too much to eat?

Amy - posted on 11/17/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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We've been feeding our 1 1/2 month old 3 oz of formula, but recently changed the amount to 4 oz thinking maybe it will help him sleep better and he will be able to go longer (or at least not be so fussy) in between feedings. So with the 4 oz what should the amount of time be between feedings (with the 3 oz we were doing every 3-4 hours, but maybe that was too long?)? Sometimes he is also fussy after feedings, but will usually fall asleep within 10 or so minutes after fussing--this isn't an issue during the day, but at nighttime, it's a real hassle when everybody just wants to sleep! How can we also get him to sleep through the night and not be so fussy?? Help please!

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Sarah - posted on 11/17/2013

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He is still pretty little so eating about every 2-4 hours is normal. Sleeping through the night is still pretty early. I would say if he is doing ok with the 4 ounces (not spitting it back up or not refusing the bottle) then doing 4 ounces at each feeding is ok. If he is not wanting all of the 4 ounces or is spitting it back up then reduce the amount back down to 3 ounces. At 1 1/2 months babies don't have much of a schedule yet so if he is fussy before the 3-4 hours then feed him before. I would not go longer then 4 hrs without a feeding. At night it is normal for a newborn to be waking anywhere from every 2-4 hours for a feed. Around 3-5 months they start to have a feed that is a bit longer. Fussing for 10 mins. and then falling asleep is normal. Many babies do this as they are learning how to get themselves to sleep. I know it is not fun in the middle of the night but as he gets older it will get better. Right now there is not much you can do....welcome to the newborn stage and being a mom to a newborn. :) Just an FYI my middle child would eat about every 1 hr around the clock.....so rejoice in being able to get 3-4 hrs. :)

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Sarah - posted on 11/17/2013

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Don't worry about him being overweight. As a newborn your baby is burning so many calories just growing that he needs that extra calories. Also newborns will go through growth spurts to where they will want to eat more often then what they have been....that is normal and will last between a couple days to a week. Your baby will let you know when he is hungry....don't go by a set schedule. A schedule is nice to have an idea of when the next feeding may be, but if he is hungry before then go ahead and feed him. A newborns tummy is tiny that is why then eat so often their tummies can't hold as much, so I would not up the amount just for hopes he will sleep longer at night. That is all part of the newborn stage you are going to have sleepless nights for the first 2-3 possibly even 4 months. Most newborns will wake about every 3 hrs to eat. If he wakes sooner then feed him when he wakes.

For the trying to get him to sleep after falling asleep in your arms....try swaddling him. I have been in that same frustrating spot many times. Also you may want to try a rock and play or a newborn napper (pack n play)....they snuggle them a bit more so it feels like they are in your arms. He is still pretty little to let him fuss for very long, but letting them see if they will settle themselves is ok to do too. I would keep it short 5-10 mins. As he gets older it will get easier. That newborn stage you tend to be feeding non-stop and hold the baby most of the time. A newborn naps a lot, but it tends to be a lot of cat naps.....an 1hr or 2 and then up for a feed. At night try to keep it dark and low key. One thing I learned with my third is that if I did not get all the burps out (even though I thought I did) she would fuss when laying down, but if you held her upright on your chest (so you were chest to chest) she would sleep. So there were nights when one of us would sit on the couch sleeping holding her.

One thing I have learned after having 3 kids is to just enjoy the moments. Know that you are not going to get any sleep and no housework done. Enjoy that peacefulness that comes in the middle of the night when it is just you and your baby. Know that it is ok to sit and hold your baby in the recliner while you both take a nap. Even though it seems like there is no end to the sleepless nights or nothing getting done soon your baby will no longer be a baby.

Amy - posted on 11/17/2013

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Thank you. I just worry that if he eats 'too much' (2 hours in between feedings seems so soon! but I can't imagine your 1-hour feedings!) is going to be overweight from newborn on and that's the last thing I want. You don't think it needs to be the same amount of time between feedings during the day? Like one time it could be 3 hours between feedings and the next could be 2 hours between feedings and so on? Oh, he rarely spits up and doesn't refuse the bottle. I was also wondering if maybe we should feed him the 4 oz during the day, but then at nighttime maybe up it to 5 oz in hopes that he will sleep longer?

And after a feeding, he'll fall asleep in my arms (possibly after a bit of fussing) and then just when I think I'll be able to put him in his crib without him waking up, he wakes right back up! It is SOOOOO FRUSTRATING!! I just want to give up sometimes and let him cry for however long it takes for him to go back to sleep. Should I pick him up right away every time he cries so he knows he can trust me when he needs me? Do you have any suggestions on how to get him back to sleep easily if he wakes up in the middle of the night before it's time for a feeding? :)

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