Tired of being mentally, emotionally and verbally abuse.i can't let my 3 year old see me going through this

Ty - posted on 10/20/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I'm tired of my childs father treating me like crap. It's has gotten to the point where I am so depressed. I can't let my daughter see me this way. He has drained everything out of me. I just can't take it. I feel like he is acting like he's a probation officer and needs to know my where abouts every second of the day. His family acts like he should have power over me to. They are all fake I hear them talk crap about me all the time and smile I my face. I just want to get away from all of them. He acts like he doesn't want to leave and live with his mother forever. The only reason I stayed is beause I'm not financially stable. I'm getting a car next year at the beginning of the year and I was planning on leaving. I'm working now I just need means of transportation. He won't take me anywhere and I have to beg. I've put up with this for five years! masking my feelings like everything was fine and dandy. I can't do it anymore it's breaking me down. I was thinking of taking my baby and moving out of state I would of course let him see her he just couldn't know where I lived. We would meet in a public place. I wanted to know if I did that could he make me move back to the state he lives in of he didn't want to travel to see his daughter? Of if I stayed in the same star but moves Atleast 2-3 hours away could he try to make me move closer?? Don't get me wrong he takes care of our daughter but treats me like crap.

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Christie - posted on 10/23/2014

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I have been there! Hardest thing I ever did was walk away but it was the greatest thing I could possibly do for my daughter. It sounds like he is establishing his control over you to break you down completely. That's the first stage of abuse. Next is when he becomes violent. That may seem like an impossibility to you, I did too but that's where this will progress. You never want to get to that point because it will get worse each time. This month is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month and as a survivor of domestic abuse I can tell you that domestic abuse is not just physical. Verbal, mental and psychological abuse is just as wrong. I hope you find the strength to get away. If you need anything email me crales11@gmail.com. I hope you have a good day today because we both know there are never "great" days. There are good, bad and terrible. You are stronger than you think.

User - posted on 10/21/2014

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I recently left my husband. And I feel our situations are similar except my husband ended up going to the pen. I waited almost a year after he was incarcerated to leave. I knew that if I was going to do it I had to while he was locked up. Ive spoken to my mother about moving out of state with my son and this is what she told me. If you move out of state you have to have permission from the birth father unless you go to court and prove he is a danger. You can however live wherever in the same state. This may be wrong. You should seek professional advice from a lawyer. I know its never easy leaving. My husband was a good man and a great father but he was too controlling. I couldn't go anywhere for more than ten minutes. I couldn't speak to other guys or I was cheating. And I had to have permission to go see my family in another state and that was before we had our son. So I know where your coming from. Stay strong for your baby. It's hard believe me I know its hard. But you can do it I have faith. :)

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