Vacationing with extended family

Elicia - posted on 08/31/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I would like opinions about a conversation that my husband and I are having with my in-laws. They have booked a house in the Outer Banks for July of 2010. It is the same house we stayed in this past July. We liked the house but it is not baby proof. This year it didn't matter because the Boys didn't crawl yet, but next year they will be a year and a half. The owners have knickknacks on every surface and electronics open to little hands. Plus, since there are only 4 bedrooms my twins would have to share a room with my 5 1/2 year old (by that time) in a room that only holds one queen-size bed.



The in-laws want to know what would make us more comfortable staying in this house. What would you say?



(keep in mind they asked us beforehand what we wanted for next year but they couldn't find anything they like better then this last house - though there were houses that would have suited us better - and chose this house anyway without even letting us know till they had already paid the downpayment)

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Tawni - posted on 09/01/2009

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Yeah... I understand. I would probably just say we already told you what our problems are with the house and I'm sorry but we can't make it this year. That's really frustrating :/ I hope you guys get things figured out!

Elicia - posted on 09/01/2009

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Here is the second part of the problem. We've already told them twice what makes us uncomfortable about the house and it is as if they aren't hearing us. But they keep asking why we don't want to come (or why we still don't want to come), and using guilt to make my husband feel bad about not being there with the family. Its as if they want to know what will work for us but when it doesn't fit their schedule they want us to just say well of course we will make ourselves uncomfortable for a week Just so you can have us all there.

Tawni - posted on 08/31/2009

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Hmm... that's a tough one. I can see my in-laws doing something like this! If I were you, I would just be honest and tell them exactly what you don't like about the house. Say you would feel more comfortable with the house if it were baby proofed and had more rooms because you don't think the boys should share a room with one bed. You shouldn't settle for something you don't feel comfortable with. This is definitely a tough situation, stuff with in-laws is always a sensitive subject lol. Good luck!

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