Teen Pregnancy

Erica - posted on 04/08/2009 ( 32 moms have responded )

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Hey everyone, my name is Erica... I am doing a research paper on teen pregnancy and would like to ask a few questions i could hopefully get some feedack to. Teen mothers don't have to respond to this message.. it would also benefit me if mothers at different age ranges to participate in this... Thank you! feel free to be descriptive!



1) What age did you have your first child?





2) How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant?







3) Did you tell the father? If so, how did he react?









4) Did you have any complications during pregnancy? if so, what were they?











5)What's the best thing about motherhood?











6) Is the father involved?







7) Does your parent's/ family help out at all? if so, how do they help? If no, are there other ways you get help?











8) Do you have a good job?







9) Did you drop out of school? if no, is/was it difficult?







10) Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad?







11) What do you think you would be missing out on if you didn't have any children?









12) Are you struggling? if yes, what would help you become more successful?









13) What advice would you give to other mothers/ teen mothers out there?











14) Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years?

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Jaime-Lynne - posted on 04/08/2009

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1) What age did you have your first child? 3 months before i turned 21

2) How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant? scared sh*tless

3) Did you tell the father? If so, how did he react? yes, he was there for me every step of the way, & he was more sure we could do it than i was.

4) Did you have any complications during pregnancy? if so, what were they? yes, I had pre-eclampsia / HELLP

5)What's the best thing about motherhood? the smiles, the " hi mommy" the " I love you mommys "

6) Is the father involved? yes

7) Does your parent's/ family help out at all? if so, how do they help? If no, are there other ways you get help? yes, they help is any way they can, anytime i need it.

8) Do you have a good job? I'm a stay at home mom... the best in the world.

9) Did you drop out of school? if no, is/was it difficult? I took some time off of University, and yes it was very difficult.

10) Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad? much easier to be a dad

11) What do you think you would be missing out on if you didn't have any children? everything.

12) Are you struggling? if yes, what would help you become more successful?

13) What advice would you give to other mothers/ teen mothers out there? stay true to yourself, you're the parent, no one else but you.

14) Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years? still happly married, with hopefully 1 more baby.

Ashlee - posted on 04/08/2009

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1.) I was 19 when I had my first, and I'm about to have my 2nd after my 22nd birthday



2.) When I found out I was pregnant the first time, I kind of already has a feeling I was pregnant. I just didn't want to believe it. Although I figured I was just gaining weight I didn't want to take a test to find out. And when I did, I was in complete shock, scared, everything in the book. But this time around, I was excited more than scared.



3.) He was the first person I told. He didn't seem too happy becides we were both young. But He didn't want her in the first place, but he eventually came around. Second time, he wanted to be a daddy, he couldn't wait to have kids so when I told him, he was BEYOND excited. (both my kids have different fathers)



4.) First pregnancy, no problems what so ever. Second, from abnormal blood work to weird things on the ultrasound, there are 2 things that I am worried about. The doctors said she may mave downs syndrome (from the look of my blood work) and now my unborn baby has a block in her ureter that leads her urine from her kidney to the bladder and she's not releasing urine like she's suppose to be. Luckally its just with the one left kidney because her right is working perfectly.



5.) The best thing about motherhood is seeing your child everyday growing and learning new things. The milestones they take like talking, learning how to walk on their own, using the potty on their own, it's just a blessing in general.



6.) My first daughter's father is NOT involved. He went to all my doctors appointments while I was pregnant, he seemed like he was going to always be there for her. But the day after I had her, he hasen't really done everything he needed to do as a father.



7.) Yes, my family has always supported me and my daughter in any way they can. Anything I needed for her that I couldn't get, they were the first ones giving my the money to get it for her. Her father has never once done that for her.



8.) Right now I am not working for doctors' reasons, but once I start back working, I will start my own candle business and I can't wait.



9.) Nope. I finished high school, I went to college for my associates degree in medical assisting and applied science and finished that in 2 years while and after I was pregnant.



10.) If you love your children like you say you do, then I can't answer that question. But I love being a mom, but at the same time in the position I'm in, it's easier to be a dad. Because my daughters father doesn't do anything for her, he always had better things to do than be a dad.



11.) I think I would be missing out on just being a 21 year old. Taking trips with my friends, going out whenever I wanted, basically not having responsibility. But like I said I love being a mom, and I still get to do all things I wanted to do even if I didn't have children. So honestly, I'm not missing out on anything.



12.) Everyday is a struggle. It's something new to get done, something to do, somewhere to go. But it's all worth it in the end



13.) That being a mom is the hardest job anyone can have and it's the most rewarding job you can have. Children are a blessing. You can have the worst day of the week, you can come home and start playing with your baby and you'll forget what kind of a day you had. It takes a woman to be a mom, a real mother. Because any female can have a baby.



14.) In 5-10 years i see myself married possibly pregnant for the last time hehe, have my career off of the ground, living in the house I've always wanted to have, just happy.

Jessica - posted on 04/08/2009

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1. I was 19 when I fell pregnant and my daughter was born 11 days after I turned 20.



2. I was so excited, worried about how my family would react but over the moon all the same!



3. Yes I told him and he was just as excited...our daughter was planned!



4. No complications, just some bad swelling.



5. Watching your child grow and learn is just the best.



6. He works long hours but spends as much time with her as he can. He is the best father and makes sure we have lots of family time.



7. Our families are great. We dont live near them but whenever we visit they babysit so that y partner and I can have some time to ourselves. They also help out by buying her new clothes and toys.



8. I'm a stay at home mum and I think its the best job in the world.



9. I completed year 12 wasn't pregnant till well after that...I didnt go to uni!



10. I think both positions have there challenges. Both are as hard and rewarding as the other.



11. My daughter has taught me so much about myself.



12. I have struggled as I have post Natal depression and anxiety but treatment and support have help.



13. Take each day one step at a time and never be afraid to ask for help. Every child has their bad days as every person does but the good far outway the bad.



14. I plan to have more children and look at going to uni to become a pre-school teacher. All in all I see myself happy!

Stephanie - posted on 04/08/2009

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1. I was 20 when i had my daughter

2. I was shocked...didn't believe it

3. yes, he was happy but couldnt believe it either

4. No complications during the pregnancy but did have some when i went into labor

5. the experience of someone calling you mom and getting to see them grow up and learn new things

6. yes, though we are not together he is every much in her life

7. my mom helps a lil..i dont really ask for help all that much

8. I did have a good job..got laid off

9.no i didnt have to

10. i dont really think one is easier than the other

11. Just being able to go out with friends when u want....

12.not really....have a lot of support

13. Just be patient with lil toddlers..dont take for granite what you have...and just enjoy being a mother

14. I see myself settled in a career and married maybe with another child

Christina - posted on 04/08/2009

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1. 17 then my 2nd at 18

2. i was happy and a little scared

3.yes i told the father and he was in shock he was 15 when i got pregnant and i was 16. it was a big thing for both of us. now we have a girl who will be 9 this yr and a son who will be 7 this yr.

