Was anyone else forgotten about for their FIRST Mothers Day? :(

Jac - posted on 05/09/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I was totally ignored for Mothers Day, & it was my first one! Im feeling SO upset & like i mustnt be doing a good enough job raising his daughter so he ignored the point of the day. I slept in (which is my normal Sunday sleep-in anyway) & had no breaky, not even a cuppa tea. He picked a fight infront of my family and made me cry, made me pack the car & clean up before we left my mums & then threw some new pj's at me when we got home... my sister saw how upset I was and made me a litle card with a poem and traced my daughters handprint on it. How hard was that and y couldnt he do that! Im so made and upset, he told me he'd do the bottles and instead went to bed. I cried and he came out grunted at my tears and went back to bed.... I dont think I deserved that day, the bar is set realy low for Fathers Day!!!

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Monique - posted on 05/14/2013

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i got the same treatment. No card, no present nothing insread he either ignored me or picked fights he slept in i got up at 6am with our 3 children im also 13 weeks pregnant (not planed) than he had an afternoon sleep. :'(

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OverComing - posted on 05/13/2013

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you didnt deserve that ! being a mom is not easy an if it isnt celebrated everyday oh somebody better celebrate it one day out of the year !!! my husband forgot mothers day and wonders why im angry and doesnt understand why im angry and hurt and even has the nerve to tell me i dont have a right to be angry!!!

Heather - posted on 05/11/2010

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Wow, and I felt bad that I was forgotten about on my first mother's day. At least my husband made me bacon and eggs and changed the baby's diapers for the day. I wasn't expecting a gift, as we are low on funds, but I would have liked a card, rather than a last minute "Oh, it's mother's day. I'll make you breakfast and you don't have to change any diapers." Then we went and visited our moms for the day, which is tough because my tiny one is only six weeks and still breastfeeding on demand, so traveling can get hairy. I just decided to make sure he had a really nice father's day so he would feel bad. (I know, so wrong of me lol.)
I will consider my first mother's day to be the one that my little one (who I am Mother to) wakes me up with a sloppy kiss and a happy Mother's day for the first time!

Amanda - posted on 05/10/2010

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I had a great mommys day! If i were you i would tell him how you feel and if he dont make it up then fathers day should totally suck for him, and he sounds like a jerk any way so maybe consider other options! hope u have a better moms day next year and happy mothers day sweetie, ur a beautiful mommy!

Amber - posted on 05/10/2010

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i guess the only joy i got out of the day was that my son turned 10 months yesturday, he walked to me for the first time, and the card and present i got form my MIL

Amber - posted on 05/10/2010

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well i spent the day with my MIL and my sons great grandma.. i never got a break... my MIL didn't like hte outfit i had on, she said it made me look like a slut(jeans and a tank), so i had to put on dress pants and a nice shirt, just to go to a damn fish fry.... then that night, they went out to the bar and left me at home with my teething son

Fallon - posted on 05/09/2010

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Thank you!! I was sitting here feeling sorry for myself, mad cause all my friends have AWESOME husbands that went ALL out this year and my first one SUCKED!!! Sandra my husband has the same idea about 'hallmark holidays' of course he says that about most holidays. But my hubby completly forgot today was mother's day. Then when he realized it was he said he needed to go see his mom to wish her happy mother's day before he leaves for work. My stepdaughter can't wait to get home to her 'real' mom then hubby sends me a text 'thanks for taking care of our son & even though you nag @ me & ride my ass all the time, you're a good mom' What the HELL!! I mean he could have made me a card or something!!! But I'm sure you are all AMAZING mommies so Happy Mother's Day!

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I had lost contact with my mother a few years ago, and earlier this year we found each other again. I made plans with her to go to the zoo, because it was supposed to be special...My first mothers day and the first mothers day I have spent with her in years.
Well my husband decided to invite his mother as well!!!

I had to cancel the Zoo idea last night because the weather was going to be really bad for today. So I called my mom and said "Mom next week we will do the zoo when it is warmer and no rain." Then I made plans with her for lunch to celebrate a late mothers day on the Monday. (Tomorrow)

So today I woke up already upset that I wasn't going to the zoo...but there was nothing I could do about that because the weather was crap. My husband woke me up because our daughter was being very cranky (teething) WTF!!! I don't know why he couldn't deal with it.
Then he said "so what do you want to do today?" I said "nothing, I want to relax, I am seeing my mom tomorrow. I want you to take care of our daughter while I can relax"
I guess his idea of me relaxing was sitting next to me on the couch while I was watching a movie, getting mad because my 7 month old didn't want to sit on his lap. So I got pissed off that he even thought she would sit there (shes a mover lol) So i let him finish the movie while I played with her (GRRRR)

Then he said "its just a stupid hallmark holiday anyways" (thats right he says the same thing about valentines day....I havent got ANYTHING for valentines day in YEARS )

Then the cherry on top?? he says "Go shower" I get all happy thinking he is going to take me out for a surprise." So i asked him where we were going "We are taking MY mother out for dinner...it's mothers day you know?" I could have KILLED him.

worst mothers day ever.

*Lisa* - posted on 05/09/2010

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And I thought my first mothers day was bad! You definitely beat me! I'm really sorry to hear that. :( What I decided to do was to make sure that this fathers days is AMAZING to set the standard higher for next year. Hope it works. But you really deserved a better day than that!!

Jac - posted on 05/09/2010

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Awwww u poor thing. I think we got the shitty guys- all my friends were spoilt for their first mothers day. And yeh mine was washing his boat and mucking around from 7am till 12 and the reason i had no breaky - no reason just 'oh well'.. and i now what your saying I love my daughter BUT a break - one day of the whole year would have been fantastic! Happy Mothers Day to u!

Amanda - posted on 05/09/2010

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dont worry your not alone this is my first mothers day and i didnt get breaky(which he said was because there is no bacon) or tea not even a pare of pj's thrown at me. i even told my husban how important today was to me and if anything to just make me a card and i would be happy just show me how special i am and how much i do for our family for oneday would be nice but no...wait for it....he went fishing!!! and has been fishing all day 3 hours away with his brother..while i'm at home with our teething son....i love my son but during the week im like a single mom i'm up all night and up all day with him while he's at work or sleeping so he won't be tired for work and i'm starting to get really upset the golf and fishing seem to be more important....

So i just wanted to say happy mothers day and even if he doesnt show it know ur daughter will one day there is no harder job then a mom and even though i dont know u i bet ur a great mom ..

ps try a pooie diaper under the pillow next time reminds them theres a baby around lol

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