sleeping in moms been

Betsy - posted on 04/10/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My son is two and still sleeping in my bed it makes it really hard on my relationship. I am 21 and living with my mom so we share a room but i have to lay with him to get him to sleep. Any advice on how to break this habit?

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Casey - posted on 04/11/2009

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I read a terrible story once about a woman who always slept with her child one day they both caught colds so she gave him some cold medication and took some herself and they both went to bed, but during the night in her deep sleep she rolled particially on top of the child and suffercated him, she didn't even realise what had happened untill she felt her childs cold body against her in the morning, she had killed him in her sleep and didn't even know. It is so dangerous to sleep with young children and babies you should really try to stop this bad habbit asap, give your child a nice toy and something that smells like you and let them know that you will always be there when they wake up, even try playing some nice lullaby music to help relax him, it is going to be so hard but try and stay calm because he is going to stress out and if he sees that you are stressed out too it will just make him worse. Goodluck with everything.

Claire - posted on 04/10/2009

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Quoting Angela:

I know from experience, if you don't stop it now, it WILL continue. My son just turned 4 and I finally just broke the habit of it. I don't know if you have ever watched Supernanny or not, but I tried her method. I waited outside in the hallway and every time he came out of his room, I silently and calmly picked him up and took him back to bed. The first night was the worst and longest, the second and third nights were better and by the 4th and 5th nights, he was used to it. It seems a little harsh, but seriously, it's best for the child.


I TOTALLY AGREE.  I saw a few of the many Supernanny episodes that involved children who weren't used to sleeping on their own, and in their own beds.  Just like ANY bad habit, it's better to have nipped it in the bud.  My daughter has only slept with my husband when I'm not there for the night, but only because he is deaf, and wouldn't hear her when she would wake up.  This happens for one night, every 2 weeks.  I fully intend to buy a special device that will shake our bed when she'd make noise asap, so that we don't have to have her sleep with him anymore.

Angela - posted on 04/10/2009

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I know from experience, if you don't stop it now, it WILL continue. My son just turned 4 and I finally just broke the habit of it. I don't know if you have ever watched Supernanny or not, but I tried her method. I waited outside in the hallway and every time he came out of his room, I silently and calmly picked him up and took him back to bed. The first night was the worst and longest, the second and third nights were better and by the 4th and 5th nights, he was used to it. It seems a little harsh, but seriously, it's best for the child.

Sara - posted on 04/10/2009

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try using a one sided cot (if you have space) and put it adjoning your bed lie down with him but move him into the cot once sleeping he will eventually get used to being in the cot and then you can move him away from yor bed hope it helps xx

Katie - posted on 04/10/2009

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give him a shirt or nightgown that youve slept in... the warmth from it mixed with your smell will help to calm his nerves. this will also lessn the time you have to lay with him, eventually weaning down to not at all. good luck, this is a hard age, but the sooner he gets used to it the better for both of you!

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