Smokers and Passive Smokers!

Yve - posted on 01/28/2010 ( 161 moms have responded )

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I would like to know if non-smoking parents would stop taking their babies or children over to someone’s house if they smoked.



The other night I took my baby over to my cousins house, there was her, her partner and a mutual friend smoking in the kitchen and even smoking a little bit of hash. My baby was coughing and whimpering all night after every one went to bed and considering that he is usually smoke free and usually quite a healthy baby it makes me not want to put him in that situation again. My cousin is in denial about it and gets upset with me very easily, yet she wants us to be best mates.



I was brought up in a completely smoke free environment. When I was a teen I CHOSE to hang out with people who smoked. My baby doesn’t have a choice though but so many friends and family smoke, How protective I should be with my very young baby???



Also for the smokers out there, how would you feel if a family member said they didn’t want to visit just because of this reason???



+++ Everyone, My BF asked his mum the other day "can you please not smoke in the house wile we are round"..

She responded "I’m not happy about this, its my house i should be able to do what I want in it, but I will cos its my grandson" (I was too chicken to confront her myself) So causing my BF to be annoyed at me. But How selfish is that? BUT she wants to hold him and feed him and put her unclean hands in his mouth. After reading everyone’s posts it seems like the least she could do.???

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Stefanie - posted on 01/30/2010

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I would never take my child around people that smoke. My husbands parents smoke inside and we politely told them that our daughter was too young to be in this environment and if they did not want to smoke outside, they could come visit us. They were a little upset, but I think they realized that we were set in our ways. I smoke myself (NEVER around my baby or while I was pregnant) and I would not be upset at all if a family member refused to come over because of it because I would NEVER smoke around a child. I don't even smoke around adults that are non-smokers. It's extremely inconsiderate and just not fair, especially to babies who have no say-so in the matter. Good for you!

Ashra - posted on 02/01/2010

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I am a smoker. I quit when I was pregnant & my husband smoked outside. Now when I smoke, I smoke outside, in a coat that is kept in the garage, that is never worn around my DS and wash my hands & brush my teeth before I go anywhere near him. It's my chioce to smoke, not his

Kimberly - posted on 01/31/2010

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I am a smoking mom. I do not smoke in the house. i do not think that children need to be around smoke. it is not good for them. i believe if this is a problem for her not to smoke around the baby then she should come to your smoke free enviroment and visit her there. that is what I would do.

Joni - posted on 02/01/2010

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I'm a Smoker and my personal belief is that going outside doesn't kill me, now with that said it is her house and telling her to go out not so nice maybe next time when she lights up take the baby into another room she will get the hint.

User - posted on 02/01/2010

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I am a smoker and when I had my little girl I tried to quit and it stressed my body so much and I was already on a high risk pregnancy. I cut down to like 3 a day and my doctor advised me not to quit cold turkey. I was lucky my little girl was born extremely healthy and had no problems. But I also know that was not a guarantee. When she was born noone smoked around her. Me and my husband have always smoked outside and everyone in our family was really supportive. My in laws and parents smoke and they smoke in there house but they respected us enough not to smoke around us when we came to visit. And they still dont. I also dont smoke in the car. I just found out I am pregnant with second child and have decided to quit just because I know I was lucky the first time around. Your family and friends should respect your wishes and you have every right to feel the way you do.

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Kayla - posted on 02/01/2010

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There is NOTHING wrong with being a protective mother. I'd tell them straight up that youre not going over there if theyre going to be smoking in the house. How inconsiderate. After all, how hard is it for them to step outside?? In my opinion if they are going to get mad at you for standing up and being a protective mother, they arent worth your time. cousin or not, she should understand and respect your wishes. I dont care if its "their house"...its called common courtesy!

User - posted on 02/01/2010

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I am a smoker and when I had my little girl I tried to quit and it stressed my body so much and I was already on a high risk pregnancy. I cut down to like 3 a day and my doctor advised me not to quit cold turkey. I was lucky my little girl was born extremely healthy and had no problems. But I also know that was not a guarantee. When she was born noone smoked around her. Me and my husband have always smoked outside and everyone in our family was really supportive. My in laws and parents smoke and they smoke in there house but they respected us enough not to smoke around us when we came to visit. And they still dont. I also dont smoke in the car. I just found out I am pregnant with second child and have decided to quit just because I know I was lucky the first time around. Your family and friends should respect your wishes and you have every right to feel the way you do.

