son's nightmares

Tiffany - posted on 06/18/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My son just turned two and recently has been waking up with nightmares. I have tried everything I can think of to get rid of them. I monitor what he watches on tv due the how graphic some cartoons are. I can't think of anything that would have scared him. I heard that chocolate can do it so I haven't been giving him sugar other than his juice and fruit. But he is still waking up in the middle of the night screaming. Any ideas on what is causing them and how to fix the problem would be helpful. Thanks.

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Tiffany - posted on 06/25/2009

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Thanks everyone. I really appreciate the help. My family went on vacation to the beach about a month ago, which i didn't think could cause the nightmares. But, my husband said that when him and my son went together a wave knocked him into the water. My aunt said he is probably reliving it in his dreams. So if anyone has an idea on how to get him past the fear of water it would help. He will take baths or get in kiddie pools. But, even if he is being held he refuses to get in a regular pool.

Samantha - posted on 06/19/2009

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My son started the nightmares at 2 as well. All that I can say is that it gets better. Their imaginations go crazy at this age. Im so sorry, i remember the sleepless nights :(

Leigha - posted on 06/19/2009

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Kids have nightmares and as a parent you can feel completely helpless. My 3 year old came to me this morning and informed me matter of factly that she had had a bad dream. When I asked her what it was about she said that she couldn't find me. Just keep on keeping on. Trying to get him to explain it is a really good thing. Let him know your and your husband are there to protect him. Another good thing would be to read a favorite book of his with him before he goes to bed. My husband is unfortunately not home as much as he used to be, but my daughter has nightmares whether he is there or not. If it is a security issue because maybe things have been tense at home (which happens between husbands and wives sometimes) just try not to let the kids see it. It could just be a stage as well. I mean just think of the things that are in your nightmares and there is no explanation for them sometimes. It works the same for kids. Just be mommy and cuddle them when they have bad dreams. Lots of hugs and kisses and if he's in a big boy bed lay down next to him to get him to calm down. Works for me. It'll work itself out.

Katy - posted on 06/19/2009

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I know this sounds different but we took a parenting class called Growing Kids God's Way and they suggest parents doing "couch times" to help with the kids sleep issues. This helps the kids feel secure b/c they seem mom and dad have special time together, communicating and so on. So for 10 or so minutes a night (you can set a timer) tell the kids that Mommy and Daddy are going to talk on the couch and that they can't interrupt (this may take some time and training). If this is done consistantly, it can help. I have heard of several couples solving sleep issues just by doing couch times. I do think your husband going out at night more could be contributing if that is the only thing that has changed in your child's life recently. We also pray with our kids at bed time or if they ever wake up from a nightmare and they seem to have peace knowing God is watching over them. Hope this helps.

Tiffany - posted on 06/19/2009

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Thank you both. Amanda I can't think of any changes. I am a stay at home mom, so he doesn't have daycare. The only thing that has been different lately is my husband has been going out after work. So my son has not seen much of him lately. That's the only change that I can think of.

Amanda - posted on 06/18/2009

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Have there been any recent changes in his life or enviroment, They do not necesarily have to be large changes to make a large impact, Has a daycare provider changed or been replaced, has a friend moved away, has your schedule or routines changed? Look at what recently has gone on...There may be a cause there....Sometimes children that young can feel very anxious about even small changes to their routines but do not have the ability to recognize why they feel that way and how to verbalize it so that anxiety is just stuck...They internalize it and often times it manifests itself in nightmares when the brain is at rest...I will also say that for a short while between 3 and 4 or 5 my daughter went through sporadic "Nightmare stents" where for several days and occasionally a few weeks, she would wake in the middle of the night with horrible dreams and have a very hard time getting her to lay back down....You have to realize that for kids from this age on their world, bodies, minds, abilities, etc....are changing at lightning speed and this sometimes can be the cause of certain side effects Ie: Unusual clinginess, nightmares, genreral fussiness etc... Just be patient with your little man, Help him talk about what he dreamt or how he feels etc, Give him words to describe how he appears to be feeling and sometimes this helps! Best of luck, hope this was a little helpful =0)

Mandy - posted on 06/18/2009

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is he actually waking when he is screaming?



my son has night terrors where he doesnt actually wake up, even though his eyes are open. he looks right through my husband and me like he cant see us. it usually lasts up to half hour, but doesnt remember in the morning that it happened



my son is nearly 7yo and still has them. he has had them probably once a week since he was 2 yo.

i have been told there is nothing that can be done and he will grow out of it.



sorry i cant be much help

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