terrible twos!!!any advise out there? Anxious for advise on ways that worked for u...

Krystal - posted on 09/20/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My little girl just hit the terrible twos and man oh man has it been a change. Temper tantrums in the middle of the store. You can't bust their butts anymore cause its abuse (even though i couldn't do it hard enough to bruise anyhow) bu she does it for spite and everything i am trying seems to not be workin at all. Does anyone have any advise for me..Always up for options to try or take into consideration...always appreciated!!!

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Katerina - posted on 09/21/2009

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i don't know why they call it terrible two's. my daughter is 3 and still slips into tantrums when i am not prepared. like Tegan said though, i too find it helpful if i explain things to her beforehand. for example, when we are getting ready to hit the shops i will give her my game plan- ''first we will go to this store for this, that store for that etc... and IF you behave we can pass by the pet store and say hi to the puppies". sometimes i will give her $2 and if she is behaving she can spend it either on a carousel ride or a cheap sticker book/toy. it takes a while longer to get the shopping done in all, but if you make time for your little one and fit in something she would like, she will look forward to it and most likely behave. another trick i use in the supermarket is getting her to help me- "take this bag and bring me 3 green apples" etc. at home i do the same. i have a boy and a girl and i find that my daughter respects me more if i treat her as an equal and act as if i am depending on her help to get things done (and i won't lie, most things need to be re-done properly when she goes to bed, but the tantrums are far fewer than days i make less time to set her tasks)... good luck & whatever you do do not show your frustration- they can SMELL it hahaha

Tegan - posted on 09/21/2009

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my daughter is about to turn 2yrs and she has being tantruming for awhile. i find giving her warning about things eg. we are comming up to some play equipment but were not playing today. as well as simple negotiating like No we are not having chocolate for dinner but maybe if you eat yoru dinner THEN you can have a piece. that sort of thing. i find its about minimising the tantrum since preventing it is alot of the time impossible.



Another important thing though is when iam talking to her she needs to look at me so i know she is listening. good luck :)

Miekele - posted on 09/20/2009

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Hi Miekele here my daughter went through thta phase a looooooooooooooooong time ago lol but not really threatening them but when they dont wanna listen or they wanna pull away just tell them fine you can stay here while i do so&so and shop&have fun while u sit here and throw a fit or things they really care about TV etc...if theyre glued to that object and they cant listen if they have it take it away while your talking to them hope this helped!!

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