4. i had gestational diabetes (diabetes runs in my family) and my blood pressure was so hig they induced me a month early

5.when you become a mom your life doesnt belong to you anymore. it belongs to your kids and their needs and wants. knowinig that they love you unconditionally and you love them the same way is very rewarding. its tough being a mom but you always figure out soeway to manage.

6.their father and i are not together anymore but he is in their life very much so. he is a good dad.

7. my family are my number one all the time. they help me out and i help them. i wouldnt be where i am today without my family.

8. i work in homecare. its a not a bad job and i like it. it doesnt pay real well but we manage. i am doing a accounting college course and i have family to watch the kdis so it doesnt cost me for a sitter.

9. i did drop out of school and stayed home with my children until my daughter was 3 and i went to school to get my ged. now i have my ged and my adult high school diploma.

10. theres no difference between being a mom or dad. you worry the same you love the same.

11. being a mom you learn just as much as your children do. you leanr many things how to love and be strong, patient, and many more rewarding things.

12. i do truggle. but if i didnt my life wouldnt be as rewatding as it is. i have an 8 yr old with ODD and ADD and a 7 yr old with ADHD. children in general are difficult but they learn from you .

13. to teen mothers: dont listen to anyone who says you cant do it or the people who run you down. teen moms and can do just as good of a job or better as any 30 yr old. we are all people and age is just a number.

14. 5 to 10 yrs i see myself with another child and having my carrer under way and still struggling like i do now. kids are wonderfull and...a handful

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Amberlynn - posted on 04/17/2009

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1. 18 I did graduate HS, it was the summer before college



2. I was scared to death and ashamed. I had managed to get a four year scholarship to college, that was down the drain.



3.Yes, he was gone by the end of the pregnancy--he was much older than I.



4.Yes, I was diagnosed with intracranial hypertension AKA pseudo tumor. I had to go through several spinal taps, other diagnostic tests, hospitalizations. A medication I needed I could not take until 20 weeks because of the med class.



5.I have two precious children now and another on the way. They are amazing, watching their different mind sets and temperments. One is a clown and always making jokes and has no fear. The other is dramatic but quiet and focused.



6. From my first, no. She has never met him. I had gotten married and had my son, then we divorced--his father is involved. She really thinks of my husband now as her father. It is amazing, now that she is older, how her mind works-- she knows about her biological father and that he has never nor will ever be around, she saw her birth certificate one day and saw that where FATHER should be it was blank--she just looked at it and said that is where "j" should be which is my husband now. They attach, and know who really does love them--they are smarter than most give kids credit for.



7.My father did everything for me while I was pregnant with my daughter. He took me to all appointments and sat in the ER numerous times for hours with me. He bought everything. She was his first grandbaby, after the initial shock and upset--he was elated!!



8.Yes, I am a nurse now.



9.No, lost my scholarships but had not started yet, so technically no.



10.Dad



11.Nothing at all. This apparently what I am meant to have and take care of.



12.No



13.Keep going, regardless of position there is a way to get whatever you want. You want them to be proud to call you "Mom". Everything is for them from here on out.



14. Watching my kids as they grow into adults...I hope I have done well!!

Lindsay - posted on 04/17/2009

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2. happy,scared



3.i dont talk to my father but my mom didnt belive me at 1st but she was a little disapointed but she still loved me and LOVES my dughter even more than me now lol



4.yes, gestational diabetes and high blood pressure



5.the best thing id have to say is when they just look at you and say i love you mommy ever thing they didnt worng or bad that day does not matter .and also they love you no matter what your there mother no mateter if ever single person in the world hates you they love you (at least till they grow up haha)



6.yes he is ive been with him for 8 years and as much as we drive each other crazy either one of us is going any where



7.we dont really need help we ok wit out help but are family do buy her every thing she wants but thats only becasue she the 1st grandchild and great grand child and the 1st girl in 7 years on my side



8.i dont but i just finshed school for medical assistant and im hoping to get a job doing that when my daughter goes to school



9.yes i did drop out of high school but i have my ged and my medical assistant diploma now



10.i dont know about everone else but i think its harder to be a mom, i care about my daughter so much its scary. i dont want anything to happen to her.im not saying her dad dont love her more than anything in the world but it just seems like im the more worried one



11.thats hard to say if you dont have any kids becasue you already dont know what its like to have them but now that i already have her i couldnt even think about how my life whould be with out her. shes my world and yes even though she drives me nuts sometimes and i hate that i cant just up and go when i feel like it but thats ok casue one day shell be big and i will be albe to do those things so for now im just going to injoy her becasue they do grow fast to fast



12.im not struggling becasuse i have her father but if he was not around yes i would be but i would do every thing i could not to be



13.1st if your not pregnant yet dont try to be.be a teen. theres plenty of time when your older to have a baby. babys are just cute clothes and happy faces. sometime they have medical problems, sometimes the dad leaves you even though he says he wont and they cost MONEY and lots of it and for those who already have a baby just try to in joy them while there little becasue before you now it there going to school and dont want you to kiss them in front of people and it will break your heart :(



14. i hope to have a good job and my duaghter to be gooding to a very good school and just being happy

Sadie - posted on 04/17/2009

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1) i have just recently had my first child at 21.

2) i was excited as we had planned it

3) yes told the father he was really happy

4) had no complications at all

5) knowing they will grow up to love u and just watching them grow up

6) the father is very much involved

7) both families help buy buying nappies clothes etc...

8) i used to work in a factory with my husband and his mum (who both worked in the office) but now im a full time mum

9) i went to high school and college and am a fully qualified nursery nurse

10) dad as u can go to work all day

11) nothing

12) no we arent struggling

13)enjoy it as time goes quick

14)in 5/10 years time hopefully have a few more children and our own place

Catherine - posted on 04/17/2009

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1) What age did you have your first child? 27





2) How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant? Nervous. I was on the pill the month before I conceived and the month before that I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks







3) Did you tell the father? If so, how did he react? Of course. He was excited but more reserved than with the first pregnancy.









4) Did you have any complications during pregnancy? if so, what were they? None whatsoever.











5)What's the best thing about motherhood? My son! I love cuddling up with him and nursing him. Knowing that my husband and I made him. Nurturing him, all of it really!