SABRINA - posted on 02/01/2010

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i would take my son over if they didnt smoke in the house, im a smoker but i dont smoke if i hold my son, or in the house, or in the car

Falan - posted on 02/01/2010

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I've been told MANY times that smoking around infants increases your baby's chances for SIDS. Just for that reason, it's not worth it. My mother smokes outside when we are there and she either changes her shirt, and ALWAYS washes her hands right away. If smokers want to put those chemicals into their bodies, fine... but you have the right and should keep your baby away from that as much as possible. You should not feel bad about it. You are being a good mom by protecting your child!

Johnann - posted on 02/01/2010

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i know this might sound stupid, but what is hash? lol where are all yall from?

Sarah - posted on 02/01/2010

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Well for one thing, Yve, you never had to stay there. yeah you were visiting but whats more important? social gathering or the effects on your child? but with the hash alone, why did you stay? but my husband and i smoke ciggs and thats it. we smoke outside only, if you smoke in another room its the same as if you are sitting in the same room. we do not smoke in our car, we plan for smoke stops. If we go visit someone even family and they are smoking in there place, we leave or have them come outside.

But serioulsy you never HAD to stay at that place. in this day and age you can do whats right with your baby and children.

Katherine - posted on 02/01/2010

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If it were me in your position, I wouldn't bring the child anywhere that smoking is happening indoors. If those family members so choose to smoke in their house, that's their right and their choice. However, if they want to visit your son, perhaps you ought to invite them to your house instead? That way, you can assert your position about it, and if they want to smoke while visiting you, they must go outside to do it. Secondhand smoke is detrimental to anybody's health, especially a young child with such little lungs. Be strong about it! If you don't stick up for your baby, who will? Don't give up. Best of luck to you! ;)

Kacy - posted on 02/01/2010

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Its your job as a parent to do whatever you have to to protect your child... if someone was smoking ANYTHING with your child nearby, ESPECIIALY hash... you should have taken you child out of that situation immediately. It absolutely sickens me when I see parents smoking around their children. Youi shoiuldnt be coincerened with how you're family and friends are going to react to you protecting your baby... your only concern should be just that... protecting your baby...

Johnann - posted on 02/01/2010

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also my sister in law smoked through her pregnancy & smoked around him after he was born.... he died of SiDS at 3 months old! The saddest thing ever!

Johnann - posted on 02/01/2010

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my husband & i smoke [yes i stopped when i was pregnant] we go to my inlaws house alot & they all smoke. but we go outside so the kids wont be around it. If i go to someones house that wont go outside then we leave cuz it irritates me very much when they dont respect that we have little children around. If they want you over then they need to try to make you comfterble as their guests. thats how i see it

Jillena - posted on 02/01/2010

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I haven't read all of the replies, but I did read a few. In the few I read there was no mention of SIDS! This is the number one killer of infants! It has been discovered that smoke can cause your child to have SIDS. Probably not for her/him being around it just once, but even if it is on your clothes or hands. Every baby is a miracle in my eyes. I quite smoking after 7 years because of my little angel! Protect what is yours, and if people don't understand then they don't deserve to be in your babies life!

Penny - posted on 02/01/2010

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am a smoker myself but dont smoke in the house where my 2mnth old is and wit her partners mother she has a point it is her house a wudnt let my kids tell me where a cud n cudnt smoke my partners mam is a smoker n she goes in2 the kitchen 4 a smoke which was her choice a didnt have 2 say anything about it 2 her as she did the same when a had me son 4yrs ago xxxx

Michelle - posted on 02/01/2010

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my god,i hate to be blunt but its ur childs health,i wouldnt even question it,i wouldnt bring them into that environment EVER....it could cause a number of different health problems.u should put ur foot down....big time.if they want u around they should respect ur wishes an not smoke in the presence of ur child.its rude if nothing else.u should do everything u can 2 protect ur child.smokers out!!!no doubt about it.as for puttin her dirty fingers in his mouth,yuk...yuk...yuk.serious lack of respect on there part.stay away for as long as it takes for them to see its wrong...!!!

