was i too young???

Joanna - posted on 06/02/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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hi i am a young mum i have my first child at 18 second at 19 and third at 23 i dont think thats a crime i just think im still young enough to give my children my all and run around for as many hours as they want to!!! dont you agree?!my husband is a year older than me and we have been married for 4 years!!

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Suzanne - posted on 06/04/2009

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i was nowhere near ready to have a baby at 16 i believe i was too young n i missed out on alot but it happened n i made it work out, wouldnt change it for the world now but it was very hard-going for while. i agree with you amber, its how u feel n how u cope after that counts.

Amber - posted on 06/04/2009

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recently had my first I still feel I am at the perfect place to give my child my all it is all about how you feel.

Amber - posted on 06/04/2009

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I think if you were ready at that age to have a child then that was what was right for you. I am 29 and recent

Suzanne - posted on 06/04/2009

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i can beat that. i was 16 when i had my 1st child everyone was extremely shocked and never thought me n my boyfriend would last instead we moved in together n have had 2 more since. my daughter is now 10 n her n her mates think its fab that im so young. im upto date with all the fashions have loads of energy n they want for nothing. better to be a young mum than an older one i say.

Melissa - posted on 06/04/2009

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no age is just a number i think you can be a great mum at 18 then you can be at 30 i had my daughter at 19 and my son at 22 i dont regret having children young though i felt i was judged a bit but i knew i was a good mum so thought stuff them

Mel - posted on 06/03/2009

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not at all i think its better to have kids young. i always intended on having a child before i was 18 but i had difficulty conceiving. after 2 years i fell pregnant and gave birth just before i turned 19. im now trying for a second. its better to be closer to your kids age :)

Amanda - posted on 06/03/2009

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Although I had my kids at a young age...I wouldn't want my children to have them as young as I did. I had my first 2 weeks after turning 18...2nd at 19 1/2....3rd at 21 and 4th at 23. I love my kids dearly but wish I would've waited a little longer before starting to be able to be focused on school...college and just having fun. I think a good age to start would be about 24 and older. My mentality and maturity level was much different from barely 18 to almost 24. I am 26 now and have 4 kids ages 8,6,4 and 2 and it is a lot to handle and I am glad I am young to do it. But I had to go to college while having and raising my kids which was really hard. I want things a little easier for mine. As I wouldn't take any of them back I don't want my kids to have so much responsibility so young..I want them to have some fun first...finish college and then have kids.

Chasidi - posted on 06/03/2009

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I have to say that I agree with you, too. I had my first daughter less than 2 weeks after I turned 19. I'm 26 (yesterday) and she will be 7 on the 15th. I just recently had my second daughter (she's 7 weeks old). My husband will be 29 next month and will retire the same year that our youngest turns 18. I think it's a great idea to have them young (not too young) so that you can enjoy the older years and not still be raising kids in your 50's. BTW, my husband and I have been married for nearly 8 years and have been together for a little over 9 years.

Jolene - posted on 06/03/2009

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I think thats fabulous! I think as long as you are in a good relationship and are willing to make those sacrafices and commitments it's great. Quite a few girls I know are the ones who I think are stupid for having babies young. So many of them are in on/off relationships or single, get pregnant and then just expect their parents to take care of them and their child. I think those are the girls who give other young moms bad names!

Tamra - posted on 06/03/2009

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I had my one and only kid at the age of 19, I totally think that it's ok to have kids when your young at least your not struggling to keep up with them.

Dale - posted on 06/03/2009

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I Agree it is so nice to have the engery to run around after after my kids. I had my first at 19, second 18 months latter. And I wont have it any other way. Although I always make sure I have time first off for my husband and myself, so I know that I am being the best parent possible for my kids. It is funny when you talk to other mothers that are 10 older than me and they seam to be so much tireder and more medical problems. I think everyone is different in terms of when it is the right time for them to have kids, I know in my own life I had to grow up early and I knew I always wanted to have kids. We want 4 kids and by the time they are in school I am still going to be able to enjoy life and have a carer!

Gretchen - posted on 06/03/2009

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i think its okay to have babies young as long as you lived a little. . .i had mine at 19 and 22 but i wish i had more fun before i did. . i know i can now but i feel bad when i go out and leave them home. . i know i shouldn't but i do. . .i go out sometimes but to get coffee or go shopping for a little bit

Jodi - posted on 06/03/2009

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I completely agree with that....I was 18 when I had my first, 19 with my second, 21 with my third and 23 with my fourth and final. I have all the energy that they do in order to keep up with all of them. It is difficult at first to manage, since I had all mine pretty close together, but in the long run they are all at different stages and doing different things, but I wouldn't trade it for having them when I am older. I am about to be 29 and my oldest will be 11 and youngest is gonna be 6. When they are all grown up, I will be young still and be able to enjoy the rest of my years with granbabies and my husband.

Natalee - posted on 06/03/2009

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i agree i was 16 when i ahs my first child and 19 when i had my second child. im now 21 and im so glad im young and healthy cos running around for hours after them is hard work.

Nicole - posted on 06/02/2009

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I agree... I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant. At 20 I found out about number two... now i'm 24 and we're trying for our third baby. I love being a young mom. Sure there are some financial difficulties but even moms who wait until they are in their 40s have financial difficulties too... but at least we have a lot to give our kids. We can still keep up with them. 18 is not too young... it may not be ideal for a lot of people, but I don't think it's too young.

Sarah - posted on 06/02/2009

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I agree 100%. I am 25 and pregnant with my third. I had my first at 20. I believe you are better off having them while you are young and can keep up with them and then once they have left home you are still young enough to have your own life. I have friends that are in their early fortys and are only just starting families, I would hate that. I dont believe that having children young holds you back and stops you achieving anything as many older people say, I have completed a uni degree whilst raising mine.

Kathryn - posted on 06/02/2009

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I totally agree! I started young and I'm glad because now I have the energy to keep up! I can't imagine all those women who think it's a good idea to start when their much older..i will still be young when my kids are grown! haha. i had my first kid at barely 19 and the second at almost 21. My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years and we definately want more - it's our choice, not anyone else!

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