tired of what non parents have to say about parents "bringing their kids"

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i thought this would make for some good conversations and stories. i am honestly just sick of knowing non parent types that can't have respect for the fact that i have kids and can't always afford a sitter. not even that i can't afford it; just that i shouldn't have to feel like if i want to hang with old friends i have to do it without my family. i don't know about yal, but my kids are basically attached at the hip; my "sidekicks". so it just pisses me off when people say don't bring em. i wouldn't put my children in harms way if it was a party or something, but just visiting with people. WTF is up w that?

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Sandy - posted on 07/08/2009

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I've found that once you have kids, you pretty much have to "graduate" to the next group of friends -- ones that have kids. I still have plenty of friends that don't have kids, but there is a distance growing between us. It's the same at any changing point of your life, whether it's graduating high school, getting married, becoming a business professional, or having a baby.

Maybe you could start having more get-togethers at your place and let your friends know that they're welcome to come over, but it's your house and your FAMILY will be there as well.

Shaena - posted on 07/08/2009

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hey i feel you i have a 4 yr , 3 year old twins and they are a handfull i tell my freinds if im invited so are my children . i only get a sitter if its a party or if im going out with their daddy)

Jessica - posted on 07/08/2009

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I disconnect with those type of friends because IMHO they aren't really friends if they are that much unacceptability and are so easily annoyed. It's easier to circle with fellow parents and people who love kids.

Hafeeza - posted on 07/08/2009

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Maybe You should Find a new group of friends...(you know, Like with people who have Children already) Sometimes its hard for "non-parents" to understand what We parents go thru or feel about taking our children with us everywhere we go... Its easy for someone else to say "Oh why dont u hire a baby sitter." ...

Kate CP - posted on 07/08/2009

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I never have that problem because I tell people to stuff it if they don't want me to bring my daughter. I won't go if it's not kid-friendly. But, that's just me. :P

Lauren - posted on 07/08/2009

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i agree that there is a time and place and i'm sure mom wants some alone time w/ friends too. But c'mon now if its just hanging out at a friends house or something there is no reason you shouldn't be able to bring your child... luckily i don't really have too much of a problem w/ this because most of my friends DO have children... but i have noticed that my friends that don't have children stopped asking me to hang out... as all they want to do it go to the "bar". I had to grow up pretty fast and thats just not my scene... i'd much rather be at home with my little man! So don't stress about it... it is what it is... if they dont want your child around then they're not that great of friends in the first place! because like you said... it's a package deal!

Laura - posted on 07/08/2009

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i must admit i find it really frustrating, If my husbands friends have a bbq in the garden during the day, nothing crazy just a little get together. But no children allowed! Most of them like my kids, and I would never stay late/drink/just let them get on with it, but I often feel left out as I'm always the one stuck indoors! sorry didn't mean to rant.

Natasha - posted on 07/08/2009

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I take my son to the movies, and they aren't all Disney movies. He loves movies, he just sits there and watches.

Crystal - posted on 07/08/2009

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Seriously, I got invited to the Angels game last night. And they are amazing seats, 6th row behind the Angels dugout. I make plans to pick up the baby from my mom after work and go, then after I get everything ready.. they tell me: No, we kind of want this to be an adult night. Really? My baby is one of those rarities that doesn't cry or complain, like most of my cousins did. So it doesn't make a difference if he's there or not. It's just frustrating because they(non-parents) put me in a position where I have to choose my baby, or _____. What.. the hey?!

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I get both sides cuz i wanna hang out with w/o my kid and sometimes its just easier to bring her . There is "adult" time and "group" time, maybe your friends are being a lil hard on you about it so why not try to work out a deal with them??



and rhonda, you're freakin retarded , who the hell brings kids to the movies unless is some disney movie. get real

Natasha - posted on 07/08/2009

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I have found since having my son that i generally stopped hanging out with the people that had a problem with him being there. I have told people we are a package deal, you want me you have to have him as well. I have taken my son to a party, he is never in any danger though.

Rhonda - posted on 07/07/2009

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tell me bout dat shiit. I was mama for 4 kids. I likes going to movie and I takes em all. no 1 liekes me takin my tribe to movies. is lieke a brek 4 me cause they run in row

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yea true. i guess everyone is different. i'm not just talking about get togethers tho. i'm talking just anytime in general. if they wanna know me they should at least have interest in my life. (my life=my kids)

Krista - posted on 07/07/2009

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Actually it doesn't bother me. If a friend is having a get together, or anything, and I know they don't want kids, I either a.) leave my child with a sitter/grandparent/uncle/what-have-you, or b.) don't go.

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