Jani - posted on 02/01/2010

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Hi Yve



I am a smoker and I NEVER smoke near my baby. I either sit outside or in the garage (my husband jokes i'm like a teenager) . When we visit people who smoke I will rather sit in either another area or ask them just for one night to smoke some where ells.



If they do not respect you or your baby its there issue and I would rather advice you not go there. If to them one night of changing your smoking habits is so much of an issue then its their los!



Do not feel bad for protecting the little one as they can not say anything for them selfs, and its our job to speak for them.



Hope it helps

Jani

Carly - posted on 02/01/2010

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I think that people should really have the decency to acctually remove themselves from a room or go as far away from you if pregnant or if you have a baby/child. Yes sometimes you are in there house and it is there right to smoke as much as they want within there four walls but all you have to say is that we wont visit you if you care more about your habit than the health of your grandchild. Make it clear that she is more than welcome to visit you at your home but she will have to smoke outside. I definetly believe you should give every child the choice wether or not they smoke when they are old enough to decide for themselves although I think parents should also guide them as much as possible not to start because at the end of the day you are at more risk of cancer, asthma etc.. and surely it's a parents job to protect there child.

Ashley - posted on 02/01/2010

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hi i am a smoker but i will not smoke around my daughter and i tell everyone not to smoke anywhere around her if people want to see you and your child then they should respect your wishes u have a child to look out for now and thats the most important thing if they dont like it stiff shit, my grandmother is liuke your mother in law she smokes inside and gets the shits when i visit because its her house and she should be able to do what she wants in it but i told her if she wnts to see us then shes not to do it when i am there so she goes outside, be stern and strong tell people to be respectful

Samantha - posted on 02/01/2010

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I am smoker myself and have 2 kids. With both of my pregnancies I really really wanted 2 quit 4 my babies sake, but I was young, in stressful situations and didnt have da full will power 2 do so. But wen I did have em in da end I was not goin 2 subject em 2 da smokin n e more thjan they all ready have. They got da nicotine from my blood stream there was no reason 4 em 2 b breathin da actual smoke so all our smokin is outside and if da kids are outside wit us we have made it a strict rule wit da kids dat they cant b round us wen we have a smoke in our hands wen we are finished we wash our hands and then give em a cuddle or wat eva. Sorry bout da long speech. But wat im tryin 2 say is dat it is ur child u should b able 2 say wat u want in ur childs life. Ur not askin da world 2 stop smokin all ur askin is 4 ppl 2 respect ur wishes and 4 ur child 2 b in perfect health, its understandible

Melanie - posted on 02/01/2010

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I think if people wish to smoke then thats there choice but smoking is bad for your health and to those around you, knowing that, if you choose to smoke as i said totaly up to you but people shouldnt put other peoples/kids health at risk, just as people have the right to smoke if they want people also have the right to not breath in someone else's smoke. Plus regular smoking around a baby can increase the risk of SIDS by 50%!! (that came from a friend of mine who is a midwife)

I think what your cousin is doing is rather disrespectful if she wants to risk her own childs health welll sadly thats her choise but she has no right to risk your childs health and yes if it was me i would stop taking my child over there

Kayleigh - posted on 02/01/2010

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i have a 4 week old daughter and although i am a smoker my house is smoke free. my partner doesnt smoke and if any of my friends come over that do i ask them to smoke outside the backdoor. i wash my hands once i am done before i do anything concerning my daughter

Rebecca - posted on 02/01/2010

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Aww, poor little thing. He probably had a headach :(



Like any other smell, if a baby is around it, they'll get used to it. Everyone smokes that lives with me, but NO ONE smokes inside, EVER. This has been mine and my husbands rule since we baught the place because it's brand new and we don't want our ceiling that nastey smoke color. When my daughter was first born, everyone who would come in the house would have to wash, then sanitize their hands and if they smoked, take off one layer of clothing before they could hold my baby. Everyone respected my wishes and did what I said.



