toy guns?

Cheryl - posted on 06/01/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )




when i was growing up my parents never us play with toy guns as i got older i had decided that i would keep the rule with my children because i believed that it would encourage violence... last night i was spending time with my brother his wife and his son and they started a game of nerf tag ( playing hide and go seek with nerf guns, if you get shot your out) i had the most fun ive had for a very long time and now im thinking maybe toy guns might not be so bad, what do you think


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Nicci - posted on 06/01/2009




i didn't let my son play with guns and it must be in their blood because he'd hold a stick and point and say bang. i really don't know where he got that (maybe my brother)but he was the same way with cars broom broom on his own. I had to fold because whether it was a toy gun or a stick he still knew what to do with it so we had a mommy to three year old conversation about how we don't point them at people. My husband used to hunt and would like to do it again, still not where he learned it, lol so some day he'll want to go with daddy. So we discussed how we shoot at the birds in the trees. He does pretty good but every now and then i catch him pointing. We just repeat our conversation!

Jamie - posted on 06/01/2009




I dont see the harm. Guns arent violent, people are. I enjoy shooting, both my kids have circkets, they have shot bb guns and paintball guns. They know guns are never to be pointed or shot at people, they know they are only to shoot paper. My children do have cowboy plastic guns and love hunting zombies in the backyard. I think as long as kids are taught that guns can be dangerous there is no problem with them. I have a gun safety video my kids love to watch and they sing along and do the dance.

Sabrina - posted on 06/01/2009




We have the same rule but as the kids have gotten older are thinking about letting them have water guns or nerf guns. I think the only time you have to worry is when they start the bang your dead stuff. My husband wants real guns in the house for hunting. Im kind of on the fence about this since our 3 older kids have learning disablities. He was raised around guns and was taught to respect them. I dont think it would be such an issue if it wasnt for our situation. My nephews parents allow him to play with guns all the time but not in a good way. He would even point his finger like a gun and pretend to kill himself. I dont allow the kids to watch movies or games that encourage gun violence since they are to young to understand.

Caroline - posted on 06/01/2009




I only have a daughter, but I do have 4 younger brothers who all played with toy guns. If I ever have boys, my husband and I plan to let them have toy weapons. I do think it's important to have continuing conversations with boys about the dangers of real guns and how to be safe (ie: if a friend's parent has one in their house, NEVER touch or play with it). However, I feel that not letting boys be boys (which means playing with toy weapons) robs them of the chance to develop into strong men. In our culture we put so much emphasis on being safe and nice that we don't let boys play in a way that allows them to nurture their sense of adventure. I think that when we don't let them play games like "cops and robbers" with toys then we're telling them it's not good to stand up for yourself and what you believe in. Personally, I'm glad that my husband was allowed to play with toy guns and act like a boy.

Danielle - posted on 06/01/2009




my kids are 3 and 4 and i do NOT let them play with toy guns. i just dont think kids should play with them whether they look real or not. i dont want to see my kids running around "shooting" at each other! my husband and my brother seem to think that its ok for them to play with toy guns, but so far, i seem to be winning this argument! lol

Denice - posted on 06/01/2009




I don't let my kids play with guns that look real. Sometims they think that I'm being hard on them. I don't think that it's being hard. I think that it's being smart. I feel if you put the fear of guns in their hearts while they are young they will make the right decisions later in life.

Jessica - posted on 06/01/2009




I think as long as you educate your kids on gun safety and take the violence out of it it's fine. I know that sounds weird but it's not the gun that's dangerous it's the person holding it and I know your not getting them "real" guns, but a toy gun is a toy gun. We have water guns but boys will be boys and there is always a new use for them. We don't own a gun but we talk to our children about gun safety. A nerf gun is still a gun even with all the fun. I'm not being judgemental, I have nothing to judge, but I have two boys 7 & 3 and they can pretend that almost anything is a gun. There favorite game is dinosaur hunt.

Amie - posted on 06/01/2009




Well since we have an entire toy box outside filled with water guns, nerf guns, etc. I can't say I'm against them. There is one neighborhood boy though that had one of those cap guns... I hated that thing and the way he used it. He'd shoot it off and go bang your dead. Not cool!

Lindsay - posted on 06/01/2009




I agree. We play with water guns every summer and it's a blast and no violence associated with it in my opinion. I won't get my kids the fake guns that look like real ones but as far as the nerf type and water guns, I see no problems!

Helen - posted on 06/01/2009




i think they are ok if they don't look like guns. It is when they play real army games that i would say no.

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