Transition from one child to two how hard is it?

Katie - posted on 08/04/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )




I am pregnant with baby number 2 and due in October.. The thought of the transitition from one child to 2 is kinda starting to get to me.. My son is only 3 years old and is extremely excited about his baby brother coming he talks about all the things he will do to help like feed and help mommy change diapers. Being a stay at home mom I am just scared of the transition and the fact of my sanity.. Any advice will be extremely helpful.


Savannah - posted on 08/04/2009




It is not near as hard as you have yourself hyped up to believe! lol. My first 2 are 15 months apart and it was actually a pretty smooth transition. I mean, the first week or two was a little interesting but it really was a great experience. My oldest fell in love with his brother and they are best friends now. I am expecting #3 in October and he is also going to be 15 months from my youngest! Don't know how well it's going to go but I'm pretty confident that it will work out just fine.

I think you are going to do just fine! Especially since your 3 year old is old enough to help and feel like a part of his little brother's life. Just do the best you can so that he doesn't feel left out.

You ladies will be fine! :)


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Christina - posted on 08/05/2009




i have a 3 year old & a 7 month old now. i was super scared while pregnant because i wasn't too sure of how hard it was going to be, but once she was born, i realized that it isn' t all that hard. i think the main reason is because my son is 3. if he was younger it would be alot harder. the initial adjustment period was hard when my daughter was first born, but it only lasted a couple of months. now my son just loves his little sister.

Lucy - posted on 08/04/2009




I had my second child in October and my Daughter was 3 1/2 I had the same feelings. All of the stress was over nothing she was actually really helpful and it just came natural to me. Now they are 9 and 5 it is a different story. Good Luck

Becky - posted on 08/04/2009




My son was due the day after my daughters 2nd birthday, luckily he hung on for two weeks. To be honest i found it quite easy having the two (easier than being pregnant and having one!). I kept my daughters routine when i had Oliver this was mainly becaue she went to a childminder some days a week depending on my husbands shifts. This to me gave me time with Oliver that was just for me and him to bond and gave Jessica the same routine. I didn't want to have 8 months of her at home with me (of course i did if it could have stayed that way) and then send her back to a childminder as it may have been a different childminder.

I found that Jessica was a little rough when trying to 'help' and was a little jealous for about a month, but my husband and i tried to get her involved by letting her pick Oliver's clothes and passing me things.

The worst bit for me actually when i think about it was when i had to go back to work and had to explain that Oliver was now coming to the childminders with her, she kept saying "he can't there is not enough room at Jane's" finally after 'breaking' Oliver in over the course of a month she was pleased he was going with her.

Marsha - posted on 08/04/2009




thanks for asking this question? I have wonder this myself. I am expecting baby 2 in feb.

Emma - posted on 08/04/2009




My boys are 2n1/2 years apart n my older boy has been fantastic with he's lil brother never had an ounce of jeolousy in him. I think its like most things theres parts that can be harder n parts that make it easier, for example my older boy wouldnt sleep in he's own room on he's own but now he got he's brother in there he sleeps like an angel plus all the basic stuff with babys is so much easier with the 2nd cause u know what ya doin and i was was so much calmer with the 2nd, but then there is the times where ya got baby crying n toddler wantin something n ya tryin to do everything at same time without getting stressed, it can be a challenge but things fit together in end. I think its really lovely n important for there to be siblings though n its nice when there age aint to far apart. x x

Danielle - posted on 08/04/2009




Lol! I know how you feel! My oldest was 3 when I had my second child. Honestly, the hardest part was the first 2 weeks. My daughter was a little upset that the new baby was getting all the attention. She eventually realized that she had the very special job of "big sister" and would proudly show off her little brother whenever we went out. My son is now a year old and the 2 are best friends! My only advice would be to make sure you have time for just you. Whether it's an hour to soak in the tub or a night out with the girls, it will save your sanity and you will be more refreshed and ready to deal with whatever your boys throw at you! :)

Morgan - posted on 08/04/2009




It is not hard at all. My children are 13 months apart and my first was very helpful bringing me things for baby etc. Just try and get them on the same schedule when one goes for a nap put the other one down for a nap too. and then take some mommy time to relax or nap yourself. Family and friends are a great help for the first little while till you get into the swing of things. Don't worry at all you will do great you just need to get a schedule.

Jeanine - posted on 08/04/2009




My oldest daughter was 4 when my youngest daughter was born ...Its very hard cuz My oldest was old enough to tell me whats was wrong she could go to sleep fine by herself ., go to the bathroom, by herself eat by herself etc.... It was starting all over again .. It was very difficult for me, (maybe for others it is easier i dunno lol) I would like to know their secret lol. It is still is very hard and my youngest is almost a year old now ....but the best advice i could say is keep your oldest involved with the baby, give him little jobs like handing you the baby wipes, or a diaper maybe . That way he'll feel he will still feel very important . Good luck :)

Alyshia - posted on 08/04/2009




My first two were only 11 months apart so it was a little difficult for me, my oldest was not even walking yet when I had my second. It took a little while but I got the hangs of things and you will too. It is kind of scary for some but once you get into the groove it's not that bad. Just remeber to give yourself some time alone if possible and to let your oldest be included in the day to day with the new one so he will not feel left out. Such as letting him feed the baby (if you're going to bottle feed) or hold him with you right there next to him. My oldest was 3 when we had our third and he was a big help. You'll do fine, Good luck! :)

Ashlee - posted on 08/04/2009




no advice sorry was hoping to read what others wrote to you. My son is 9 months and we are expecting our second in feb. Good luck!

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