Sleeping in Own Room at 3months.

Briana - posted on 04/10/2010 ( 109 moms have responded )

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I have a almost 3month old baby boy. Is it to early for him to sleep in his own room? I feel it's a little early, but my husband says know. Our son wakes up around 3-4AM, then has a hard time going back to sleep and sometimes he is fussy; and my husband can't stand it. So, he wants to move him into his room??



So, Should I try it and see how it works or wait??? Need suggestions..

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Nicole - posted on 04/14/2010

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Get him some ear plugs. LOL This is what my husband did and now our baby doesn't even disturb his sleeping when he wakes to eat or fuss. This way, I am able to keep him in the room with us or in our bed and that makes it easier on me and still allows my husband to get sleep. Anyway. That's what is working for us right now. Don't know if it will work for you. Either way, as a mother of 4, I can tell you that just because you put a baby in their own room, it doesn't change their sleep patterns. I'm really not advocating for either arrangement (rooming-in or sleeping in their own room) because you should do what is best for both you AND the baby, but if he is in another room, he is still going to sleep in the same pattern (if not get worse due to the sudden change) and then that is more up and down for you in the middle of the night. Good luck and do what you feel is best. If you decide to put your baby in his own room, just remember to avoid "cry it out". Studies have shown that it causes extreme stress to small infants.



I hope everything gets better soon!

Cat - posted on 04/14/2010

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We co-sleep with our daughter...and she is a year old! The World Health Organisation now officially recommends sleeping in the same room as your infant for the first year. We share a bed because it makes night breastfeeding so much easier...your breasts produce more milk at night so I wouldn't get any sleep otherwise! There is absolutely nothing wrong with co-sleeping - in fact 90% of the world co-sleep with their children. It's only western society that seems to have a real problem with it!
You have to do whatever makes YOU happy. Enjoy motherhood! x

Elizabeth - posted on 04/10/2010

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Sounds like your husband is just being selfish. Your son gets fussy or has trouble falling back to sleep and he doesn't want to see/hear/deal with it but your suposed to?
If YOU think your son is ready and it would be good for him then move him to his own room. There are babies who sleep in their own room from day one and do great, other need to be closer to there moms. Obviously both you and your husband need sleep and time together but just make sure your not short changing you son because daddy wants his beauty sleep.

Jessika - posted on 04/14/2010

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My son was 2 months old when we moved him to his room. Dad wasn't ready yet but I was ready to gain my space and my room back (didn't help that I kept hitting my toes on his basinette) He was fine. I was always more afraid then anything else that something was going on so I got up and checked on him but all went well with the transition! Good luck!

Christine - posted on 04/14/2010

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My son has been sleeping in his own room since the day he came home from the hospital. So I don't think its too early. The earlier you put him in there, the better. If you wait too long it may take him longer to adjust. You may worry about him at first but you will get used to it.

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Candice - posted on 04/14/2010

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My son was in his cot since birth - so about 3-4 days old. We have a monitor beside his cot and at first had to have the parent monitor going in our room all through the night as we were paranoid something may happen to him. Then found we were losing sleep because we would listen to it all night and could hear him anyway as our rooms are just across from each other. Only when we have very hot weather a few nights in a row did he sleep in our room in his cot as we had a fan in there. He sleeps in his cot every night, and sometimes in the day and we've had no trouble with him at all being by himself which is great for us. He loves being in there, especially watching his projector on the ceiling when going to bed.

Nikki - posted on 04/14/2010

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My son slept in his crib in his own room at 5 weeks. He would grunt and make noises all night. At 5 weeks we couldn't take it anymore so we put him in his own room with white noise and just put the monitor on. We slept way better.

Chesnie - posted on 04/14/2010

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hi, my baby was a week old when we moved her into her own room. We tried the sleep monitor but after the first night we could hear her cries across the house so we didnt need the monitor after all. Every little whimper and noise she made in her sleep woke me up, so when we moved her into her own room I got lots more sleep. She has been fine ever since. She is 10 months old now! It will be easier than you think!