6) Is the father involved? As involved as he can be at this moment as he is currently deployed.







7) Does your parent's/ family help out at all? if so, how do they help? If no, are there other ways you get help? His mother and mine both came to visit but mostly I am on my own because we are stationed 4300 miles away from home. The military offers a bunch of programs for help ranging from in home guidance to respite care for families with a deployed parent.











8) Do you have a good job? Yes, being a mommy is the best job in the world.



Going to what I am guessing you meant, before my son was born I had a well paying job. I have kept only the one client who allows me to bring my son to work with me. When my son is too big to come with me I will be leaving that job to stay at home full time. From that one client I earn about 1,800 per month for four hours of work per week.







9) Did you drop out of school? if no, is/was it difficult? I completed my master's degree. I plan to get a PhD when my kid(s) are a bit older.







10) Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad? There are so many factors that play into that question, i think the answer is different for each set of parents. For my husband and I, I would say being the dad is more difficult because my husband had only 4 weeks with his son before he had to leave for a year.







11) What do you think you would be missing out on if you didn't have any children? I have always wanted to have children, so for me I would be missing out on a lifelong dream.









12) Are you struggling? if yes, what would help you become more successful?Struggling how? With what? More successful in what regard?



Breastfeeding has been challenging for my son and I but after 10 weeks and four lactation consultants and tons of practice I think we've got it down. My house is a wreck because I am alone, but that doesn't bother me much. I wish my husband was here, but I am just staying busy to keep my mind off that. I have been workign on accepting that my new body includes gigantic breasts and some small stretch marks on my belly. I am homesick from time to time, living somewhere that cost less to travel to hom from would help that.









13) What advice would you give to other mothers/ teen mothers out there? Accept that everything will not go according to plan and enjoy every minute of it all. It goes so quickly.











14) Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years? Probably still an army wife, and probably back in school. Definitely with a couple more children.



Check out this article about a teen mom. I am curious to to hear what you think!



http://media.www.smithsophian.com/media/...

Melissa - posted on 04/17/2009

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1)Concieved at 18, had her 3 months after 19th birthday
2) Scared (I was from a religious family) but I was excited also
3) The father took me to district 7. That's the 1st time I heard I love you (jerk)
4) My pregnancy was a breeze
5) My kids laughs and their little hands and feet (everything about my kids)
6) With my first? no he gave up custody with my other 2 yes he also raised the one that's not his!!!
7) My famliy is supportive. And they did help at first when the kids were little
8) No
9) Yes, but before I found out I was pregnant
10) Both!! Whoever works misses out on things. Whoever stays home goes insane from wild kids!!! (or that's just my wild kids. lol)
11) I thought about that the other day. I was like I would have gotten to go to parties and hang out with friends. But really, I didn't do any of that until I met my husband. So I guess I would have NO life without kids. LOL
12) Kind of. Getting rid of the husbands ex (she won't allow him to see his son but tries to get him to pay the maximum amount of child support out there!!!!!) And a cheap or free babysitter so I could go to work.
13) All life is hard. Try to make the best of everything. Things are bad, they could get worse. Things are Great, the could be better.
14) Hopefully with an at home career. Taking my kids to Cheer practice or Ball practice or the chess club. I don't care what my kids do as long as they still involve me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jessica - posted on 04/17/2009

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1) What age did you have your first child?
1st-17years old
2nd- 22years old
3rd- I will be 29
2) How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant?

I couldn't believe it. It couldn't happen to me.

3) Did you tell the father? If so, how did he react?
Yes, he was excited at first and that faded fast.



4) Did you have any complications during pregnancy? if so, what were they?

Yes, I had preterm labor it started at 6 months and then I started losing my amonic fluid.



5)What's the best thing about motherhood? Watching my kids grow and act alot better than I did.




6) Is the father involved?
Not my 1st child. He pays child support because they make him. He told me to tell my son what he needed to hear.


7) Does your parent's/ family help out at all? if so, how do they help? If no, are there other ways you get help? Yes, they are built in babysitters.





8) Do you have a good job?
Waitress


9) Did you drop out of school? if no, is/was it difficult?

No, I graduated a year early.

10) Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad?

Mom

11) What do you think you would be missing out on if you didn't have any children?

All of the love in the world.


12) Are you struggling? if yes, what would help you become more successful?

Life is a struggle that is what makes it fun.


13) What advice would you give to other mothers/ teen mothers out there?
Hang in there. It is never easy and never gets easier




14) Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years? Still taking care of my kids and hopefully in college.

Jocelyn - posted on 04/17/2009

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1) preg at 18 with my first, had him at 19. preg again with number 2 and i'm now 21
2) i was scared shitless. very angry at myself/my body for "allowing" this to happen to me
3) i did tell the father. he was shocked, but very happy :) he had always wanted a family
4) i was overdue and was retaining too much fluid so they induced me.
5) the best thing about motherhood is finding out how much you can love someone :)
6) yes he is involved. we actually got married last sept when our son was 21 months.
7) both of our families help out a lot. we lived with my parents for the first year and a bit and if money is really tight one month, they will buy diapers or new shoes for the boy.
8) i had a fairly good job before. i'm still working there, but only one day a week. (daycare costs are horrendous in my area) i don't like being a full-time stay at home mom, but you do what you have too)
9) i did finish highschool, and now i am taking a college course thru correspondence.
10) there is no difference. some days are easier for the mom, some are easier for the dad, but you each worry the same amount. each has their own stresses (for me, not being able to work and help with our finances, not getting to interact with other adults for him, having to work 2 jobs and never getting to spend time with us...but he's down to one job now! and in my way lol)
11) with children i'm missing out on...going to the bars, being able to travel, going to school (being a "normal" 21 yr old girl)
but without children i would be missing out on so much more. feeling unconditional love, all those "firsts", feeling soo proud about their accomplishments (no matter how small) having the feeling that "i grew an actual person!" i'm shaping a life :)
12) yes we are struggling a lot (financially). what would help us would be being able to get into low-income housing (we've been on a waiting list for 16 months..and still counting. average cost to buy a house in our area is approx $420000, and rent is on average $1600/month for 3 bedrooms) , gov't subsidies, lower day care cost (it is on average $900/month for ONE child, and we are expecting our second...), public transportation would help a lot (we only have one car). money issues do affect a relationship :(
13) make sure you have a great support system! it's the hardest job in the world to be a mother, you need patience. lots of it. don't listen to everything that YOUR mother tells you. do it your way and don't let anyone shame you for being young.
14) I plan on either going back to university when my kids are all in school full time, or starting up my own cafe (the business plan is complete...i just need the time/money now lol) maybe i'll do both.

