So sick of people who leave nasty, mean comments...get a life plz

Jenn - posted on 09/27/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I just checked my comment box and my profile and found a nasty msg commenting on a pic of me my fiancee and son in which i am at a camp party for his fam with a cigarette in my hand...it is an adorable pic and i kno that smoking is not ideal during pregnancy hwever this woman decided to tell me i was a terrible mother, she felt sorry for my children i make her sick, etcetc... cut down to about 2 or 3 smokes a day if any, i kno that isnt as good as none, but i totally turned my life around for my children and used to have drug problem much worse then cigareees..I know many ppl will prolly agree with her..but after a stressful hard day it kinda hurts to have a total stranger tearing apart ur efforts and bringigya down..I man if you cant be decent enough to be civil and polite then save your comments...I think it is a shame that some people have nothing better to do...I only wish we could all be as perfect as this particular mother...whom obviiously has NEVER done anything wrong as a parent and doesnt make mistakes...

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i just wanted to say that you should be proud of how well you're doing with cutting down on the smoking and everything and the fact that you have bothered at all shows you care for your children. i am a smoker but have always stopped during pregnancy and breasfeeding and have never allowed smoking in my house and dont do it in public but i would have loved to have stopped completely however with several children aged 11wks to 7yrs and a husband that works away sometimes its the only thing that keeps me awake long enough do everything i have to

i know every1 has the right to an opinion but sometimes people voice their opinions in a way that can be hurtful and destructive rather than constructive i personally ignore comments from any1 that has no respect fro other peoples feelings and has to be nasty beacause they are unable to voice their views without being offensive or resorting to personal attacks without at least knowing all of the facts before hand

Melanie - posted on 10/01/2009

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I totaly agree with you!! i doubt youre kids will remember how many cigs u had a day but im sure they will remember all the good times you had 2getter.Im sure that the mother who made such a comment Fails her ids in some other way. It sucks to be critised by others especialy most mothers are already pretty hard on themselves we are good at making are selves feel guilty about everything we do. Dont think bout ppl like just remember all the great things u do for yr kids!!

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Blah, Blah, its your right to smoke or not to smoke. Yes we all judge but some people obviosly need to keep their opinions to themselves!!!

Jenn the main point some people are forgetting is that you and your lovely family had a beautiful happy day together. Love and happiness is what family is all about sweety. Keep smiling and just surround yourself with people that are supportive.

Jamie - posted on 09/28/2009

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I didnt say what the lady said or did was right or wrong, she made a judgement and told you how she felt. it may not have been nice but she did, its a public forum and thats her right,



and i find this whole thing the pot calling the kettle black, we all judge, no one is perfect, so i wish everyone would stop acting as if they are holy and dont every judge people.



by calling this poster a bitch or what not your also judging her without knowing her, your basing her being a bitch on a post, while she based her post on a pic, thus you have now become her.

Mary - posted on 09/28/2009

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dont let her get to you! im a smoker too i know how you feel. I was in your boat i totally turned my life around for my children. Im a diff person now.. good for you!!!

Turquoise - posted on 09/28/2009

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OMG WHAT A BITCH...i feel for u she had not right doing that 2 u, don't let some idiot like that bring u down, she probably some pig that has no life except for sitting around looking thru people stuff on the internet and to try and bring other people down because she so damn miserable and good for turning ur life round for ur kids...kids are everything they are our future.....xoxo

Annelise - posted on 09/28/2009

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My apologies to you Jenn for having to encounter such a person but take note that it is far easier to pass judgement rather than to offer support & advice so what does that really tell you about “her” character? I commend you for all the changes you have made & say persevere on. You have the rest of us moms on your side. We are only as great as we believe ourselves to be not as what others think we are. Take care.

Sarah - posted on 09/28/2009

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i am a smoker myself and personally i think that that woman does not belong on here!

we all make our own decsions and this is ment to be a place of confidence and support not somewhere to be attacked!

Jenn - posted on 09/27/2009

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Im not saying i havent judged someone before, tht would obviosly be a lie, but i wouldnt put down their family or parenting skills in such a hateful hurtful way in their comment box or ven as private msg for that matter..i mean come on

Jenn - posted on 09/27/2009

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Ijust dont think it is that controversial..its one of my great memories with my family captured in a picture and we all had a great awesome time together and made another memory that i chose to share, regardless of whether i was havinga Cigarette at the time or not...i dont think that is reason to go as far as to saying the feel sry for my children...i mean come on...My children are happy, healthy,safe and loved...and thats ALL that matters....Once again i understand ppl will have opiions, but share ur opinion like acivil person,not in a hatefull wayy

Jamie - posted on 09/27/2009

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Public forum means anyone can leave a comment. If you dont want to be judged dont post pics.



Id also like to add everyone is judgemental, its human nature, even the original poster has judged someone at some point.



While I might not agree with the person getting bashed, you kinda ask for it when you post such a contrversal picture.

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Oh my god, i cannot believe another mum could be so judgemental. Overa bloody cigarette, im a non smoker and hate people smoking next to me or my kids but i would never say it to them and would just move away.

Dnt let some old nasty message get you down, she obviously is the perfect mother that we should all be like "NOT". For the fact that she can be so rude and judging shows that this mum is not perfect in any way.

Cheer up and stay positive

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