Sons dad is inconsistent

Kendall - posted on 10/26/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son is 18 months old. His dad and I were high school sweethearts but broke up when he was 10 months old. He never cared to see him when we were dating and now he only sees him once every 4-5 months. My son cries when he is with him so we always go along and try to make it comfortable for him. He was once a good person but he has never participated with our son. He has never bought him anything, he only plays with him for about 2 hours each time he sees him, he doesn't work. I feel like I'm gonna break down because it doesn't seem fair that I work and go to school and support this child alone and he can ask to see him when it's conviant for him. I don't want my son to grow up and think this is normal and how a father should ask. Any insight on how to handle this situation ladies? Thanks in advance :)

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Kendall - posted on 11/12/2013

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I couldn't agree with you more. Thank you for your encouraging words! I hope I do meet someone who steps up for him: until then I will stay in school and continue to work for us.

Misschatterb0x - posted on 10/27/2013

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If you want you could always express your feelings to your sons father. But you never know later on you could meet someone who will be a wonderful role model for your son.

Kendall - posted on 10/26/2013

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Thank you Andrea for your insight! I just don't want him to think this is how a "man" acts. That's his only male role model right now. I want his dad to either step up and come around or move on with his life...

Misschatterb0x - posted on 10/26/2013

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I don't think there's much you can do. If he really wanted to see his son more often he would. You have those men who love being fathers and then you have those men who like making the babies but don't want to actually take care of them. You just have to raise your son and teach him the right way to be a man. It sucks you have to raise him alone but in the end your son will be grateful. Keep your head up.

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