Sleeping in the bed.

Brittany - posted on 09/28/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




I know that having your baby sleep in the bed with you is a big no-no, but when my daughter was only a month old she had RSV. She was hospitalized for 3 weeks for it b/c she would quit breathing, ect. And me being a worry wart wanted to watch over her like a hawk at night after she got out of the hospital. Some how almost two years later shes still in bed with me and my husband. We have tried to have her sleep on her own bed ( I even dragged her mattress into our room to see if that would work)
made palettes on the floor, but she will wake up less then 5 to 10 mins freaking out because shes not next to me. Does anyone have a sure way of getting her to sleep on her own?


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Tasheka - posted on 10/02/2009




My son is 3 yrs old and is still sleeping with me in my bed.......he was sleeping in his own bed after we would lay down with him in his own bed and let him fall asleep worked until he got really sick and had to lay with us ..........

Sky - posted on 10/02/2009




Okay first off co-sleeping is GREAT when done right. It's completely natural and normal to sleep with your infant who has been inside you for 9mo's. You should SLOWLY transition from being with mother to sleeping alone.

Okay put her in her own bed and fall asleep with her in there, after she is asleep ..leave. . It may take a few weeks, but you and her will get past this. She will learn in time.

Don't punish her for wanting to be with you. :)

Holly - posted on 10/01/2009




I had sort of a similar situation and I got her to sleep on her own a little at a time by having a routine and giving her things she liked and were special to her. Your pillow which will smell like you or a blanket, pretty pajamas, a night light she picked, or maybe a theme for her bed or room. Dora was ours. She liked to have her hair brushed with my fingers and for me to rub her back. (back rubbing I was told helps to relax ) Lavender induces sleep and is a girl scent. She does not sleep with me, but sometimes she comes downstairs and climbs in bed in the morning with me still and I used to tell her it was okay, she did a good job sleeping in her own bed. We still have a bedtime prayer and a story, even though she reads to me now. It took time, but with consistancy, reassurance and praise it became easier.She learned that she has a bath, pajamas and slippers, and quiet time, no computer or wii, and a snack that it is transition time to wind down for bedtime and it helps the parent to slow down also. Good Luck and you'll find what works for both of you.

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