Sleeping training please help!

Paige - posted on 07/10/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My son just turned 1 and has slept with me since he was a little baby I didn't have a problem with it till my husband started working day shift and now he sleeps with us at night! I moved my sons crib into our room. I've tried to put him in it to sleep and he screams bloody murder. I still rock him to sleep which is probably a big problem but if I get him to sleep in my bed and put him in his bed he wakes right back up and screams. I have actually gotten him to sleep and got into his bed with him and put him to sleep but that doesn't always work.. Any tips or advise would be appreciated!

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K - posted on 07/16/2014

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To be honest... I know a lot of my close friends that had to deal with this as well. Its all about forming a new habit for them. Doctors suggested introducing their room and new bed as a "big thing"...something exciting. That doesn't always cut it. Facts are, you need to let them cry it out. Your child will not die from crying and I can promise you they will not hate you for life. Eventually they will adjust to their new routine, even if it takes a week or two crying themselves to sleep. But if your constantly giving in to them, they will continue the behavior of wanting to be up your butt. I cant imagine that fun for you and your husband. My son has a time frame where he was waking up in the middle of the night, and crawling into my bed. I don't care if it was 2 am or 4 am, I would get up and bring him back to his bedroom. He has perfect sleeping habits now. And I get my great rest as well!

Chet - posted on 07/10/2014

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I just want to make sure I understand - your one year old will sleep fine if he sleeps with you all night. If you put him directly into his own bed he will scream though. And if you fall asleep with him and then move him to his own bed he will wake up and cry if you're not there. The issue that he won't sleep unless you rock him and then stay with him for the whole night?

I would just sleep with him. We co-slept with all four of our kids because it was the easiest thing. Everyone got the most sleep that way. The kids all went to their own beds easily when they were ready.

Give it two weeks or a month and try again. If it doesn't work, wait awhile and try again. It will be easy when your baby is ready.

Erica - posted on 07/10/2014

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hey Paige. sleep training is not fun, but it sure is worth the hard work once they sleep on their own. You will feel so good at the end. It took about 2 weeks with my son. I'm actually sleep training my daughter now during the night(this is not fun for my husband and I since we need to sleep also. he sleeps during the day just fine.) He slept during the night fine(and still does),but during the day it would get tough. He was about 10 months, when I started sleep training him. Newborn to 9 months, I would rock him to sleep in my arms and he would enjoy it. I would too!!!

About going into his 10 months, he started to get fussy and started to show signs that he didn't want to be rocked anymore. Backpedal just a little, I would start off breastfeeding him(I didn't produce much milk, but being close to mommy comforted him.) and then rocked him when he would relax.

So when he started to show signs of not wanting to rock any more, I would lay in bed with him and he would fall asleep. This did not last very long and he became fussy again.That's when I realized, I needed to start the training process.

I simply explained to him that it was nap time or bedtime and that he needed to go to his bed and rest his little body. I would sing to him a quick song, pray with him and put him right in bed. He would cry, cry, cry, cry, cry, cry, cry, haha!!!! I went in after 5mins of him crying.

After, I increased it by another 5 mins. So 10 mins of crying, 20 mins, 30 mins and so forth. I would say, "its nap time or bedtime and it wasn't time to get up". "Rest your little Body, sleep tight." Eventually he would fall asleep. Like I said, this lasted for 2 weeks. After 2 weeks he started to sleep on his own when placing him in his bed awake.

Sorry for the long message, but I hope this helps. Let me know. My email is familieswithadream@gmail.com

God Bless you my friend,
Erica

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Gabriella - posted on 08/05/2014

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Hi friend, I have my son in a ZipadeeZip swaddle blanket. My LO sleeps in the crib. Have you tried this option?

I hope you get some serious sleep!

-PM

Katy - posted on 07/30/2014

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Hi, I’m Katy! So glad that I came across this chat room. I’m looking forward to talking with other moms.

Erica - posted on 07/11/2014

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Our kids dont sleep with us in our bed. They have their own bed. I dont rock them to sleep. I lay them right in their own bed awake. If they cry I give it a little time and I go in again to reassure them its sleepy time. Eventually they fall asleep.

If you co sleep, then thats a desition you and your partner have made together and are fine with it. My husband and I decided not to co sleep and thats why we had to sleep train. Co sleeping is easier, but eventually someday with co sleeping the kids need their own bed and room. Or shared room.

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