I would make your baby's grandma wash her freakin' hands before she was allowed to even touch your child. Be rude about it. It's your baby. You can do and say whatever you want for saftey of your child's lungs and health in general. Don't let her hold the baby just cause your boyfriend gets mad at you when you don't let her. My Mother In Law has maybe held my daughter 10 times since she's been born and Lacey is 6 months old now.

Theresa - posted on 02/01/2010

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Any tips on how to get your mom to stop smoking around your babies? I have asked her before when they both had a cold. I told her simply that I didn't want it to develop into a chest infection. But now it's like she has forgotten about the whole conversation. I take both boys over to visit once a week (Sometimes only once a fortnight) and I don't drive so once I am there, I am there - if you know what I mean. I can't just up and leave with them as there is no where to go until my fiance picks up after work. Lately when I have been going over my mom is fine with them, until her boyfriend comes in and then they both light up! I was furious at her. I took the boys out of the living room and down to my sisters bedroom to play, but you know afterwards when they return to that room they are still affected by it. Should I just stop going? And if so what do I say to her?



I grew up in a smoking environment, and would never be seen dead smoking. Not only is it bad for you, frankly I find it a waste of money lol. The thing is now that Sam has been diagnosed with Pectus Excavatum, the GP is trying to insinuate that this could affect his breathing and make him more prone to chest infections etc. So i really need to get it nipped in the bud one way or the other.

Elizabeth - posted on 01/31/2010

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The baby always comes first. I smoke and have friends who smoke but never around the baby and never in the house. I don't take my baby to friends houses that smoke inside. Remember you're the protector, you have to do what is right for you and the baby regardless of what others think. Trust me, if they can't understand now they'll get over it later. Maybe outside visits might be a good idea as well?

Meryet - posted on 01/31/2010

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Hi!



I am a smoker & I'll just go ahead & say that I haven't read any of the responses yet..just posting my opinion here :)



As I said, I am a smoker & for a long while my ex husband & I did not smoke around our kids. Always outside. We didn't get out to see family very often because they chain smoked in their houses & we prefered not to have our kids around it. On the off occasion that we would have a family function at someone else's house, if we asked them not to smoke around the kids it always turned into a HUGE debate. Because our kids were so used to no smoke they would have breathing difficulty (or atleast it seemed like it to me) after being in a house full of smokers. I think it is absolutely your right as the parent & protector of your children to tell family/friends that you're not bringing your child around smoke. If they can't understand that you are doing what you feel is best for your child, then I guess they'll just have to get used to fewer visits. Atleast that's my stand point :)



Never feel guilty doing whats best for your baby :)

Amy-lee - posted on 01/31/2010

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my husband smokes and we have a 9 month old i smoke socially and if people come over smoking is outside the health of my child is more important than any thing else. wen neela is asleep at night we shut all the doors leading to her room and open the front dooe to have a smoke. my mother and my friends smoke i asked them not to smoke while neela is around they except that some times they forget but i reminde them and if anyone cant except that i dont want smoke around my child then i dont see them, the walfare orf ur child is more import and if they cant see that then oviestly they dont care for ur child. stand ur ground smoke is dangerous for ur child.

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My dad smoked when I was little so I grew up in a smoking environment but can't stand the stuff now and don't want my son exposed to it. Smoking eventually killed my dad so I hate being around cigarettes, I hate the smell and Im absolutely terrified of my son getting around it even around third hand smoke. None of my family smokes but my husbands family does, they know not to smoke around my son but sometimes they "forget" and try to light up. Im scared to death of him just being in their house because of the strong smoke smell and at one house the niccotine buildup is so bad you can scrape yellow stuff off of the bathroom blinds. When he was first born the doctors in the hospital said if their were any smokers for them to cover up before holding him but of course it was a hassle to get them to do that because they insist that the 3rd hand smoke doesn't hurt them. But Im going to believe doctors, not smokers.

User - posted on 01/31/2010

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You have the right to want to protect your baby against smoke! Im pregnant with my first child & i grew up in a smoke free enviroment & i plan on making sure that my daughter is not exposed to smoke. You are in the right.