Jonna - posted on 04/14/2010

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My daughter slept in her own room from the day we brought he home from the hospital. She started sleeping through the night at 8 weeks old and has been a very independent and secure child ever since (she is 4 years old now). I am pregnant with my fourth and all of my kids were in their own rooms by the time they were 4 months old (we didn't have enough bedrooms for a while or else I would have had them all in their own rooms at birth like I did with my first). Good Luck

Lizzy - posted on 04/14/2010

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Our son was around 6-7weeks when he went into his own room, and around that time i actually put him on formula, with his last feed at 11:30pm/12am having baby rice in it too, to fill him up and he sleeps for 8 hours. It was lovely, he could smell my breast milk when he was in our room, and i didnt need to feed him, just giving him hugs would send him back to sleep, though he'd wake up every hour/2 hours for either a hug, or a feed, and got really tiring. i don't think its early at all :) I found it really scary, just because cot death is mentioned EVERYWHERE and you notice it more in the papers/internet when you're a mother. But our little man has a pacifier, which doctors reccommend, and i used a sleeping bag/suit, so no blankets are needed. But if they are, i just stuff them tightly with the mattress. And of course, hes at the bottom of the bed, so no head bangings! And mittens, just because if he gets cold hands, it wakes him up!

GO FOR IT :) Its lovely having your room back again!

Kylie - posted on 04/14/2010

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its not that hard and its better for all partys to have the baby in a seperate room my daughter was in her own room at a week old 5 days being spent in hospital and the other two in our room she settled fast and well he wont be able to smell you so will be settled alot quicker its dark and its quiet he wont hear you up and about or other sleep noises as long he is also at the age that SIDS isnt a major factor so that fear has settled u want to encourage good sleeping patterns at a young age the faster they learn the faster they have that as there routine my daughters been put to be at730every night since that first night and at nearly3she still knows when its bed time sometimes if i get caught up will even put herself to bed just rember dont stress all kids are different and u will find a way that works for both u and ur boy

Courtney - posted on 04/14/2010

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Sids & Kids recommend....
5. Sleep baby in their own safe sleeping environment next to the parent’s bed for the first six to twelve months of life
...to reduce the risk of sids.

It has something to do with them regulating their breathing to yours I believe.
Why not put a matress or comfy chair in bubs 'room to be' and when/if bubs gets fussy in the early hours you can move in there with bubs so as not to disturb your husband?

You will prob find (I did) that you sleep much worse once your child is not in the room, at least for the first few months as your body adjusts to the child not being close.
I still find that with my daughter at 2 I am still waking up straining to hear if she is ok.

You also need to be comfortable with the decision yourself. I know my husband was a little funny at first about sex, he didn't feel comfortable with bubs in the room...we just moved our action to another room ;)

Amanda - posted on 04/14/2010

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i slept with my daughter, (i know your not suppose to) but I did and loved it, for 9 months. Kick your husband to the couch! lol They dont stay small long, so enjoy it!

Holly Jo - posted on 04/14/2010

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My daughter was in her room sleeping in her crib @ 2 months. She was ready. Try it to see if your boy is comfortable. Good Luck

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Go for it! I put my daughter who is 4 months now in her own room at 2 months. My room is right across from hers but I have a monitor so I can hear better and never have had any problems. It's made her less dependent on me holding her or having to be right with her when she sleeps. Don't put him in his own room if your not comfortable though. It was hard at first I had to always check on her (and still do a couple times) but it's easy now and I know what to listen for to make sure there are no problems. Try it and see how it goes!

Samantha - posted on 04/14/2010

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I had twins at 33 weeks, so they were put in the same room in separate cribs right away. When they came home 2 weeks later, they each went to their owns rooms in their own cribs. We had no problems with this since they were already used to it and as they got older and began to recognize the patterns they accepted it well. I think the sooner the better, as it worked for us.

Danielle - posted on 04/14/2010

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I figured I'd put my son in his own room when he started sleeping through the night. Ha! My son didn't sleep through until he was 10 and a half months old! So at 9 months old I just wanted my room back to be able to watch tv at night, talk to my fiance, etc...so we moved him into his own room. I'm pregnant with my second now and I will move he/she into their room when they are about 3-4 months old.

Bethany - posted on 04/14/2010

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Our son started sleeping in his own room at 8 weeks. I wish we would have done it a bit sooner. This was the same time he started sleeping through the night. I read On Becoming Babywise and followed that method, only I made it flexible, where my mommy friends were very strict about the schedule. I figured since life is flexible, his sleep needs to be too. He has slept through the night since and now takes 1 3 hr nap everyday along with 12 hours at night.

