STRESS WITH MY SECOND CHILD?!

Shemekia_brown16 - posted on 10/04/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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STRESS WITH MY SECOND (22WKS) CHILD! ALL I CAN DO IS SAY WHAT AM I GONE DO WITH 2KIDS AT THE AGE OF 19/20?

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Rhonda - posted on 10/11/2012

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Stephanie,



I can identify with you completely. On birth control, I found myself pregnant at 15. I had morning sickness and did not go to school until lunch tme. My homeroom teacher saw me entering school and accused me of skipping. I was angered and quit school that day. I turned 16 in March and had my daughter in May. The "first time", 6 weeks later, the condom broke. I just knew I was pregnant. I was a nervous wreck. Sure enough, I tested "positive". I was so scared. I cried and cried. I considered abortion, but knew I could not live with myself if I did that. The whole pregnancy, I was afraid something would be wrong with the baby. I turned 17 in March and had another baby girl 3 weeks later in April. I completely understand your feelings of being overwhelmed, scared, and just about anything else you can think of.



Okay, so here I was, barely 17 with two baby girls (10 months 2 weeks apart) and A high school drop out. I signed up for welfare. I was so embarrassed. I thought if people saw me go in that place, they would judge me. I did not want to be a welfare mommy! I took my GED and passed. I got a job at Wendy's. It took me 2 months to realize I could not support my little family on that without government support. So, again, because of government grants and public assistance, I was able to start college. I felt guilty. I felt like a leech. I hung in there because there was no way in this world I could not have done it myself. Guess what, by the time my babies were 6 and 7, I became a Registered Nurse and A darned good one. I work hard in Critical Care. Now, the girls are 23 and 22. The 23 year old has a Bachelor's Degree in Bio-Medical Sciences and is finishing up her Nursing Program. She is also tme mom to a 4 year old so, I am a grandma. The 22 year old is a model and the mother of a 10 month old daughter. It is hard to see through the stress now, but it will get better and easier. I promise. Better yet, God promises! You see, I prayed every step of the way. I believe my babies were born healthy because I prayed and God answered. I believe I passed my GED because I asked and God answered. I believe I got into Nursing School on first pick (there was a 2 year waiting list then) because I asked and God answered. I believe I passed my state licensure on first attempt because I asked and God answered.



Don't get me wrong. It was no bed of roses. There was a lot of struggle, stress, and sacrifice but YOU CAN do this. You need to find your help and your strength. For me, that was God because I had none anywhere else. I used to be sad because I had no one to turn to. I believe I was put in that position for a reason. It made me turn to God for lack of anyone else. And He delivered and He took care of me and us. I read something the other day that went something like this: A diamond is formed only through time and pressure. Girl, keep on keeping on. Keep looking up. Know where your help comes from.



On a side note, I went on to have a 3rd daughter who is now 8. She was planned to be the last. I was surprised to find God had alternate plans as he gave me a son (despite 2 forms of birth control). He is now 7 months old. Yep, I have grand children older than their uncle AND I was pregnant at the same time as my daughter. Weird, huh? I look forward to raising them and watching them become who God planned for them to be and I take pleasure in knowing He chose me to give the gifts He gave who are my children. You will feel that way too one day. Later, you will see it is a privilege and you will find what good it was all meant for.



In peace, comfort, and encouragement.



Rhonda

Stephanie - posted on 10/04/2012

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I felt like this whem I was pregnant with my 2nd child, my daughter is 5 now but was 4 at the time and I just felt sick, I couldn't think how I would cope with a 4 yr old at school, having to do the school run tidy up and look after a baby while my husband is at work. But I can tell you not to stress at all, it is a doddle. Once you get yourself in a routine you will wondering what all the fuss was about. Do you have partner/friends/family around to talk to?? Reassurance is always a good thing too. But try not to stress too much because remember baby will feel it. You will be fine hun honestly xx

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Stephanie - posted on 10/13/2012

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When I was pregnant with my daughter I did, but it was caused my anxiety attacks which I then had to take medication for because they were getting out of hand. Swimming played a major part in both my pregnancies. You go by yourself and just swim for an hour or 2. Your out the house, having time by yourself and relaxing!! xxx

Tracey - posted on 10/11/2012

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Maybe you should THINK about putting the baby up for adoption. their are families out there who would love to care for a new born.or see if the father would want to take full custody.

Sarah - posted on 10/11/2012

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Shemekia, Please go to the dr!! A lot of pain and chest pain is never normal, especially not during pregnancy!! ♥ Feel better!!

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