Totally Irritated.

Jamie - posted on 05/26/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




So my mom took my son down to my grandmas house for her birthday and met up to with my cousin Heather. Well while at my grandmas my mom saw a post-it note with my cousin Jennifers name on it stuck to an entertainement center in the living room. Being curious my mom asked why it was there. My grandma told her that Jennifer put it there so when my grandma died she could have it because she called it first. WTF? My mom took the post it off and threw it away. My grandman is 85, still drives, still works fulltime, still attends church every saturday night and goes to every college basketball and football game in her town. She is in perfect health, so shes going to be around for a very long time. So why would anyone find it appropriate to start putting sticky notes on things. And second, why does she think shes is entitled to anyting. My grandma has 9 living kids, if anyone should get to pick stuff it should be them. Ugh so irritated at how tacky people can be. I dont even want to imagine my grandma dying, I remember when my favorite aunt died when I was in the 8th grade and that was hard enough. But my grandma, geez, and I cant even imagine waliking in her house and picking out things I want. Sorry but i needed to vent.,


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Kylie - posted on 05/27/2009




That really is tacky, unfortunately there is a lot of crazies in the world who have got no clue. My my nan died, my pop gave my sister one of my nans necklaces. My aunt found out and came and took it back from my sister, got it valued, realized it was just costume jewelry so she gave it back. she also came in and took all my nans precious things like her art and poetry, her photos and heirlooms a few days after she passed even though my pop is still alive and living in the house. Shes one of 5 children but shes one of those people who thinks everyone owes her something and she really believes she is entitled to her mothers things. She hasn't worked for 20 years and she still gets her 86 year old dad to pay her bills with his war pension. it makes me sick but what can you do hey?

Amie - posted on 05/27/2009




Talk about crass. That's all I got to say otherwise I'll go off on a tangent. =)

Christy - posted on 05/27/2009




I dont think that type of behavior is appropriate or acceptable. I have NEVER heard of some one labeling items they want before some one dies. Its pretty weird...just my opinion!! Before my grandmother passed...she was my best friend too....the entire family was by her side for months and never once did anyone discuss what they were going to take when she died. I agree with you Jamie....its very tacky!!! Its great to hear that your g-ma is still going strong...Best of Luck!!!

Jamie - posted on 05/27/2009




Well my cousin Jenn is a snobby stuck up bitch, lol. And thinks cause she lives in California she has class. I wont say anything to her, I figure it all works it self out in the end. I just thought it was tacky. It would have been one thing to speak to my grandma about it and my grandma put it in her will, but to just start labeling things in her house. And my grandma doesnt have much you know. She lost her husband when my mom was 7, shes 52 now. She lives in a tiny house. Hopefully my could will learn to have a little more tact.

Melissa - posted on 05/26/2009




I understand your frustrations but do not give tht behaviour attention is one way to handle it or another is to confront her and ask why yourself when you are calm of course...Just to add your grandma Im sure will take those actions into consideration when drawwing up her will if not already done.

Amanda - posted on 05/26/2009




I too think that it's very irritating. Although, I have found that it is extremely common for people to do those kinds of things when people get old. They start "labeling" things as their own. Why can't we just enjoy the wonderful people while they are still with us? I would just ignore it. Unfortunately, I have to do that as well.

Jaime - posted on 05/26/2009




Don't let it get to you---when your Grandmother does pass, it is likely that her Will and her wishes will already be predetermined, so your cousin will get what your Grandmother chooses to give her--and that might be nothing. Sometimes people do things that might seem inappropriate in order to get attention for feelings that they can't express outwardly--perhaps your cousin is sadened by the thought of your Grandmother passing in the near future, being that she is 85. I know that her actions might speak to the contrary, but consider the fact that everyone deals with grief differently and although your Grandmother is still alive, it might be difficult for her to imagine losing her, so she does foolish things to draw any kind of attention that might take her mind off of the reality of it. Cheer up!

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