Two step kids who have been dumped by their own mother. My toddler in danger from the older boy. Hel

Kari - posted on 09/29/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




I don't know how to handle this. The older boy (my partners son) is 10 and i have seen him hurt my son from throwing toys at him to almost letting him burn his hands on the stove while it was about to starrt a fire. My partner makes excuses for him as he as possible ADHD (which is now being questioned by doctors) and is struggling with issues about his mum. I don't know what to do, he steals, lies, and never listens to me or anyone else. I don't want leave my partner but i don't know how much more i can handle.


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Tara - posted on 09/30/2009




Seek professional help. This boy is acting out for a reason. Possibly his mother leaving him and being left with his dad and his new family..That would make anyone act out. He is more than likely jealous of your child. I would keep a close eye on the children during play time and seek out opportunities to make the boy feel welcomed by you! You could take him to do something just the two of you, something he enjoys. Spend some time with him and get to know him. Who knows maybe he will open up to you. Do not send him away, use that as a very last resort. The boy sounds hurt enough.

Sharon - posted on 09/29/2009




Sit down with the boy and find out why he is doing these things, it might be that he feels left out cause daddy has a new family and now he thinks he is just a burnden and that u dont want him, if that does not work you need to make use the other children are safe maybe he could stay with his grandparents. Hope this help, and good luck

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