Brittany - posted on 04/12/2009

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Quoting Erica:

Teen Pregnancy

Hey everyone, my name is Erica... I am doing a research paper on teen pregnancy and would like to ask a few questions i could hopefully get some feedack to. Teen mothers don't have to respond to this message.. it would also benefit me if mothers at different age ranges to participate in this... Thank you! feel free to be descriptive!

1) What age did you have your first child?
I'm pregnant with my first at 22

2) How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant?

I went through many emotions: shock, fear, excitement within a five minutes

3) Did you tell the father? If so, how did he react?

I told him, he was happy.... it was kind of planned


4) Did you have any complications during pregnancy? if so, what were they?

not so far, i'm considered full term today



5)What's the best thing about motherhood?

haven't got that far yet, but right now i think it will be seeing my child grow and become independent



6) Is the father involved?

yes

7) Does your parent's/ family help out at all? if so, how do they help? If no, are there other ways you get help?

we moved in with my cousin



8) Do you have a good job?
i don't, but i've started going to school online for a degree


9) Did you drop out of school? if no, is/was it difficult?

no, i've graduated

10) Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad?

probally a dad

11) What do you think you would be missing out on if you didn't have any children?

nothing


12) Are you struggling? if yes, what would help you become more successful?

yes, a degree


13) What advice would you give to other mothers/ teen mothers out there?


put your child first above all else and get a degree


14) Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years?



with a degree, working from home with a second child, maybe 2 more by 10 years (i will wait for 4 or 5 yrs before having my 2nd)





 

Megan - posted on 04/12/2009

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Quoting Erica:

Teen Pregnancy

Hey everyone, my name is Erica... I am doing a research paper on teen pregnancy and would like to ask a few questions i could hopefully get some feedack to. Teen mothers don't have to respond to this message.. it would also benefit me if mothers at different age ranges to participate in this... Thank you! feel free to be descriptive!

1) What age did you have your first child? 16yrs


2) How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant? scared to hell



3) Did you tell the father? If so, how did he react? yes great we went on 2 have 6 more




4) Did you have any complications during pregnancy? if so, what were they? no





5)What's the best thing about motherhood? everything





6) Is the father involved? yes



7) Does your parent's/ family help out at all? if so, how do they help? If no, are there other ways you get help?  yes 
my ex mother in law takes the kids when i need to do things




8) Do you have a good job? don't work i want to see my kids 1st smile  and steps



9) Did you drop out of school? if no, is/was it difficult? yes



10) Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad?  mum because there is a lot of dad out there that just walk away and the mum get left with it all


11) What do you think you would be missing out on if you didn't have any children?  don't want to think about not haveing my kids



12) Are you struggling? if yes, what would help you become more successful? no struggling at all




13) What advice would you give to other mothers/ teen mothers out there?  have money put away for a rainy day because anything can happen with kids get sick. need things for school. n sorry 2 say but it all cost money and this is what a lot of teen mother don't worry about. but once u have children they will and should always come 1st 




14) Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years?   10 yrs  my kids will be 23yrs, 21yrs, 19yrs, 18yrs, 15yrs, 14yrs, 12yrs, hopefuly not broke if i am will still be happy because i have my kids

Jennifer - posted on 04/12/2009

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2. VERY HAPPY



3.YES, HE WAS HAPPY AND SCARED



4.NO



5.TEACHING YOUR CHILD WHAT YOU KNOW



6.YES



7.I LIVE AWAY



8. YES



9.YES, IT WAS STUPID



10.NEITHER



11.THE JOY'S OF SEEING YOUR CHILD SMILE



12.NO, I'M JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE, EVERYONE STRUGGLES AT SOME POINT IN LIFE



13. DON'T  TAKE LIFE FOR GRANTED



14. I SEE MYSELF BEING A MOTHER  OF TWO, AND ALITTLE MORE PUT TOGETHER 

Rhiannon - posted on 04/11/2009

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1) I was 23 and 3 months.



2) I fell pregnant 11 days after a miscarriage (confirmed it 6 weeks after that). I was so scared and unsure, wondering if I could carry this baby or if I was going to have to go through another loss. I had a healthy baby boy, Landon born on the 30th of June, 2008.



3) I told my partner the same day I did the home test. He was apprehensive, understandably. After discussions, we decided that despite having wanted to wait around 6 months before trying again, we were blessed to be able to have the opportunity right away.



4) I had mild amounts of bleeding on about 5 occasions in the first 4 months. I left work early and had no more issues after that. At the birth, I had to be induced after my waters initially broke as my son had pooed. His heart rate dropped dramatically and he stopped breathing after delivery. This was quickly rectified by oxygen and a midwife slappin ghis feet (?!!!).



5) Whilst I was a capable parent right from the start, it took alot longer before I enjoyed it. Once I became accustomed to being a single mum for 50% of the time (my partner works away) I enjoyed it alot more. Now, the best part of my day is the smiles I get from my son when I get him out of the cot at the start of the day. His smiles and laughs, all of it really!!!



6) Yes, the father is not only involved, but also a hands on dad as well. I feel very lucky!



7) My family lives interstate, so unfortunately cannot help. My partners dad lives in a unit out the back, but is not used for child care at all for family reasons. His sister lives a 5 minute drive away, and takes Landon for one day a week for a couple of hours to give me a break when my partner is gone so much, and also a chance to get some jobs done (we are renovating)



8) I worked as a check out chick prior to leaving work in a warehouse involving alot of heavy lifting and very bad hours. Have no intention of going back there.



9) Not Applicable



10) I think both have its difficult sides. Mothers have alot more work, as they are primarily responsible for feeding (if breast feeding) and instinctively, babies more often want to be soothed by their mother. I think that fathers are sometimes forgotten a little as well, and are expected to do so many parts of parenting without as much reward.



11) I would have many things I don't have because I DO have children, but many people who don't have kids miss out on things I DO have. It is what you are ready for and what you want. I want cuddles and sloppy kisses and tears and laughs. And so I feel that peole who don't have that are missing out.!



12) We struggle, like all families. I struggle with continually changing from a single parent family to having my partner home permanently. And the usual struggles of all families, less money, less time just as a couple etc.



13)That some days suck. Some days are wonderful. And always remember that you are helping to make this person into who they will be when they are older and how they will influence others. So enjoy it for the breif time you have it!



14) I hope that my partner and I have sold our house, taken time to see round Australia with my partners job and then settled down to run our own business. We want to own a back packers in QLD.

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14) Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years?  I'll be finished school, and we'll be married. Definitely more children.
I'll be a teacher.