User - posted on 01/31/2010

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You have the right to want to protect your baby against smoke! Im pregnant with my first child & i grew up in a smoke free enviroment & i plan on making sure that my daughter is not exposed to smoke. You are in the right.

Maggie - posted on 01/31/2010

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some people had some pretty good points. but others think that there is no big deal about smoking around kids. first off if there is a child in the home or a pregnant woman around the smoking should be done outside regardless of who's house it is. the health of both babies and pregnant women should come first. i am expecting my first and i don't go to my mom's house if i know my brother is there due to the fact the he smokes on the porch and in the house and doesn't care if it harms me or my unborn child. so i see nothing wrong with keeping your child away from places where people smoke inside around children. i would do the same. i feel that if they want to endanger the health of children then they shouldn't be around kids. so go for it fi you're comfortable with that. i am deffinetly going to do that for my child.

Rose - posted on 01/31/2010

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I can't stand when people smoke around their or anyone's children just for the simple fact that your the adult your the one that chooses to smoke so why do you have to put child through that. I don't think you are wrong if you decide not to take your child over there. Smoke can cause tons of health problems for a child. I know cause my sister was with a guy that smoked and his friends smoked and they did it around the kids and everytime i went over there one of them were sick and ever since she has left them they are doing so much better until they go to his house for visitation. They always come back hacking up a lung and the stink of smoke. Its not their choice it!!!! I smoked before i had my daughter but quit soon after i found out i was pregnant. I never smoked around kids i always went out side or in a diff room that they didn't go in or play in and the door was closed with a window open.

Dawn - posted on 01/31/2010

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My husband is a smoker, he has tried quitting and just can't seem to break the habit yet. However, he does not smoke in our house, vehichles or anywhere around our kids or anyone else's. He washes his hands and sometimes even changes his shirt before he picks up our baby. Or sometimes just if I tell him I can smell it. I try to keep my kids away from smoke at all costs. And I think responsible smokers understand that it is bad and respect a parents decision to protect their children.

Katrina - posted on 01/31/2010

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I will start by saying that i am a smoker, but i do not smoke in my home and i wash my hands, chew gum and i dont have my son around my coat after i smoke. I ran into a situation where we went to my bf uncles house and he lit one up well holding my son, i wanted to take my son and head out of the house but to be honest i wasnt sure what to do. I wont tell him what to do in his own home but i wont take my son there because i dont want him around that untill he is old enough to make the choise for himself and i fell that since you are the parent than your wishes should be respected BUT i dont feel that you shouldnt ask someone else to change there life style in there own home but make the choise to not go there and they can eather come to yours or to another place that you are comfortable at.

Turst how you feel who cares if others say you are being to over protective it is how you feel and as for your boyfriend express your concerns. You have the choise to be in that inviroment but a baby doesnt.

i hope this helps a little

April - posted on 01/31/2010

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My husband and I don't smoke and we try not to take our children to places with a lot of smoke. Almost all of my family smokes, and we ask them not to smoke around our children because it's bad for them, most of them don't mind. My aunt however is very old and weak and can't move around a lot so she does smoke in her house but when children are there she waits til they are gone. With our friends who smoke, we ask them not to do it around our children as well. I understand some people want to do it whenever and wherever so if they start I will take my kids to the other room, outside, or leave. When we are with someone who doesn't know us well I just ask if they would wait til we left or I would tell my husband we need to go or something to be away from it. I do believe your children are more important than other people. You have to be the one to take care of them and watch out for them. We do have to make the hard decisions sometimes, and if your family and friends really care then they will understand and do what you ask. Luckily we haven't had too many problems with this but my sister would not let her children go to our mother's house because she smoked inside when they weren't there. I think that is over doing it. I just ask that they don't do it while we are right there.

