Sleep training not working!!

Melanie - posted on 08/26/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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has anyone tryed sleep training their baby ( 6mths) and it just isnt working. Ive tried and all my son wants to do to go to sleep is nurse or take a walk.other wise he will cry and cry. has this hapened to someone else. My son is almost 7 mths old and i am the only one who can put him to sleep. it kinda makes it hard to do any thing with out him.

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Nadine - posted on 08/26/2009

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I have been lucky my daughter was in the hospital for the first month and so when I brought her home for 2 weeks she made me and only me hold her for 2 weeks straight. At first I was fine with it bu then got old when I couldnt even eat or clean or take a shower unless my husband was home then only had about 15 minutes before she would start screaming. Then she just decided that she wanted in bed. We found she only takes a pacifier when shes going to sleep and she will only sleep on her stomach so when she gets tired I put her on my chest and rock and pat her back for only a few minutes then lay her down on her stomach but her pacifier in her mouth and walk away if she gets a little fussy i will pat her back after shes down but then shes good and since she sleeps on her stomach anyone can put her down she cant see them

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Melanie - posted on 08/26/2009

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Its not just for me but also for him in the long run the transition he will have to go threw when i go back to work will be much harder then it has to be.Its not that i want him to cry himself to sleep its that i want to stop BREASTFEEDING him to sleep. i try to rock him hold him walk around the house but the only thing he wants are my boobs lol. Which has kept me pretty isolated no driking no date nights with my hausband no special outings alone with my daughter because i need to be with my son ALL the time bc he needs me to sleep.

dont get me wrong i love him with all my heart but i would like a solution to this problem.Everyone is scared to babysit bc they know that if im not there they cant put my baby to sleep.






Quoting Sara:

There are advantages to letting your children cry it out...everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

Every baby is different, but I don't think you can really judge whether or not the sleep training has worked by just one night. It can take weeks...





There may be advantages to you (the collective "you," here), but certainly not to your child.






Here's the Reader's Digest version:






"A recent Harvard study shows that children who are left to cry themselves to Parenting philosophy. Mothers will find it is much closer to what their natural instincts tell them."






http://www.associatedcontent.com/article...






Again, I strongly encourage you to do your own research on the topic before subjecting your child to a night screaming alone.





 

Melanie - posted on 08/26/2009

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thx everyone for yr comments... i think i will hold off on the sleep training for a while just because it doesnt seem to work for him.i was just wondering if for some mothers it didnt work at all i know its not supose to work right away but m baby stayed awake for over 6 hrs when he usualy naps every 2 and half hours.he would not go to sleep until i bf him. ill tuff it out for a bit longer but he will have to change his habits when i go back to work:) hopefely

Robbyn - posted on 08/26/2009

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Quoting Sara:

There are advantages to letting your children cry it out...everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

Every baby is different, but I don't think you can really judge whether or not the sleep training has worked by just one night. It can take weeks...


There may be advantages to you (the collective "you," here), but certainly not to your child.



Here's the Reader's Digest version:



"A recent Harvard study shows that children who are left to cry themselves to Parenting philosophy. Mothers will find it is much closer to what their natural instincts tell them."



http://www.associatedcontent.com/article...



Again, I strongly encourage you to do your own research on the topic before subjecting your child to a night screaming alone.

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Sara is right... it will not be an overnight miracle. When I was trying to get my daughter to sleep through the night, I would give her a bottle and then cuddle a little while but would put her into her crib before she was asleep then just leave her alone. She would cry sometimes and it would break my heart, but she would usually fall asleep within ten minutes. The hardest part is just leaving them there to cry. Some people can't do it, but you just have to remember that in the morning, they will still love you.

Sara - posted on 08/26/2009

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There are advantages to letting your children cry it out...everyone is entitled to their own opinion.



Every baby is different, but I don't think you can really judge whether or not the sleep training has worked by just one night. It can take weeks...

Robbyn - posted on 08/26/2009

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Ugh. Please do your baby a favor and skip "sleep training." Allowing your child to cry it out doesn't teach him anything besides that his cries don't get him anything. Sure, it "works," but at what cost? He's simply not old enough to understand what you want. I strongly encourage you to do a little research of the disadvantages of crying it out.

