can get one of those light show things that attach to the side of the crib. Our son really loved watching the lights move and it played sounds too. We had another one too that looked like fish constantly swimming around. Maybe your daughter would like that. A problem that we had with our son too was that we had him sleeping on his back when all he really wanted was to sleep on his stomach. Good luck!

Rachelle - posted on 03/22/2010




the cry it out method is not for every one it worked for us but she only cried for 3 minutes if that. it might help to sleep with one of her blankets just to get your sent on it then cradle her in it also try looking in to something like a sleep sheep or slumber bear (it plays white noise or you can set it to a heart beat to) i just downloaded and burnt a cd then use a cheap cd radio that way she doesnt feel like shes alone

Valerie - posted on 03/21/2010




work her into her bed slowly...put one of your tops in bed with that smells like you...yep a worn one. this might comfort her a bit...rock her to sleep. put her in her bed....when she wakes up do the same in the dark, no talking...matter of fact...she will catch on...sleep deprivation is unfortunately a part of mothering, ugh...please dont leave her to cry as this leads to problems of attachment and bonding...your instincts are right to not feel good about it...don't make the mistake of trying to keep her up so that she will sleep actually works the opposite way...and naps during the day are necessary and good and don't take away from night sleep...all the best

Sarah - posted on 03/20/2010




My daughter would sleep in the bed with me and my husband for the first two months, which was what i wanted, i felt like she was so safe there right next to me.. But after that i figured out that it couldn't last forever,and finally had to start putting her in her own bed....So what i did was put in her in crib right next our bed then after a couple of weeks of that then try to put her in her crib in her room.....

Danielle - posted on 03/20/2010




I used to be the same way!! I swore I was doing it wrong or maybe it was not for my daughter. One day I was home alone and was so exhausted and I placed her in her crib not for bed but to do some things around the house and I went back in a couple minutes and she was fast asleep! Ever since then whenever she would get tired I just placed her in the crib and she would put herself to sleep. I was very luck and only a few times she would really cry but it would only last 10-15 minutes and then she would go sleep. Her crib is in my room but I always wait until she is asleep until I go to bed so she would get used sleep to falling asleep on her own. I know how heartbreaking it can be to listen to our babies cry but like mentioned in earlier replies, as long as she fed changed and all her needs are met she is just crying to be held. Try to break the habit while she is still young. My daughter was the same way would only sleep in my arms or my chest. Now she puts her self to bed for naps and when she goes down for the night. Hope this helps! Good luck!

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really she is crying because she is testing you. she wants to see how long until you cave. once she realizes you wont pay her attention for screaming such as going in and giving into what she wants she will realize that shes to sleep in her own crib. its hard to let them scream but eventually when they realize you will ignore it it gets better. also we put an led nightlight in her room by her crib so she can look at it, we let her sleep with her doll and she has a mobile. the best thing you can do is dont cave in to her. she will know she can get by with screaming and get what she wants. good luck!

Kimberly - posted on 03/20/2010




You poor thing-you must be tired :( However, you sound like such a good mom! :) Somehow, she needs to learn that her crib is a good, safe place to be...just wondering if you lay her in her crib to sleep during the day?? My daughter pretty much slept right next to me or on my chest (which becomes very sweaty and gross when they lay on it for awhile!) for the first 6 wks, mostly because I would fall asleep feeding her! However the cry it out method did work for me (although many disagree with this method)... hang in there... it won't last forever! :o)

Sheree - posted on 03/20/2010




I had a similar problem, when we moved house my daughter hated her new room, before that she would sleep in her room all night every night. But in the new house she ended up in bed with us so we could all get some sleep. I read another lady's post on here and did it and it has worked wonders for us.
She said to put the cot in your room, right next to your bed with the side that is removable (removed) and up against you bed so they still feel like they are in bed with you. this way you an reach over and comfort her when ever she needs you through the night, but you have your bed back as a start. once she is used to is, put the other side back on, again when she is used to seeing that, move her to the foot of your bed, and slowly into her own room. It has worked really well for us. best of luck and i hope you find something that works :)

Alex - posted on 03/20/2010




Have you tried laying body pillows or something more plush. Maybe something that smells a lot like you. Oh and my mom got me this bear that makes womb sounds. It's kind of like a faint heartbeat type noise. That might help.

Kendra - posted on 03/20/2010




one thing that you can try is to put the crib in the room with you. although she is not in her room yet, she still gets to be close to you and you can transition her slowly to her own room. i had a similar problem like that. my twins stayed in the same room as me for almost 2 years and when we finally moved so that they could just share a room and not the three of us, they had a hard time, but it's all about how you transition and being consistent. once you start with one thing you have to stick to it. if you change she is going to know that id she does something you are going to change to make her happy. yes you want her happy, but you also have to keep in mind that you KNOW what is best for her and stick to it. and you have to just keep your head up and be ready for the crying. that you just have to get through. you know that she is not hurt. i am sure you can tell the difference between her cries. as long as it's not the hurt, hungry, or need a change cry, she is good.

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