Trying to change my sons sleep routine

Katie - posted on 09/02/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




I share custody of my 8y/o with his dad. Before it became 50/50 I had him asleep by 8:30, but once his dad got half custody, he would be lucky to be asleep by 10:30. So obviously this had affected both my son and I. I settled for my son sleeping at 9:30 only because after speaking with his principal, teacher and therapist, they all agreed that while we have 50/50 custody there is not much I can do. Well, now his father is some what absent, and he is living with me full time. I am slowly adjusting his bedtime, but it is still a struggle. Tonight I had to lie to him and tell him it was 10:30 when it was really only 9:30 just so that he would close his eyes. He has a routine, he knows what to do, but he just will not fall asleep. I really want to punch his father for not taking into consideration the sleeping needs of a young child, but I can't. I plan on going back to court and seeing if I can limit the custody, but where we live it is almost mandatory to have a 50/50 agreement.


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Michelle - posted on 09/08/2014




I have been doing 50/50 custody for 9 years and have the same problem. My boys are 13 and 10 and stay up late at their Dad's but have an early bedtime here. They know that when they are back with me that there is more structure and routine. I send them to bed around 8/8:30 and they can read for 30 mins before lights out. I find that this calms them down enough to go to sleep.

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