too many kids to buy for this Chrismas year! help

Sarah - posted on 12/08/2012 ( 21 moms have responded )




We have 3 children. We also have 6 nephews and nieces, and 7 little cousins. I'm not normally cheap but I have tried to get them to do a name drawing and nobody seemed interested. Maybe i should demand we do it? I don't want to not spend Chritmas with our families just because we can't buy for tweelve children. It's not fair, would it be trashy if I bought them used toys? I'm getting depressed. If we did name drawings on each side of the family we would only have to buy a total of 6 gifts which is half.


Christine - posted on 12/11/2012




buy coloring books and markets, crayons. its fun things for kids to do and also pretty cheap. or board games for the kids to share. like put all the kids in that family name on it. thats what our grandparents use to do with games for christmas.

Cass - posted on 12/10/2012




when we couldn't afford special gifts for everyone, we just went out and bought a bunch of $1 mugs from dollar store and filled each of them with a candy cane, hot chocolate packet, a chocolate bar and some lindor/ferro rocher chocolates. threw each of them in a little gift bag and they looked great! its not big and fancy but hey did the trick for us, people were happy

Brittney - posted on 12/09/2012




Ok, why are you even bothering to buy all these presents for kids that arent yours? Your children are you responsibility and thats it. If I brought presents for every kid/relative in my family I'd never have money but I'm not there mom so its not my problem. I'm not saying not to buy them anything(although that would be my route) but why cant you just get them something cheap. Small children usually dont care about the price tag, they're just happy to get something. Go to the dollar store or TJMAXX or Ross or somewhere like that. Find a clearence bin, or a good sale but for goodness sakes dont bust out the 40+ dollar toys for any kids that arent your own unless your giving to charity.

Deanna - posted on 12/09/2012




Dollar store. They can't expect to give each child an expensive gift. It is unfair. Maybe make a deal with the parents that for the nieces and nephews you give something small...

In my family we do the Santa Hat draw. And we only have 4 people to do that with.

Another thing you can do is ONLY get gifts for the kids and just cards for the adults.


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In my family we have about 10 kids to buy for. I buy with a $10 limit for everyone, and I don't buy for adults. We don't have a lot of money. If people can't understand that then to bad.

S. - posted on 12/20/2012




Hi Sarah it's a shame you can't go but happy Christmas to you and yours :) you got given some great ideas here I might even use some myself next year. We usually have a £5 cap for the family children I actually think it's more fun shopping around trying to find fun novel gifts for £5 then it is getting bigger gifts.

Sarah - posted on 12/20/2012




well thanks everyone but it turns out we don't even have the $70 it cost in gas to go visit any family. too many things came up. I will deff use your advice next year, or I may even give them their presets in Jan. I wish you all happy holiday!

Amanda - posted on 12/16/2012




Once everyone in our families starting having more and more kids we drew the line with the amount of presents we bought for kids.
We buy for my 2 kids, my niece and nephew and every other christmas my husbands cousin (which he grew up in the same house as) bring his 2 kids over so we buy something small for them to open, but only if we are going to see them.
Otherwise I would be buying for about 20 kids.

If you have to buy for everyone I would suggest a dollar shop too.

Whitney - posted on 12/16/2012




I go to five below for all the kids in my family. Nothing is over $5. Ithey have board games, puzzles, books, arts &crafts, toys, make up, etc. I don't know if they have one in your area.

Sarah - posted on 12/14/2012




thank you! you guys are right, the gift baskets and the family board games to share are an awsome idea!

Daniela - posted on 12/13/2012




Hello,I am in the same situation,you can also get something that all can play ,especially if they are about same age ,or gender,or you can all decide on a max spending,per each child .

Felisha - posted on 12/12/2012




I have 10 nephews and nieces plus my own 3 to buy for so we buy them all books. They all love it and its cheap too.

Amber - posted on 12/11/2012




I know what you mean! My SIL has 5 kids (and all boys ranging from 2-10, so they almost all like the same stuff too!). My husband and I have 2 children, and my brother has 3 boys as well! It's a lot of work and money to buy for everyone, and it doesn't help that there are several birthdays around the holidays too! I don't think it's right for them to expect everyone to be able to buy each person a $20 gift! That is crazy! Like a lot of women said, see if you can find some $5 or $10 gifts at the dollar store or even check out a 5 Below store if you have one! Christmas shouldn't be about getting a ton of expensive gifts anyway! Hope you have a great holiday :)

Rachel - posted on 12/09/2012




I know your situation.. If they don't want to do the name draw, I would just do dollar store.. You do what you can afford. If someone has anything to say about it, maybe they need a reminder of the true meaning of christmas. Kids don't know the difference between a 5 dollar toy and a 20 dollar toy. If they have a gift to unwrap, and a toy to play with, they're happy! My mom always taught me, it's not how much you spend on a gift that matters, it's the thought that counts. Good Luck with your situation! Let us know how it works out for you! Merry Christmas! :)

Denikka - posted on 12/08/2012




I agree with the dollar store idea.

Or you could try something homemade. I'm sure some seasonal, sugar laden treats would go over exceptionally well with the parents XD Sugar cookies are a personal favorite over here :) Super easy to make, relatively cheap and simple, even in huge batches (I've made 14 doz or so so far XD) Decorating can be simple too, all you need is some icing sugar and milk and some food coloring if you want to be creative.

Kelsey - posted on 12/08/2012




we did familt gift baskets..throw in some hot chocolate tea a new movie or two some popcorn and maybe chips :) and deff dollar stores!!

Liz - posted on 12/08/2012




Just go to a dollar store or something and buy a cheap little toy for each kid. If the kids (or parents) complain, just say that you can't afford to get everyone expensive things, and remind them that you suggested doing a name drawing.

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