so to be mom

Elizabeth - posted on 05/04/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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hey i am a 23 year old so to be a mom and my family is a lot of help but sometimes just drive me crazy. my so to be husbened sister is the one who is my bigs problem ok dont get me wrong when i say this because i am very happy and cant wait but i am 7 months a long and at the point where i just cant wait to have this part over with and my sister in-law is still in the o my god your having a baby its the bigs bigs things ever to happen. and its kind of killing the hole being happy thing for me because she makes me feel like she is the one having the baby and not me. she trying to take everything over and tell me how and what i should be doing and not doing. and it is driving me be on crazy. and i dont know what to do.

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Elizabeth - posted on 05/05/2009

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i feel you on that one. and maybe talking to him about how you feel could help and he will understand that its your day and you should beable to spend it how you want. so if he ask you what do you want for mothers day try to tell him you want to spend time with your mom and the baby and hopeful he will understand and give you that he sounds sweet and like my soon to be husbend and like he will give you what he can and you want to make you happy. it is head being in a spot where you dont know what to say or do to make things better with a person that just doesnt seem to care about how you feel or want to do thing. thats how it is with my sister in-law. but i can say its nice to know i am not the only one who has this problem. and i have noticed that mother in-laws are the worst to handly. and can be down right mean as hell. i hope things will work out for you on mothers day.

Amber - posted on 05/05/2009

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I completely understand I wish I had a solution but really all I have for you is that I can relate. One time when my boyfriend told his mother to stop saying the things she says the next time she came over she sat in the room with me but wouldn't say a word which was fine with me, but then she goes right back to being the same. My issue this week is this is going to be my first mother's day and I don't want to spend it with her. I want to do something with my mom and I definately want to be with my baby, but I don't want to spend it with his mom. I am for him taking his mom out or something as long as I don't have to go. My friend says I am being selfish, but I really don't care it is my first mothers day and i want to enjoy it. Last year I made brunch and my family and his family all came and not one person helped me not him not his brothers no one helped and I am not spending my first mother's day making brunch for a ton of people who are not mothers and not even for his mother cuz she makes me feel like crap. She was just over a couple weeks ago and she spent the whole time talking about how everything my son does is because of his daddy even though I was the only one in the room. She always tells me how everything I do is wrong from the diapers I use to the fact that I pump my breast milk and bottle feed it to my baby, cuz he could never latch. I don't know how to do this I don't want Jason to be hurt by it he is a good man.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/04/2009

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thank you and i wish i could say thats a good way to but but we tryed that and i had him talk to her about how she is been and she stoped talking to us for like almost two week it was nice in away and if you knew her you would understand why i said it was nice. lol but than she started right back up again. and its just like you where your it the point of not wanting your mother in-law around is how i feel about her right now. and i just dont know what to do because i know i cant talk to her about it because it would get ugly. she so bad that my step mom is planing my babyshower for me and my sister in-law is trying to take it over and telling us what we need to do and should do for it.i really i am just starting to feel like i dont want her anywhere around rebecca when she gets here.

Amber - posted on 05/04/2009

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First of all congrats on the baby to be. Second you are probably getting close to that point in pregnancy when people tend to be more irritating than they were before. At the end of my pregnancy the only person who didn't irritate me was my mom. I especially got irritated when people tried to tell me what to do. You should tell her that you appreciate her being so excited, but that you already know how you want to do things. Let her know now because it is only going to get worse. My mother in law is the one in my family that is too bossy and acts like my baby is hers and I am at a point i don't even want her around anymore because of it and we have already told her to stop well not me but her son has. So ask your husband to talk to her, because if you are irritated now just wait till you have not slept for a couple of weeks and she says something then someone ends up getting cussed out and she will be more upset than if you said something earlier.

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