Nealey - posted on 08/26/2009

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my daughter is almost 7 months n shes just started sleeping from 7-7 with no feeds!! it took a while to get there but u just have 2 be strong. at first she cried n cried n still does sometimes for the first 10 mins but then shes sleeping soundly! try limiting the amount of times u go in cos if they see u going in and out constantly they know there cryings getting them somewhere! it will be tough 4 afew weeks but then well well worth it!! good luck :-) just remember they have 2 get tired, they cant cry 4ever!

Samantha - posted on 08/26/2009

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You can't be afraid to let them cry so that they learn their lesson. It may sound mean, but it's true. I had to learn that before even having kids myself. My parents had their bedroom downstairs and decided to move my brother's crib upstairs by my room when he was about a year old. So, I got roped into waking up in the middle of the night to take care of him. Once he woke up, he wouldn't go to sleep unless he was sleeping next to me w/my radio on. I was in school so I needed to get my sleep so I would just give in and let him get away w/it even though it started to get worse and he would refuse to sleep in his crib all together or take naps during the day because i was gone at school. Finally I got myself some ear plugs and turned on my radio and let him cry until he realized I wasn't giving in anymore. It took quite a while too and I was starting to feel like it was hopeless but trust me, it takes a lot of energy to cry and they start to realize it's just easier to fall asleep on their own.

Veronica - posted on 08/26/2009

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This sounds mean to most, but I had to tough thru it and now my son goes to bed by himself and doesn't want anyone with him. We have had the same routine since he started sleeping thru the nite at 6 weeks old (he is now 2 years). At about 1 hour before bed time we sit either in the rocker or recliner and read a story while he drinks his last glass of milk. We sit and snuggle in the chair for that hour. At bed time, I put him in his bed, turn on what he calls his "sweet dream music", turn out the light, and close the door. The first week we did this it was horrible, my husband practically had to tie me to the couch because I just wanted to go and comfort him from crying. But after the first week Dylan became very used to this routine and now as I said, he has a hard time sleeping any other way. This also solved the problem of anyone else putting him to bed because as long as he had his routine he was good. Now he tells his grandma the routine when he stays there too, LOL.

Melanie - posted on 08/26/2009

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lol thx but he doesnt take a bottle he never wanted one he cried until i came home or nursed so ive given up on the bottle. i tryed for one day sleep training and at 1 in the afternoon i gave up coz he still wasnt asleep. i didnt let him cry the hole time i feed him and comforted him played with to calm him. i didnt sleep train my daughter until she was 1 yr old but she was easy to put to sleep.

Jennifer - posted on 08/26/2009

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My daughter is 3 months almost. She is pretty well sleep trained, but mostly thanks to her. She is a good sleeper. She will be put down by only me (usually) sometimes by her dad.. Have you tried to keep your son awake as long as possible-- like deny him an afternoon nap? That's what we did with our little girl. She was fussy of course because she was soooo tired but by the time we put her down she fell right to sleep. We also have a very consistant night schedule with her. She sleeps from 10-11pm until about 9am, then she has a morning/afternoon nap around 11am or 12noon to about 2pm.. then she USUALLY won't have an afternoon/evening nap until 6 or 7 (and we feed her right before this nap if she even takes it). She sleeps for about an hour and then we wake her up. Then about 9 has "bathtime" with warm water. We put her in her PJs, let her play on her playmat for about 30 minutes or so.. feed her a bottle. She gets a little fussy about 10 and she's usually alseep by 10:30- 11:30 depending on how long her afternoon nap was. I try to limit it because she will be awake forever if I don't. I don't know if any of that helps at all? Try having someone come over to help on a constant basis if you know anyone you trust so that if you have something to do they know them and it's not just a random person. A CONSTNAT schedule is what we tried and it worked-- but we aren't constant on anything else like feedings. We pretty much do everything else however she tells us she wants it done & that has relieved a lot of stress from us. I hope this helped!

Katy - posted on 08/26/2009

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I done sleep training with my first born, it is hard but stick with it. For quite a while he cried and cried, to the point where i was in tears because i hated seeing him so upset. After a few months he soon clocked on that this was the way it was going to be but before that he cried himself to sleep. All you can do is go in and tell him everything is ok and it is bedtime, the second time you go in just say it is bedtime, if he still isnt asleep the third time dont say anything just tuck him in and walk out of the room, keep doing this until he goes to sleep. It may be that he is a bit young to be sleep training, i didnt do this until my son was around 8 months and now i allow him to have a bottle of milk before bed as it was difficult sticking to the routine of sleep training, it isnt the end of the world if you decide to give him a bottle for bed. I hope you manage to acheive this soon

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