
Rachael - posted on 05/12/2009 ( 100 moms have responded )
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I am 24 and have a 2month old girl. I am a stay at home mom, my hubby works. I am tired of hearing people say that if you can't support you kid with out the man then shouldn't have had one. If my hubby left me then yes i would have to move home with me mom. That would be only till I got on my feet again, like a job and a place to live. I like being a stay at home mom, I don't want to get a job so i can work to pay for day care.I don't need to pay some one else to raise my child, because i can stay home and do it my self. Don't get my wrong, I don't think that it is a bad thing to put your kid in daycare. I just like to say that just because i don't work dose not mean that my child doesn't get what she needs. I have a house and we have 3 cars and nothing is wrong with me staying home and him working
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Melinda - posted on 05/17/2009
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People allow their jeolousy come out in their coments sometimes. Take it for what it's worth and realize these people would LOVE to have your life. You are doing what is best for your family
Jessica - posted on 05/15/2009
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Rachael,
I am a 26yo sahm and felt the same way. I love working, organizing, any physical labor...it drove me crazy to worry about money and feeling as though I didn't contribute anything to the household. My husband was working hard and stressing out over bills. I got fed up with it all, but we couldn't afford for me to go back to work. We would have to have a unstable household where both parents would be stressed out, the house would be a mess, our daughter would be raised with inconsitency. So, to keep stability in the house, for my daughter and my marriage, I stayed home. To keep my sanity and independence, I started taking over everything else. I do the finances, shopping, and the school planning (we both go to school on top of it all). My husband isn't as stressed out (which was leading to a divorce). Money is tight, but it's better than the alternative. My point, there are other ways to regain a feeling of equality. Unless you feel your marriage going south and see yourself having to do it on your own, do what works for you and your husband. A stable household is better than a finacially well off one and a independant mother.
Kylie - posted on 05/12/2009
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Who ever says that is a moron! You are doing the right thing staying home with your baby and shes only 2 months old! It 's a hard job being a stay at home Mum.. you don't get paid or get sick days or annual leave and your on call 24/7. There is no job more important either.
I'm proud to be a SAHM. I have not worked full time outside the home for over 4 years. No one makes me feel bad for relying on my husbands income to pay the bills and keep a roof over our heads. I work just as hard as him and our children reap the benefits of us working as a team. Be proud of the decision you have made stay at home and if anyone wants to have a go at you tell them to get stuffed they obviously are not too bright!. Many mums don't get the choice to be there 100% for their kids and are forced to work.
April - posted on 05/17/2009
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I completely agree. I'm a stay a home, as well. When I was a little girl my mom had to work, and I can remember wishing she could stay at home, but couldn't. So I want to give my son what I couldn't have. I also believe the first four years are so crucial, I want to make sure my son is on target as far as developmentally much as possible, and what better way than to teach him myself! Don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with having a career, or having to work. But there is a stereo type that we stay at homes are lazy and do whatever we want when we want. HA! I'm a house keeper, play mate,teacher, chef, doctor, nurse, event planner, gardener, and the list goes on and on. My days are by far easy and la di dah. I sometimes would like a part time job just to break the tedious days up, but alas I would be adding a PAYING job to my list of other jobs. This summer my son is going to go to pre school 2 days a week to get him socialized with other children he will be going to school with. Yes our family does sacrifice small things, like family vacations, new vehicles and a remodeled finished house, but he is by far more important than any of those things.
Staci - posted on 05/13/2009
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I totally agree! And I'm tired of people saying that being a stay at home mom isn't work. HELLO we don't get a break...EVER because when they sleep we have to do household chores! People thing just because they go to a place other than their home and they get paid for what they do that is what a job is. Don't think so! My husband is really supportive and wants me to stay at home and it is hard for me to do that because he makes just enough money to support us but we both like that I'm the one with our son all day.