Carmine - posted on 04/14/2010

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Its never too early to have your child sleep on their own. Have you tried an ocean wonders aquarium to play when he goes back to sleep? We NEVER co slept with our daughter, and the only time she slept in the same room was the first week in the hospital, other than that just naptimes with her on us on the couch, but we broke that habit at 7/8 months no problem. We tried using just a mobile on the crib but it didn't play long enough for her, the aquarium plays for 18 minutes and she's out. She's sleep trained so well we sit with her only at bedtime at night for maybe 5 minutes and if she's not asleep she goes to sleep herself.

Laura - posted on 04/14/2010

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If you do not feel completely comfortable doing it then maybe leave it for a little longer, I loved having my little man in the same room as me even when he was sleeping through the night, but you just get that 'feeling' when it's time for them to 'go it alone' in there own room! Best of luck x

Lyndsay - posted on 04/14/2010

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Personally, I think its a little young. I think that if the baby isn't sleeping through the night then they shouldn't be in their own room, but thats just my opinion. As for your husband, no offense, but maybe he shouldn't have gotten you knocked up if he didn't want to listen to a baby crying in the middle of the night.

Paula - posted on 04/14/2010

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we put our first in her crib at one month and everything was fine. Her room was right next to ours though, connected by a door and I felt like she was still close enough. We have our second now, he's almost 7 weeks and still in our room, but our kids will be sharing room and I don't want either to wake the other up. I'm wondering how long he will be with us

Andrea - posted on 04/14/2010

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my first was in his own room/crib at 5 days, my second 2 weeks (because they are sharing a room). I don't think 3 months is too early at all.

Brooke - posted on 04/14/2010

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My baby slept in her own room from about 3 weeks of age. It worked for me. The best way I found to settle a baby back to sleep was to rock her in my arms in a dark room for about 20 minutes. But I would def try to put him in his own room. Good Luck! XXXX

Amanda - posted on 04/14/2010

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sure try it and see if it works out if it does not talk to your husband about it see what u guys can come up with together, me on the other hand never had our son in the room with us he has always been in his own room and he was fine, good luck :)

Cassie - posted on 04/14/2010

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My husband and I were very lucky. Our son who is now 7 months old, was sleeping in his own room at 3 weeks old. He has always been a great sleeper. He started out on 4hr sleeps for the first 3 weeks. By 4 weeks it was 6hrs and by 6 weeks he was between 6-8hr sleeps each night. We had no concerns about him being in his own room, I am a light sleeper and wake up at every noise he would make, plus our house is on the smaller side and his room is right across the hall from ours. I would check in on him regularly but we have never had any issues with him being in his own room and crib. By 4 months he was actually to the point where I did not have to hold him and rock him to sleep, we were able to lay him down and he would fall alseep on his own. Good luck with it!

Jagoda - posted on 04/14/2010

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My son slept in his own room almost from the beginning. Now he can almost sleep through the whole night (wakes up once to feed), he is almost 10 weeks old. I breastfeed my son on a chair in his room with just a night light on and then he goes right back to sleep when he's done. I think the sooner you put them in their own room the better, they'll get used to it quick, if you will wait longer it might get more difficult for them to adjust.

Sally - posted on 04/14/2010

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my son is 3 months and because of his length he our grew his bassinet and so that meant that he had to go into his own room into a cot, i wasnt sure about how he was going to go the first night i didnt have the best sleep as i wanted to always check on him but then the second night i had the best sleep ever as i knew he went well the night before and i had the monitor on and it sat on the bed side so i can always hear him.. i think it was well worth the move as i wasnt checking as much as he wasnt just there and that when he wakes there is no way that we are not going to heat him.. i say give it ago most the time its us worrying parents rather then the child....

Brandee - posted on 04/14/2010

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My son has slept in his own bed in this own room since he came home from the hospital (now he is 21 months). We put a recliner in his room when he was an infant that we used for his night feedings. I have watched other close family memebers have to break kids from sleeping in their beds at older ages and we (hubby and I) didn't want to go through that. I am glad that Brandon has never needed to sleep with us. We have done very well with keeping him on a schedule, so he knows when bedtime is coming and doesn't fight us. Brandon was bottle fed which made it easier for us. A lot of my friends that have breastfed kept the babies in their bed.

