what do I do?

Whittney - posted on 03/04/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




I have a sweet little boy who is about to be four in may. I started to take him to the local daycare to have some kid interactions. Lately the last few months he has been mean on purpose to his little brother( 1 year old) I understand that they will fight. they were both being babysat and the babysitter had to other kids(girls) she was watching at the same time who were close to his age. He smacked them and hit them. He got in trouble and we talked to him. His first day back to daycare he slapped three kids. I talked to him and he was sent to his room when I picked him up. Today when I picked him up they told me he hit a kid but also bit a child when asked why said he wanted to bite out their heart!! I am careful with what he watches on tv I have no idea where that came from. He seems angry and I don't know what to do. He also has had a listening issue and backtalks....Help please...Im pregnant with our 3rd and have a baby still i dont know what to do anymore. Nothing I try works


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Erin - posted on 01/29/2013




My oldest daughter is in daycare and she is 4 1/2yrs old. For the most part, she is very good but she does come home with a tone of voice and attitude some days that bewilder me. I have spoken to her and she understands that it's not appropriate to speak to myself or any adult in that manner. Just know that some of it is just the age and some of it is probably things he's seeing or hearing at daycare. I know it's tough but be consistent with speaking to him about what's right and wrong and he'll turn a corner. I have found that any "stage" my daughter's been in, as long as we're consistent with our rules and expectations of her behaviour, she does eventually turn it around. Sometimes we have had to take away things or priveliges in order for her to really understand as well. We have a 18mth old too and we struggle at times with our oldest being mean to the youngest at times. Good luck, hang in there and it will get easier.

Stifler's - posted on 03/05/2011




You are pregnant... he's old enough to know it. That affects kids behaviours.

Aimee - posted on 03/05/2011




every time he bites or hits your child i was told to put them in the naughty corner for 1 min of there age and when the times up u bend down to there level and say do u know what u have been put there 4 if they say yes then say every time u hurt another child u will go in the corner till u learn not to do it again and then get them to say sorry and then give them a luv and get day care to do it to and if have a baby sitter then get them to do it to in the end it will work if they do get out of corner before time is up put them back and start countin again hope this helps and good luck

Meghan - posted on 03/04/2011




some kids when they start daycare/ school their attitudes change ..maybe he has watched other children talk to their parents that way. or he is having issues with putting him in daycare not saying its not good for him to go..at 4 yrs its hard to talk to them about their problems because they dont understand what they r feeling..

Sarah - posted on 03/04/2011




Is he happy at day care? Why not ask him if anything is going on that he wants to talk about? Is this a dramatic change in behavior?

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