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Post a reply!1) What age did you have your first child? 20, 1.5 months shy of 21


2) How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant?  I was scared, and so sick I didn't have time to process it, but I gt excited pretty quickly



3) Did you tell the father? If so, how did he react?  I told him. He did not handle it very well, and we broke up for the entire pregnancy, and for the first 4 months after she was born.



4) Did you have any complications during pregnancy? if so, what were they?  I had hyperemesis gravardium(sp?), basically it was morning sickness x a billion. I had extreme heartburn, and I also got really bad pregnancy migraines, and mouth infections.





5)What's the best thing about motherhood? Everything. Everyday I wake up thinking I couldn't possibly love her anymore than I do at that moment, and then throughout the day I realize how much more I love her than I did a few hours earlier. Its just the most incredible feeling in the entire world to know how much she needs and loves you.



6) Is the father involved? Yes he is. We're back together, but he is out of the country for school and doesn't graduate for another year, so its tough, and he hates being away from us all the time. I bring her down to visit him,and he comes home whenever he can. He sees her on webcam all the time, and he calls everynight so that she can hear his voice. He loves his little princess and is doing everything he can to give her the world, and to make up for not being there very much when I was pregnant, and for missing out on so much after she was born.
He hates that he is having to miss her firsts of everything and makes me take pictures and videos all the time so its like he was really there.



7) Does your parent's/ family help out at all? if so, how do they help? If no, are there other ways you get help?  My parents are amazing. They are there for me 100% no questions asked. I live with my mum right now, until me and her father are done school. My grandma helps out a lot too, and my sister babysits for me all the time so I can go to work and school! I can't even express how much they all love her, they would do anything for her, and they do!
I pay my own way, I pay my mum rent, I buy everything that my daughter needs, but moral support and the occasional offering to buy her something she needs is extremely helpful and I can never repay them for everything they have done.
My 15 year old brother spent all his Christmas money on clothes for her! She didn't even need anything, he just went and picked out all of these things on his own and bought them!





8) Do you have a good job? I love my job, but its part-time, and if I wasn't going to school I would advance quickly throughout the company, but I have other plans for my life.



9) Did you drop out of school? if no, is/was it difficult?  I had to drop out of my program at college because I was so sick and unable to finish my semester. I'm going back, and fnally doing what I was always scared to!



10) Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad?  I'm not really sure. I think maybe the only thing that makes it easier to be a mum is that we have the initial bond with the child, before it is even born. The dad has to work to create a bond with a child, and I know how tough it is, especially since the dad may not get to see the child as often.


11) What do you think you would be missing out on if you didn't have any children?  Children are the most amazing thing. You learn so much about yourself when you have children. I truly believe that they can make you a better person. I would miss out on knowing and feeling the most incredible love you can ever experience.




12) Are you struggling? if yes, what would help you become more successful? I wouldn't say i'm struggling. I have everything I need, money, a roof over my head, i'm getting an education. I think i'm successful already, i'm accomplishing everything I need to to give my daughter the life she deserves. It will be easier once I am settled in a career, and we are finally living with her dad!



13) What advice would you give to other mothers/ teen mothers out there? That what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger! You are a strong person already, don't let your fear consume you. You have what it takes to be an incredible mother, and no matter how hard you think it may be, everytime you look at your child you will see just how great of a person you are. The moments when you are proud of your child is a reflection of you! You are the one teaching them to be the incredible person they are, and will be.
Nothing is greater than being a mother, and don't ever let anyone tell you that you can't do it because of your age! Your child won't know how old you are, and won't care, they will love you unconditionally, and will know that you love them.






14) Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years?

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1) What age did you have your first child? 20


2) How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant? Excited, we had been trying for 8 months



3) Did you tell the father? If so, how did he react?
yes, he was also excited



4) Did you have any complications during pregnancy? if so, what were they?
my son was born face up




5)What's the best thing about motherhood?
the crazy love!!!




6) Is the father involved?
yup


7) Does your parent's/ family help out at all? if so, how do they help? If no, are there other ways you get help? uh kinda? my mom lives above us and plays sometimes...





8) Do you have a good job? I'm a stay at home mom, best job in the world!!



9) Did you drop out of school? if no, is/was it difficult?
nope I was already done


10) Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad?
I don't think either are easy..


11) What do you think you would be missing out on if you didn't have any children?

the bonding, the fun! and the opportunity to share you knowledge of the world with another being.


12) Are you struggling? if yes, what would help you become more successful?
no



13) What advice would you give to other mothers/ teen mothers out there?
Just enjoy every minute of it because it goes by so fast!!




14) Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years? here, with my babies, more babies...and my husband, and our 3 cats.

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1) I was 17 when i had my first.

2) Numb, hadn't been with the father for long but we did have something special

3) I told him I thought I might be pregnant as i was over a week late and i was never late, I did the test and put it back in the box without looking at the window, took the box out to him and we opened it together.

4) No

5) Where shall I start? I think the best feeling is the love they give you even if you just told them off. i know that will stop when they get to teenagers i remember being the same with my mum and dad.

6) yes we are still together now 9 years on. we have 2 beautiful little girls, 1 is nearly8 and the other is 16 months and we are getting married this year.

7) when i had my 1st we still lived with my mum and dad, yes they helped a lot but i always felt like i was doing something wrong and just befor we moved out it got so bad that i had depression and i was never aloud to do anything with my baby. i realy found it hard to deal with my emotions and live in that kind of environment

8) My partner (and the father of both my girls) has his own company so i dont need to work i can lookafter ther girls and the home. i help out in the office when im needed or if they need cover at the unit. but i think i have the best and hardest job going. its 24/7 with no hollidays or weekends off but the bennifits and pay is fantastic. if all pay cheques came as mothersday cards with hugs and kisses the world would be a better place =)

9) I had left school and was working in a supermarket, i had enroled in an art college which i loved but as time went on i felt that the people there didn't want to get a job and so to stop there parents naging them they went to college and disrupted the classes and made it hard for the people that wanted to be there. so i left and spent the days with my partner in his shop and worked in the evenings.

10) Thats not easy to answer although a stay at home mum looks after the house and the kids and everything that gose with it and it is very hard work. the dad misses all that, the first steps, the first words, the first half understanding what you are saying to them. he misses all that and on top he has to get up every day and leave his family all day, the people he loves the most in the world and go to work knowing he will miss so much.

11) I had always wanted childern some day but god had other plans for me and i thank him every day for the 3 most important people in my life, i wouldn't be without them now for the world. children bring so much happiness and love to everyone if thats all they are shown thats all they know how to give. i wouldn't want to be without that now

12) i did struggle with my first child because untill we moved out of my parents house my mum had just taken over looking after my child and i had no mental strength to stop it it was very hard for a wile but my eldest and i are now the best of friends and our relationship is stronger than ever.