Rebekah - posted on 01/31/2010

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Well first off I am a smoker BUT I do not smoke in my house at all and I wash my hands and change my clothes after smoking so I do understand. When I go to a friend or family members house that smokes they know I don't want my son around smoke so they don't smoke inside. They go outside or in a designated room that my baby does not enter. I don't want my son around it at all and If they don't want to accommodate you as a guest in their home then they are very inconsiderate hosts. I would stop taking my baby to their house. And as for Grandma's response it sounds like she is just trying to play a guilt trip on you and your bf. As long as she is willing to keep the smoke out of the house while you are there just ignore those comments and let your son spend time with his grandma. I hope it works out for you!

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My husband smokes, but he does it outside and not anywhere near our son. He thinks I don't know he smokes in his car, but on the few occasions we have had to take it somewhere instead of my car (the family car), it stank and my son started coughing. You can ask someone to stop smoking in their home while your baby's there, but they can also refuse. it IS their house. And honestly, if they've been smoking indoors every day, just not doing it for one or two days isn't going to make a huge difference in the air quality. Especially in the winter when all the windows are usually closed. So it looks like your cousin's going to have to visit you at your home from now on, if she wants to be mates. Your home, your rules. she can smoke outside. AND wash her hands afterward. There's a lot of crap in tobacco that i wouldn't want anywhere near my son.

Katie - posted on 01/31/2010

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im a smoker and yes everyone will frown upon me to say that i did smoke during my pregnancy. We do not smoke in the house, we may have my baby in the pram in the backyard when we are smoking.



I dont expect people to let me smoke inside their house with children if i have one i go outside. I dont smoke in the car and if you do now with children under 15 you get fined.

I can understand older peoles point of view "well i did it with you and you turned out fine" but its up to the individual. If you dont eant smoke around your child you shouldnt have to put up with it

Katie - posted on 01/31/2010

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im a smoker and yes everyone will frown upon me to say that i did smoke during my pregnancy. We do not smoke in the house, we may have my baby in the pram in the backyard when we are smoking.



I dont expect people to let me smoke inside their house with children if i have one i go outside. I dont smoke in the car and if you do now with children under 15 you get fined.

I can understand older peoles point of view "well i did it with you and you turned out fine" but its up to the individual. If you dont eant smoke around your child you shouldnt have to put up with it

Ashley - posted on 01/31/2010

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I quit smoking while pregnant, and am a mild smoker now. I do not smoke inside, nor near my child. If I go somewhere where they smoke, I politely ask them to refrain from smoking, or to smoke outside while I have my baby there. I care about the well being of my child much more than visiting a friend or relative for just a short while. I dnt think you should be timid to ask that of someone, they just have to understand that you're putting the well being and health of your child first. :0) Good luck.

Shea - posted on 01/31/2010

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honestly i told everyonen not to smoke around her. they would rather sacrifice a cig then time with her

Consuelo - posted on 01/31/2010

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We don't go to people's house where we know they are smokers, unless we know a lot of activity is outside and that's where we usually stay. Smokers have the right to smoke in their house, and you have the right to stay away, but your child can't remove himself (or herself). I would say this much- if you have family that will not stop smoking for you to visit them, then they can come visit you, and not smoke. You know I don't even consider the unhealthy things, I consider the smell I have after I leave a smokers home, even if they didn't smoke while I was there. Yuk! Stick to your guns and protect your family that can't protect themselves, and let the smokers smoke theirs!

Consuelo - posted on 01/31/2010

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We don't go to people's house where we know they are smokers, unless we know a lot of activity is outside and that's where we usually stay. Smokers have the right to smoke in their house, and you have the right to stay away, but your child can't remove himself (or herself). I would say this much- if you have family that will not stop smoking for you to visit them, then they can come visit you, and not smoke. You know I don't even consider the unhealthy things, I consider the smell I have after I leave a smokers home, even if they didn't smoke while I was there. Yuk! Stick to your guns and protect your family that can't protect themselves, and let the smokers smoke theirs!

Jaci - posted on 01/31/2010

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We just had some friend come in from out of town and spend the weekend with us. They brought their 4 month old daughter with them, and we curently (until it gets warmer outside) smoke in our house. They did not mind smoking in the house, as long as it wasnt in the same room as the baby, which since our place is big enough, we did not mind. Even if we only had a one room place we would have gone outside to smoke. It really just all depends on the opinion of the person whos house youre at. I mean, I would prefer not to smoke around children, but if their parents are okay with it being in the house with their child, then that's a choice theyre making for their child. I believe it may have helped not to have her in the same room as us while we smoked, and to keep her out of what became our "smoking room" while they were here. But its really all up to how you feel about having your child around it and how the person feels about smoking around the baby.

