Venting

Nataliah - posted on 12/27/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I feel like a bad mom, I only give my baby breastmilk and she just started eating solids. I had to go dairy free bc she has allergies and i wanted to keep giving her breastmilk. I haven't had a full nights rest for a year now. I'm exhausted but have had sleeping problems where I can't sleep right away and don't get enough rem sleep. My baby comes first and I barely have the time to even shower everyday. I moved back in with my mom so she could help me (I had my own place until my baby was 2 months old bc I was alone a lot). I wish I didn't have to though, I have an overbearing mom who always makes me feel bad. She wasn't always like this. I try to do my best but seems like I never get it right to anyone. I feel like a bad mom when I know I'm not but bc I'm surrounded by negativity it's swallowing me up to believe it. I am still with my daughters father and he does help but he has been trying to get promoted ever since I became pregnant, he received a promotion and works all the time. I work part time so I could be home with the baby. Everyone seems to be against me and makes me feel like I'm not good enough. My boyfriend wants sex way more than I do. I'm on a low hormone bc pill. If I don't have sex he gets angry and says hurtful things. My hormones are still whacked and I lash out and cry right away. My baby is the only one who makes me happy i would do anything for her. I'm so frustrated with everyone and everything I want to pack my babies' and my things and get away from everyone for awhile. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm tired of feeling like whatever I do is not good enough.

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Miriam - posted on 01/02/2014

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I'm sorry you feel this way after I gave birth I had the hardest time getting my baby to latch on properly and I had to pump for a while my boyfriend and his family made it seem like breastfeeding was the easiest thing on earth which made me feel like there was something wrong with me. And to add on I had little to no sleep because I was cosleeping (which I still am) so I completely understand what your going through. And when it came to sex forget it I was completely turned off bc of low hormones which didn't help our relationship. All you need is time and ALOT of communication. My boyfriend and I try to have date night at least once a week which helped with the romance. And he knows that it's tough being a mom because we sit down and talk opening up wasn't easy in the beginning but it gets easier. And as for your mom you can talk to her too but if things are still the same you need to.understand that now your a mom and it's your chance to be the mom that you always wanted. My mom was never easy to talk to and at times was abusive and I know that I never want to be that way. So I try everyday to be the best mom I can be.

Tracy - posted on 12/30/2013

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I hope things get better for you. Please do not take offense to anything I say, just my opinions.. I tried to Breastfeed when I had my son and I was not producing. I was not against formula for any reason I just wanted to try and I held onto my promise to continue to try. It put me through depression as I could not eat sleep or satisfy my child! The worst was that I couldn't do anything within my power to keep him happy.. Until I formula fed--- my point is that I understand you prefer to Breastfeed, but maybe you should attempt to formula feed. Breast milk digests very fast which is why they are hungry more often.. My son is and always has been very healthy! You may lose that feeling that they don't need you anymore, but then in response to that maybe you should see a doctor? **i am no professional--just my personal opinions** it took me 2 years after my baby to finally seek medical attn. I am on an antidepressant and boy oh boy has that change who I am. I am able to love my husband more emotionally and physically. From my personal experiences, I think that you should absolutely speak to a doctor about what you're going through. When you start the change within yourself, those around you may change--or how you percieve them :) Again, Nataliah, please do not take offense! I just would like to help :)

Nataliah - posted on 12/27/2013

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I'm not comfortable with sex anymore and find it difficult to get in the mood bc I'm exhausted and bc before having my baby I had a miscarriage. I am terrified of a new pregnancy bc of the possibility of losing my pregnancy again

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