13) take a day at a time, dont think about what you could have been but what you will be now you have a different outlook on things. i know its hard but you can have children and a life and a job and go out with friends, it just takes time to ajust and if you have a problem tell your doctor, they can help and they wont try and take your baby way they are there to help.

14) Married, with 2 kids maybe a dog, living here by the sea and enjoying my life with my family.

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Teen Pregnancy

Hey everyone, my name is Erica... I am doing a research paper on teen pregnancy and would like to ask a few questions i could hopefully get some feedack to. Teen mothers don't have to respond to this message.. it would also benefit me if mothers at different age ranges to participate in this... Thank you! feel free to be descriptive!

1) What age did you have your first child? 17


2) How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant? shocked but happy



3) Did you tell the father? If so, how did he react? yes he was happy




4) Did you have any complications during pregnancy? if so, what were they? no





5)What's the best thing about motherhood? u cant explain the feeling of holding ure baby in ure arms its the most amazing feeling





6) Is the father involved? yes we are maried and have another child



7) Does your parent's/ family help out at all? if so, how do they help? If no, are there other ways you get help?  yes both mine and my husbands family are awsum the look after kids anytime and enjoy having them





8) Do you have a good job?
i work part time for hugs homecare my husband is dairyfarmer


9) Did you drop out of school? if no, is/was it difficult? no i left school at 16



10) Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad?  dads have no where near the emotional strees a mother has



11) What do you think you would be missing out on if you didn't have any children?  i love the fact i had my kids young




12) Are you struggling? if yes, what would help you become more successful? sometimes my oldest is 7 now and man he streeses me out sumdaysno one tells you it gets hardere the older they get and how to deal with it its really hard sometimes 




13) What advice would you give to other mothers/ teen mothers out there?  just because ure young doesnt mean you will be a bad parent  if anything i think young mums make the best mums





14) Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years? in ten years time my kids will be teen ages man thats gona be fun but after they leave home i want to travel and do the things your meant to do before you have kids because having kids young means i will still be young enough to do the fun things i havent done.


 

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1. a month before I turned 22

2. My exact statement, through tears, was, "I'm to young to have a baby!" A day later I was excited cause I had been crying about wanting a baby just a week before I found out. I was a bit hormonal.

3. Yes. He was excited and reminded me of how I wanted a baby.

4. I got PUPPPS (not sure of the # of P's). It is an allergic reaction to your pregnancy hormone. I also had to be induced because my body wasn't wanting to go into labor. All of my kids where born very late.

5. There is a completely different type of love that you will only ever know about when you have your own baby. I've had friends that say they love their dog like their baby. I just want to laugh, cause they have no idea what that love feels like. It is a love that only a mother can understand.

6. yes. as involved as the military will let him.

7. We are a military family so extended family is never close enough to help out. We rely on friends, support groups, and church community.

8. I'm a Stay at home mom and my husband is military. He is gone a lot, but he has a steady reliable income. It depends on your opinion of a good job.

9. I was in the navy and had to get out. They wanted to deploy me and my husband when our son was 4 months old.

10. I would say it is easier to be a dad in general. They don't have to give their body over to someone else for 9 months or longer (if you breastfeed).

11. Everything! To me, family is life...having one, raising one and being part of one, that is what life is all about for me. If I didn't have children, I wouldn't have a life!

12. We are on military pay, yeah, we are struggling a bit. If child care wasn't so expensive, I could go back to college and get a degree. Then I could support our family while my hubby got out of the military and went to college.

13. Don't be lazy about disciplining. It is a tough job, but if you slack on it your life will suck while you back track and correct.

14. Hopefully with a degree, good job, with my hubby and 4 kids.

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1. I was 27 when I got pregnant. I am now 28 years old.



2. I was happy, but scared at the same time. I had already had 2 miscarriages and was scared that I would miscarry this one as well. He is now 11 mos old. and our only child.



3. I am married to the father. I told him for each of my 3 pregnancies. He was happy, speechless, and scared.



4. I was considered high risk due to my previous 2 miscarriages. 2 weeks before my due date, Iwas taken out of work due to exessive swelling in my legs.



5. I love everything about being a mom. Watching my child grow and learn, looking to me for guidance, direction, and approval. The hugs and kisses and hearing him say "Mum-ma".



6. My husband is involved with our child on a daily basis. He works 12-18hr days 6 days a week so he isn't involved in a lot of the daily routine. As our son is getting older, he is becoming more involved with his son and playing more with him.



7. Our family lives about 300 miles away. My family helps out more than his. My parents will buy our son a lot of "gifts". My sister has a son who is 20 mos older, so she gives me a lot of his hand-me-downs for toys, clothes, bottles, swing, etc.



8. I had a job when I was pregnant and was let go 6 weeks after I returned from maternity leave due to budget cut backs in my department of the hospital. I have now been out of work for the past 8 1/2 months and looking for a new job.



9. I graduated from college 4 years prior to getting pregnant.



10. One way or the other it really isn't "easier" to be a mom or a dad. With me being a stay at home mom, I take on almost all of the daily parenting of our son, but my husband hates having to be away from us so much due to working.



11. If it wasn't for having my son right now, I would be going insane due to not working. I live in a rural area far away from family. Before we had our son, I used to work long hours and rarely had a day off. Once our son gets older, we will start going camping again. I do miss the one-on-one time that my husband and I used to have.



12. I don't think that I am struggling. Some days are more "interersting" than the others depending if he is teething or not feeling good.



13. Don't be afraid to ask for help! Patients, patients, patients... Being a mother is the most rewarding job, but it can also be a thankless job some days. Don't lose sight of your dreams.



14. Being a mother to maybe 2-3 kids, a good wife, going back to school to get my masters degree, working, having our own home.



Good luck on your paper!!

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2= A little nervous but then excited

3= Dad had the same reaction

4= No complications at all

5= The best thing about Motherhood is being a mum, you have created a child. Someone that relies soley upon you to teach about the world. Everything you do with your child creates who and what they will be in the future.

6= Dad is involved in all areas of bub, all decisions about our child are made together

7= Our combined families helped not only with babysitting every once in a while but teaching us how to teach bub. Parenthood is learnt not always instinctive

8= I have a casual jobs, a butcher (family thing), manage bar staff at the local racecourse and am currently studying cert 3 in Child Studies.