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Our son slept in his own room after only 3 nights. As long as you have a baby monitor to monitor your baby's breathing there is nothing to worry about. Rather do it sooner than later as if your little one gets too used to being in your bed you are going to have a tough time moving him later.

Sarah - posted on 04/14/2010

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I put my little girl in her own room from day 2! We had her in our room the first night we came home from the hospital, but I'm such a light sleeper that I hardly slept a wink because every time she snuffled or squeaked or groaned in her sleep, I woke up.

So she started sleeping in her bassinnette in her own room right from the start and I moved her into her cot around 2 months. Her room is right next to ours, and as I said, I'm such a light sleeper that I wake up each time she does, which is usually only once or twice a night for nursing.

I'm sure lots of people have very strong opinions about keeping baby in your room until a certain age, but you've got to do what's best for you.

Shantel - posted on 04/13/2010

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I think if you are breastfeeding it is reasiet to have the baby as close to you as possible. my son stayed in our room in his bassinet and then a side sleeper when he got bigger, (he was ten pounds at birth) and stayed in those in our room til he was about 10 months old. I feel like I need the babies close to me, and if your baby is waking up in the middle of the night at three months they are most likely hungry. They are still so young at three months old. My husband has his own business and gets up at 4 in the morning and works to come home to work in our home office til 12 at night, and he did just fine adapting to the baby. I would try to soothe the situation before it got too loud at night. Its up to you obviously, but my next baby who will be here october 1st will be staying in our room as long as he or she fits in there ;)

Crystal - posted on 04/13/2010

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Nope.. not too early.. our daughter was in her own room at 8 weeks and my sisters baby was in her own room at 3 days... YOU CAN DO IT... you will get more and better sleep this way and it will be easier to do it now.. then when he is older...

Rhea - posted on 04/13/2010

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My son is almost 4 months old. We moved him into his own room when he was 2 months old,. He loves looking at the mobile over his crib. :)

Ashley - posted on 04/13/2010

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I started my Son in his crib at exactly 3 months. I slept on the floor in his room for the first couple of nights on an air mattress. He transitioned very well, I think I had the hardest time :(
A couple of nights I started him in his crib and when woke up I brought him in to bed with me. Whatever you're comfortable with and what works for your family. Good Luck!!

Jessica - posted on 04/13/2010

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I put my daughter in her own room at 6months, and my son in his own room at 2weeks. Best thing I ever did when it came to my son... He's such a noisy baby when he sleeps and it saved our sanity!

User - posted on 04/13/2010

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My son was 3 weeks old when I moved him into his own room. He was pretty much sleeping through the night so we just checked the monitors to make sure we could hear him and moved him over. Now at almost 10 months he plays in his crib for a couple hours before he makes a lot of noise to get me or my partner up so he has someone to play with.

Katherine - posted on 04/13/2010

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i "kicked " my daughter out at 3 weeks! she was to loud of sleeper! Invest in a good monitor and get some sleep!

Kimberly - posted on 04/13/2010

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I came home from the hospital the day after I gave birth and that was the only night my son slept in my room.There were nights on the couch with him because he liked to be in someones arms falling asleep but he quickly got used to waking up in his crib. & he was on a tight feeding schedule so I would automatically wake up 5 minutes before he would cry. By 2 months he was sleeping through the night and waking up happy and curious. He's now 16 months old & LOVES his crib. He sometimes wakes up during the night but he'll play & put himself back to sleep. But I know people who weren't comfortable putting their baby in a room alone until they were older. They are never to early to be in their own room & the earlier you do it, the easier the transition will hopefully be =) Good Luck!

Kristy - posted on 04/13/2010

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If you are confortable with it then great!! i think its a good idea to put them in there own room before they relise but that being said my daughter is 7months and i still have her sleeping beside me in her cot (i moved the cot from her room to mine) just because I think I am so used to having her there I would get up 10x a night to check on her if she wasnt, but she has also slept through from 8weeks so It doesnt bother my partner at all.

Angela - posted on 04/13/2010

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My son was in his own crib, in his room from day one. He only slept in my bed if he got up when my husband left for work. It was important to me that he got used to sleeping alone right away. I've seen way too many babies get used to mom and dad's bed and they don't want to be in their own.

