What do I do ?? 4 yr old needing attention but I have twin 8 moth old who take up a lot of my time any ideas????

Kaytee - posted on 05/27/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




I breast feed so I cant really take her and just go. She just keeps pushing in till I yell and I hate yelling at her.


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Stephanie - posted on 05/27/2009




I have a 7 year old and 4 year old twins, when they were born, i had big sister help with as much as she could and that way she didnt feel left out. when the twins are sleeping make it all about the 4 year old. they need to know that they havent been forgotten

Kylie - posted on 05/27/2009




I have a 4 year old and a 6 month old baby and find what helps me a lot is having my daughter at 4 year old Kindy for two days a week. This gives me a break so i can focus just on my baby and get certain household jobs done without being interrupted by constant questions and mess:p I also take advantage of family help, my mum offers to take her for a night once a week so shes getting one on one attention at nanny's home. My husband has taken over the bedtime ritual so my four year old gets that time with him with no interruptions from her baby brother. I think it's helped to get her involved in the caring for her brother, she watches him while i make beds and things and helps bath and dress him. My daughter is also very self sufficient she can pour her own drinks, turn on the cold tap to brush her own teeth and can dress herself and put on her own shoes which takes the pressure off when we are getting ready to go out. I have a really safe backyard with plenty of activities for my 4 year old and she goes out when the days are nice and plays on her own happily for hours, i used to feel guilty about this but I've noticed when she doesn't get the alone time she gets whiny and unhappy. I know it must be twice as hard with twins, but i think getting your 4 year old involved in activities outside the home(like ballet or swimming lessons) it will give her something to look forward to and also cements her role as the big girl and mummy's helper.

TeRina - posted on 05/27/2009




I know how you feel! I have a daughter who is 2 in June and 14 week twins and it has got to the point while I'm breastfeeding the twins where I yell at her and I don't like it and she crys which is even harder and hurts to see her like that when all she wants is my attention. I've tried putting the twins down as soon as their almost asleep and baking with my daughter or drawing with her and stuff she likes to do, just giving her my full attention and cuddles. I've also had her help me undress the babies when it's time to change the clothes or their nappies-just undoing the domes. But we still have our moments and it cant be heart wrenching seeing her upset because she wants me too. Hope you and your babies are well though, take care and hope something I have said has helped. :)

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