To tell or not to tell?

Vicki - posted on 08/27/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I have a job interview tomorrow. I'm about 6 months pregnant and am wondering if I should bring that up or not. I've had some people say I should just be honest and others have told me not to say anything about it at all unless they bring it up. What do you think?

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Shawna - posted on 08/28/2009

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It really depends on the job, I hope it is a great job that they NEED you in, you are too valuable and they wont want to let you go, you tell them in the interview that you are pregnant and NEED this job too to support the child on the way, AND maybe they can work something out after you have the baby that you can work from home for a little while, that way neither the job nor yourself "suffer" from you being out on maternity leave. They are going to have to plan for that leave and the sooner they know about it, the easier it will be to plan- just be glad you do not live in an "AT WILL" state. Any employer up here can fire us, and they do not have to even give a reason-Alaska

But defenitly try the temp agencies if the interview does not work out, it does not hurt to have a backup plan.

Ashley - posted on 08/27/2009

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i would tell them. i'm not sure about where you live but where i am if you have been working for under 3 months they can fire you for anything and dont even have to give an explination for it. they can just say sorry it's not working out. you are going tohave to end up telling them pretty much as soon as you start. i would def be upfront about it. it would be different if you were just pregnant because you would be there for quite a few months. i would say being honest is the best in this situation

Felicia - posted on 08/27/2009

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dont tell them. they probably will not hire you if you say something. Just be bubbly and energetic. if they ask you, then i would tell them the truth. If the terminate you after you were hired they could get in a lot of trouble (depending on your states laws). Out here, its considered discrimination to fire a pregnant woman unless if she did something to be fired for (like not showing up to work, stealing, etc).

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Try the temp agency. But also try the interview, and be honest about your situation. They might surprise you, and if not you'll still have a back up plan. But if you don't tell the company and you get the job, then they will have to find out eventually-and they're either going to find a reason to fire you or they're going to make your life hell, because they'll feel tricked, since they'll be well aware that you knew about the pregnancy during the interview but didn't disclose it.

Tammy - posted on 08/27/2009

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On the other hand you could try applying at a temp agency - a place where they know the work is just temporary! Then after your maternity leave get a more permanent job.

Tammy - posted on 08/27/2009

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Wow, it's a really tough call there. If you tell them, most likely they will not hire you. (but who can say for sure??) BUT, if you don't tell them, and they don't figure it out, and they hire you - eventually you're going to have to tell them (obviously) and they may find a convenient excuse to fire you, such as terminating you during a "probationary period" saying it just didn't work out...etc... I don't know where you live, but different states have different laws saying what employers can terminate for. Whatever you decide to do - should be your decision. However if they ask you during the interview, I wouldn't lie about it.

Vicki - posted on 08/27/2009

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I am showing, but I was on the heavier side before I got pregnant so it could be mistaken for fat for some people lol. I'm just afraid that even though it would be discrimintation not to hire me because I'm pregnant, they may just lie and say they found someone better....

Jamie - posted on 08/27/2009

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Um if your 6 months your probably showing, so it will probably be apparent to them you are. So if they ask just say yes. But no I wouldnt point it out.

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