Catherine - posted on 04/13/2010

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my daughter was in her crib from the first day she was home from the hospital. She's done great and sleeps through the night :) good luck!

Rebecca - posted on 04/13/2010

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i ofund around the same age i started putting our son in his own room and i found he started to sleep through the night i also found that i was having deeper sleeps it is the same if he is in your room or his own just that he is further away and you dont sleep on each others noises i would recommend now is the best time before its to late

Claire - posted on 04/13/2010

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my son was 8 weeks when we moved him to his own room. He is a noisy sleeper and would keep us both up all night. He did fine and now sleeps from 8P to 3A, eats and is back in bed til 7 or so. we started a bed time routine 2 weeks before, so he knew what was coming after bath and bottle. He didn't even seem to notice the difference of where he was sleeping. I say try it if YOU are ready. everyone will be happier if they get mroe sleep!

Darliss - posted on 04/13/2010

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My daughter was around 3 months when we moved her to her own room. As long as you have a monitor beside your bed its fine. I also had a rocking chair in her bedroom so that when she did wake up during the night I could rock her back to sleep again fairly quickly.

Shenna - posted on 04/13/2010

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My daughter slept in her own crib at around 5weeks old and we were all sleeping through the night by 7weeks old. We of course used a baby monitor when she was in sleeping. My daughter was a very noisy sleeper. I would wake up more often than she did to check on her thinking she was awake and she would be sound asleep. If he doesn't take to it nright away try it in intervals. Start with naps in his bed and then slowly introduce the crib at night for longer and longer times. I do not belive in the crying it out method though until they are a lil older- so don't force him to stay and sleep in there. Also, it sounds like your husband could use a lil more compassion- it is his infant son!!

Carly - posted on 04/13/2010

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Well that sounds like you have a selfish husband. So he can get more sleep he is suggesting you take the baby into another room? You know that means he or you will have to get out of bed and walk that bit further to feed/change your baby so it wont nessercarily help you sleep more. They reccomended 6 months is old enough for them too sleep in there own room as this is when cot death percentages go down massively but at the end of the day it's entirely upto you. Tell your husband that babies do wake up in the night, thats something he really should have learned before he had a child.

Jazmin - posted on 04/13/2010

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I don't think it is too early. My daughter and son both started sleeping in their own rooms at about that age. They've also been sleeping through the night since then, so that made matters alot easier.

Leatonya - posted on 04/13/2010

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my third child i did put in her own room around 4 months.I was up about every 15 mins. checking on her,she slept better than I did lol! My baby just moved to his room a couple a weeks ago,Its more me then my children i wasn't ready to put them in there own room yet! I know my son sleeps threw the night just fine but i feel like i still want him in there with... more so with my baby because hes my last and I'm just not ready to make that step lol Then I'd have to admit my lil baby is getting older! I wish they stayed little for a bit longer! lol

Allie - posted on 04/13/2010

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I had my daughter in her own room since she was 1 week old. Literally. She didnt get as restful sleep when she was with me in my room. I had the baby monitor on. I got up for her when she needed or wanted something. I would try putting him in his room for naps to start and see how that goes. I actually had my daughter swaddled until she was 6-7 months old. We had long, hard nights due to acid reflux and colic combined. Swaddling her made it so she was comfortable and slept longer and more restful.

Morgan - posted on 04/13/2010

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My daughters been in her crib from the night she came home, the bedroom is for me and my husband not the baby.

Amber - posted on 04/13/2010

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Everyone is different, both of my children slept with me while I nursed and then went to their own beds. Their father is the same way, he said "lots of babies are put straight into their own beds and have grown to be just fine"! Well, I was not ok with our daughter (our first) to sleep in her room at 4 months old (I didn't mind her sleeping in her crib), but that was because the master was on the second floor and the other two bedrooms were on the main! I ended up sleeping on the couch until I felt comfortable with her sleeping on the main level by herself! If you aren't comfortable, you need to decide what will or won't work for you! Good luck!

Helen - posted on 04/13/2010

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our little man went into his own room at 12 weeks as we are both light sleepers and we ended up keeping each other awake - also i went back to work then so he was able to stay asleep while i got ready for work

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