9= I had already finshed my high schol education

10= I think although dads do a great job, some even are full time but usually its mum who is at home mojority of the time therefore foot most of the crying, feeding, cleaning etc.

11= I sympathise for people who miss the chance to have children, it is the most amazing thing you can do in your life.

12= I struggled in the begining, although very rewarding it is also very hard work. I had a supportive family and was not afraid to ask for help when I needed it. The Child Youth Health Center was amazing with advise, plenty of information and just someone to talk to.

11= Dont be afraid to ask for help, reach out beacause their are plenty of people in your situation who have been their and generally are keen to help each other out. Find out about baby groups, get out of the house and enjoy your child with others.

12= I see myself having another child and getting further in my careers to be succesful in what ever I choose to do. You need to believe in yourself because your child sees, hears and feels everything you do.

Goodluck with your paper, I hope I have helped in some way!

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1) 18 when I got prego, 19 when I had her. (Im 25 now)

2) Scared Shitless! But, it wasnt the babies fault, so I tried to be excited!

3) Yes I told him right away, he flipped, wanted me to concider all options, but there was only 1 option for me, I was having a baby with or without him.

4) Nope, no complications at all, and the labor & delivery were a breeze for me :)

5) My daughter is 5 now & we have a son who is 14 months. I stay home with both of them and I just enjoy watching the world change through their eyes. Its like seeing it for the first time all over again!

6) Yep we've been happily married for 3 yrs

7) Yes, I lived with my mom when I brought my daughter home from the hosp til she was about 10 months. She was, and still is, my biggest support & we wouldnt be where we are now without her. But all of our family supported us.

8) My husband is a retail manager until he finishes college & Im a stay at home mom & full time student.

9) Nope, didnt have to, I got prego a few months after graduation.

10) Well, thats tough, Im at home all day with the kids which is sometimes really tough, but he is at work all day and doesnt get to spend as much time with them as he would like.

11) omg I cant even imagine life without my kids, altho when we get the weekend off bc they are with grandparents its really a welcomed break :)

12) We live paycheck to paycheck with not much room for extras but we live comfortably. When my husband and I finish school Im sure it will be easier.

13) Stay close to family, they are the rock that you cant live without. And no matter how hard it gets, it only gets better :)

14) Still happily married and enjoying watching my kids become teens, or dreading it haha and both of us enjoying our careers!

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1) What age did you have your first child?

16 yrs old



2) How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant?

Scared, mad, happy, confused,naive, pissed, but mostly scared



3) Did you tell the father? If so, how did he react?

No..not until i was like 6 or 7 months...he was kinda speechless



4) Did you have any complications during pregnancy? if so, what were they?

nope



5)What's the best thing about motherhood?

The unconditional love your children can give you



6) Is the father involved?

very very little



7) Does your parent's/ family help out at all? if so, how do they help? If no, are there other ways you get help?

Im all alone....i have me my kids and my curent partner and my two sisters....I really estranged from my family



8) Do you have a good job?

I think its good....work for a mojor sneaker company



9) Did you drop out of school? if no, is/was it difficult?

I dropped out cuz I ahd no babysitter and it was hell!! I have been on my own since I was 17 but I loved school and I'm currently working on my GED





10) Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad?

Dad....the children are ALWAYS...regardless of the situation....with the mother....Dads can just pck up and go whenever they feel like it



11) What do you think you would be missing out on if you didn't have any children?

Just a simple social life...that kinda goes down the drain once you have kids



12) Are you struggling? if yes, what would help you become more successful?

Im sorta struggling but I have someone that backs me up but its hard cuz Im still young and wanna make something outta myself but I still have to put food on the table



13) What advice would you give to other mothers/ teen mothers out there?

As hard as it may get at times if you have the drive and ambition to do something with your life its possible.....Shoot for the stars!!



14) Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years?

I see myself with a carrer and happy with my boys

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1) What age did you have your first child? I became pregnant at 19, had my son at20.


2) How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant? excited scared



3) Did you tell the father? If so, how did he react?
Yes, he is/was my husband, he was scared but excited.



4) Did you have any complications during pregnancy? if so, what were they?

I ended up w/ a c-section because his heart rate dropped 3 times., mainly due to my small frame and his big size.



5)What's the best thing about motherhood?
simple pleasures like watching him learn something new or him saying "I Love you" at a random time.




6) Is the father involved?
very, hes a wonderful dad we do nearly everything 50/50


7) Does your parent's/ family help out at all? if so, how do they help? If no, are there other ways you get help? We mainly due everything for ourselves,however, my parents due babysit for us for free if there off when we both work.




8) Do you have a good job?

not wonderful but pretty good.

9) Did you drop out of school? if no, is/was it difficult? college I did, I went to technical school it was faster and easier for me to find a job.



10) Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad?
I dont think its easier for either my husband and I are pretty 50/50 hes in the military so hes gone a lot and trying to be daddy too, isnt any easier then it would be for him to be mom


11) What do you think you would be missing out on if you didn't have any children?
everything important to me



12) Are you struggling? if yes, what would help you become more successful?
no, im doing okay im reaching my goals just a little slower than i expected



13) What advice would you give to other mothers/ teen mothers out there?

Just to smile and keep your chin up even on the worst days you'll realize you wouldnt want to change it for the world



14) Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years?Happy and successful..whether im a stay at home mom or work full-time we'll be perfectly fine.

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2) My first child is adopted. I didn't have any conception problems or anything. We were just trying to help a family friend and her child out of a bad situation. I was ready to start having children though so when I found out she wanted us to adopt her baby I was ecstatic!
3) My husband actually brought up the adoption of my son to me. My daughter is 9 mos old. When I found out I was pregnant with her I was very nervous even though the pregnancy was planned because my husband is a worrier. It went great though. He was a little worried, but mostly happy.
4) None. Three weeks after my son was born we found out he had a heart condition and he almost died, but he is fine now. That was terrifying. Also my daughter inhaled some fluid in the birth canal and got pneumonia so both of my children were alright in the womb, but had problems once they got here.
5) Hearing I love you Mommy, and the hugs.
6) Yes.
7) My in-laws help a lot. They have my son over a lot and I'm sure will do the same with my daughter once she stops breast feeding. My family is out of town. Both sets of parents do also help a lot in buying clothes and things for the kids. Helps take some of the burden off of us.
8) I have a great job. I'm a stay at home mom.
9) No.
10) A mom because I never wonder if what I am doing with my life is worthwhile. My husband on the other hand struggles frequently with a lack of fulfillment in his job and feels like he is wasting his life. He loves us and wants to take care of us, but sometimes he wants to be doing something for more than just support for his family.
11) A level of maturity and fulfillment that I don't think you can get any other way.
12) Only financially. Because I stay at home it saves us money on child care, but it does cut us back to only one income and that is difficult.
13) Don't give up and remember that your child loves you even if they're not acting like it.
14) Homeschooling my two kids and loving it!