But I do find it more considerate for people to ask the parent (even in their own house) if they mind smoking near/around the child instead of just lighting up sitting right in front of the kid.

Just my opinion.

Shannon - posted on 01/31/2010

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I will not take my children into a smoking house. I used to be a smoker and never smoked inside of the house. If they can not respect your life choices for your children then don't be around them.

Nakita - posted on 01/31/2010

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im not sure were all you moms live, but here in Canada, Nova Scotia ( were i live ) theres a law of no smoking in a car with kids under 18, if you do and you get caught, its a fine.

Karissa - posted on 01/31/2010

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I have friends that smoke but they are kind enough to ask if they can smoke. I smoke occasionally, and when we do we go outside, without the baby. Most of my friends don't smoke in their house so it's not really something I have to worry about, but some do, but most are respectful of the baby. I do know that if I had "friends" or family that weren't considerate of others and especially the baby then I wouldn't go over anymore. If they want to see the baby and visit then have them come to your house, where you can make the rules. If they don't like that then you know that they don't truly care about you guys. Hard to deal with but it's true. In life you have to do things you don't want, so they can suck it up and try to keep your kids safe and healthy.

Nakita - posted on 01/31/2010

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will im a smoking mom be we don't smoke in our apt. we go outside, cause i don't want my daughter around that smoke, i would of done the same thing, i would of asked them to stop smoking around my baby if they ever wanted me to come back with him again.

Nicole - posted on 01/31/2010

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you have every right to protect your baby from second hand smoke. i myself live with my mom who smokes and i told her, i know this is your house but please smoke in our breezeway or outside and she was cool about it. i also smoke myself and i don't go near my baby with smoke. i smoke outside. if she goes to ppls house who smoke i tell them they need to smoke outside or else i wont come over.

Kerry - posted on 01/31/2010

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Tabitha r u crazy ov course weed is more dangerous than fags maybe not health wise as in lung cancer but the way it affects ya mind smoking fags dont make u paranoid or angry but weed does and having them fumes round a baby or any child is wrong anybody who smokes weed needs 2 grow up and think ov the affect it has on a child they carnt get up and walk away like we can.

Anna - posted on 01/31/2010

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I don't think I need to go over the health risks for children exposed to cigarette/pot/whatever smoke. Second hand smoke is bad enough, but the child is also breathing in the smoke that's coming from the burning end of the cigarette, which is not filtered and twice as bad. Children exposed to smoke have a substantially increased risk of ear infections, asthma, cancer, respiratory infections, and some studies have indicated that in very young children there is a greater increase in the risk of SIDS and colic.



As the parent of my child, if someone is posing a health risk to my baby I would sure as hell speak up. My child's health is more important than keeping the peace.

Kristina - posted on 01/31/2010

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I smoke but only outside because it is so bad for the baby to be around second smoke!! Even when I used to smoke inside before I had kids I ALWAYS aired out the house and smoked outside when someone with kids came over, even if they smoke in their house!!! This is not to much to ask!!! Also hand washing after a smoke is a must!!!! My kids' Grandma refuses to smoke outside so I told her she can visit them here, but the will not be in a house while someone smokes.... She has opted not to see them at all... And I say if someone doesn't want to protect the health of your baby and respect your wishes they're not an influence you want around your child anyway!

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I smoke my husband smokes his parents smoke and my parents smoke. We don't smoke in our house though. My parents smoke in there house so before we come over there I call a few hours ahead and ask that they air out the house and smoke outside on the deck when we do arrive. I am against smoking in front of him. We pop mints and sanitze our hands and febreeze our hair and clothes after we smoke and present ourselves to our son again holding him and touching him. Maybe ask her to do this when your son goes for a visit. Its a lot of extra work for that cigarette but its either that or don't smoke at all.

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