Torn with no support

Morganne - posted on 05/01/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




So I'm 20 years old and my boyfriend of over two years is 21. We both have decent paying jobs and are about to move in together. About a week or so ago I found out I was pregnant and when I mentioned it to him he got upset and told me we could "take care of it." I was horrified. He'd always given me the impression he wanted children and he's told me that if an uh-oh ever happened that he'd be happy and supportive. I don't know what happened! I realize we are young and we aren't necessarily prepared for a baby but I never imagined he'd suggest an abortion. Now ever since then he's been avoiding me and treating me differently and it really hurts my feelings. Anytime I try to talk to him about it he gets angry and I just don't know what to do. On top of that my family has hardly spoken to me in over a month due to my newly revealed religious preference. I know my parents wouldn't even consider being the slightest bit supportive or even civil about it in any way. It breaks my heart just thinking about aborting my baby but with all odds against us I just don't know what to do! I want my boyfriend and I to be happy and excited for our baby but it looks like that's not on his agenda... What should I do?? :(


Sarah - posted on 05/02/2014




I would suggest you get connected with a Crisis Pregnancy Center or an Adoption Agency that does birth parent counseling. Both places can help you figure out what would be the best for both you and your baby. If you are thinking abortion why don't you look into adoption? This way the baby gets to live and you are able to have contact with the baby (as much or as little that you want). Those that have an abortion live with that choice for the rest of their lives. It is a very permeate choice. One that you can't see what your child becomes, looks like, sounds like, feels like.....all of those are gone. Right now you are worried how you would be able to do it. Maybe you can make it. A counselor that works in birth parent counseling can help get you connected with others that are single moms, or others that have placed their baby for adoption. You can get resources to help you in either direction. Before doing something so final find out what is out there and what other options you may have.

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