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1. i was 18 with my first and 21 with my second



2. scared but excited



3.yes i told the father and he was excited



4.none until labor. both my children had the umbilical cords around their necks



5.the unconditional love that is there between you and your children



6.yes with my second but he is an amazing father to both of them



7.yes my mother has helped me out alot. she babysits and is there for me also emotionally when i need her



8.currently i am a full time student but i had a pretty good job before i started the school year in retail management



9.no i stayed in high school and graduated and am in my 3rd year of college. it is hard but i know for the sake of both my kids and their futures it will be worth it.



10.it is the same. there is equal amounts of responsibility with each role.



11.becoming a parent you grow so much as person you become more responsible alot quicker so i think that would be it



12.it can be difficult being a parent but struggles..no



13.stay in school if you can there are alot of programs out there now that can help you succeed



14.graduated with a good job

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1) What age did you have your first child?

21.. I got pregnant with my little girl 3 weeks after my 21st birthday.. Good birthday present and valentines day present. (born 2.10.09)





2) How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant?

I had a feeling that I was even before we really knew.. I have always wanted to be a mother and I would never change it for the world .She is such a blessing.







3) Did you tell the father? If so, how did he react?

Yes.. And need his own time for the first month.. But very excited when I was 6 months at the first ultrasound and found out he was gonna have a princess !! And ever since then has been great !!







4) Did you have any complications during pregnancy? if so, what were they?

Gestational diabetes and animic.. So I was at the doctors twice a week for the last 3 months of my pregnancy..











5)What's the best thing about motherhood?

Seeing her smile !!











6) Is the father involved?

Yes the father is involved more than I thought he would be ..







7) Does your parent's/ family help out at all? if so, how do they help? If no, are there other ways you get help?

Both our familes love her to pieces.. First grandchild on both sides !! Very spoiled little girl !!









8) Do you have a good job?

I am a mother that is a great job..







9) Did you drop out of school? if no, is/was it difficult?

I graduated from hs in 05.. And have two degrees from college in 4 years .. But this past winter was hard on me cause of school and parking so far from class..lol







10) Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad?

Being the mom.. Everything is natural to us. Dad’s have to learn everything ..







11) What do you think you would be missing out on if you didn't have any children?

We are only 21 and 22.. So enjoying going out and having no worries.. But I would rather have my baby girl than anything else right now..









12) Are you struggling? if yes, what would help you become more successful?

Yes Rylee and I live with my parents and colt (father ) lives with his parents. We need to be under one roof !!









13) What advice would you give to other mothers/ teen mothers out there?

Do what is right for the child.. Don’t force a relationship just because you have a child together.









14) Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years?

5 years ill be 26.. Hopefully under one roof with her father and a house we can call home.. and sending Rylee off to school lol maybe another child J



10 years - ill be 31.. Married and happy and providing for my family..



Some extra info.. Colt and I were together just two months before I became pregnant. Our whole relationship has been while I was pregnant. so Colt had to deal with me and nagging and everything

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1) What age did you have your first child?
             22

2) How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant? 
          happy, scared

3) Did you tell the father? If so, how did he react?
           yes he was happy



4) Did you have any complications during pregnancy? if so, what were they?
             yes, im allergic to being pregnant and actually had a rash all over my tummy. she also got stuck during labor and her heart rate dropped so i had to have an emergency c-section




5)What's the best thing about motherhood?
              seeing that little face everyday and watching her explore new things




6) Is the father involved?
              not her real dad hes in the army(we got divorced when she was 3 months), but her step dad has been in her life since she was 6 months old






7) Does your parent's/ family help out at all? if so, how do they help? If no, are there other ways you get help?
      my parents were a greeat support system, still are. my curren husband is in the army and they help out a lot when he is deployed.




8) Do you have a good job?
           i am a forensic psychology assistant, i work with the family court system and spend my days talking to judges and attorneys


9) Did you drop out of school? if no, is/was it difficult?
          no, i actaully continued school after my first and while i was pregnant with my second and my husband was deployed in iraq


10) Do you think it's easier to be a mom or a dad?
         haha the dad.


11) What do you think you would be missing out on if you didn't have any children?
              being a mom its a wonderful thing, yes we all have our days where we want to strangle them but i couldnt imagine life without them



12) Are you struggling? if yes, what would help you become more successful?

         i was for a period of time. i stayed in school kept a very close support system and remembered i wasnt the only one who had sturggles


13) What advice would you give to other mothers/ teen mothers out there?

get an education



14) Where do you see yourself in 5/10 years?



finishing my law degree so i can stop being the assistant.lol

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1) I was 17 when I conceived and 18 when I had my girl.

2) Not too much either way, I accepted that I was but knew that it was going to be hard.

3) Yes, he didn't take it very well... we were young.

4) Nope, my doctor described it as being so ordinary and normal that it was forgettable. lol.

5) Having them come barreling at you when you come home after being out telling you how much they missed you (even for the 5 minute drive to the corner store), the I love you mommy's, the hugs & kisses, the complete joy and pride you feel when your children reach new milestones, seeing that your morals and values are present in your children because you did your best and the lessons stuck. =)

6) Bio- dad is not involved but they have a great Dad nonetheless (step-dad who IS dad)

7) Yup, they have all along. From babysitting to lending me a few bucks if I ran short.

8) I do. I'm a warranty clerk for a small company. =) I get to work from home now too so that's even better.

9) Nope, I graduated a week and a half before I gave birth.

10) I can't honestly answer this question since I've never been a Dad. However I think that it can be difficult for both and rewarding for both as well. There are dead beat mom's out there too just like dead beat dad's. On the other side there are dad's who do everything just as there are mom's who do everything. It really depends on the person's unique situation.

11) I think I'd miss a lot of the simple things in life that as adults we tend to forget. The innocence and pure logic that kids can come up with sometimes.

12) The only thing I struggle with is finding enough hours in a day. lol.

13) Accidents happen. Embrace what the life your about to have. It will change your world and for the better if you let it. If your family is unaccepting, find a support system elsewhere. If you truly do not feel like you can't handle a baby though don't feel bad about the choices you make to give it up. What's best for the baby is all that matters.

14) Since my newborn will be in school in 5 years I see myself going back to work in the office by then. My hubby and I having moved out of the city onto the acreage we want.
10 years... good grief our oldest will be 19 and out of the home probably. Ah! I'll have teenagers. lol!

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