The love of my life isn't ready to be a dad!

Gemma - posted on 03/04/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Hi everyone. Im sorry this isn'y a happy post. I would like some help please. I met the most amazing guy, hes 20 years old (im 23) we met last year but only got together just after new year. 2 weeks ago I descovered I was pregnant. I have been on the pill for 3 years and i don't miss any. We discovered that i had fallen pregnant the very first time we slept together. I have never met anyone quite like him, he's kind, sweet and gentle and I just fell in love with him. When we dicovered the pregnancy, we were so shocked as we've only been goin for 6 weeks. We considered abortion, but to be honest, I don't think I was ever considering it, if i was it was for his sake, as he was so scared. I know he's not ready because he's so young and i do not want to ruin his life. We have only been together a short while but I just don't think i could go through with an abortion, physically and mentally. I have a nearly 5 year ld daughter also, so my concern is also that i will be left alone with 2 kids and that i'l never find love or work. my friends and family aren't exactly there for me, although they are trying to tell me i should do the right thing by me. I don't want to lose him but i dont want to have an abortion. he says he'l b there for me whatever i decide but i highly doubt we will make it through this. if i abort i will resent him and vise versa if i go against his will. i just need him to realise his life wont be over if we have this baby. he just isn;t thinking about me at all, it's all me me me and he's just worried about his life, which is fine as i am worried too but im so scared. i struggle as it is now being a single mum of 1. please help :(

ps I dont want any horrible comments as they will b disregarded, thanks.

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Helen - posted on 03/04/2013

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I don't think anyone is ever fully ready and I can understand why he's scared but you have to make the decision on how you feel and consider the idea you might have to raise this child on your own if you decide to keep it. You say you have a 5 year old child you are already a package deal. I know this is not easy on you but as for your comment on that you will never find love you already have unconditional love from your child and if it doesn't work with this guy you will find that person who loves you, the whole package deal when you least expect it I am talking from personal experience. We all get scared at times it dose not mean your weak its a sure sign that we are all human :-)

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