what do i do to stop temper tantrums at 20 months ! my daughter is making me crazywith them HELPPPP

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April - posted on 09/15/2009

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most moms might add soap to her mouth and others would think it's mean....I have a 3 yr old boy who keeps getting mouthy and I took him in the restroom to show him the bar of soap and he pleaded for me not to do it....told him the next time he has a mean mouth mommy will give him the soap....but again every child is different.....if that doesn't work try taking her down from the high chair and try "time out" for two minutes and see what that does

April - posted on 09/15/2009

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Quoting Melissa:

what do i do to stop temper tantrums at 20 months ! my daughter is making me crazywith them HELPPPP




don't pay attention to  her tantrums.......step over her as she throwing the fit and act like it doesn't bother you...she will realize that she is not getting the attention she wants and it should stop

Brandy - posted on 09/15/2009

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one thing you can do is show no reaction to it a lot of time its just to see what you are going to do. if she is driving you crazy with them you can take her and place her in a safe place like in a play pin or her room a place she can't hurt herself in and walk away for a little bit and see what she does or distractions work to; like my son with his i would start to sing his favorite song over and over again and that would get him to stop and start to sing along and he would forget he was mad in the first place or i would give him his favorite blanket and leave him be.... hope this helps you out all children are different you just have to try things till you find the one that works for yours.

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Anna - posted on 09/16/2009

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I think that perhaps you need to go a little further then just ignoring your daughters tantrums:-)

Your daughters behaviour does not need to be like this. How do I know? I have a 20 month old well behaved loving boy. Was he born like this? No! He is such a bundle of energy and so smart its scary sometimes. Its hard work keeping him well behaved and e is constantly keeping me on my toes.

Consistency is the key! Its cliche I know but its cliche for a reason. If you call your daughter to come and she doesn't listen and you discipline her then an hour later you call her and she doesn't listen again and you let it slide or go to her instead what has she learnt? Nothing!

Children need training, you can't expect them to know what is expected of them unless they are told and taught. Try as hard as you can not to yell and to be patience.

Reclaiming your daughters behaviour is possible but it certainly will be hard work. But it is so worth it. I love beind around my children (19 monts and 5 months) I love it that I can call him and he comes, I can give him the nappies and ask him to put them in the bin and he runs to put them in, that he cuddles and kisses his baby brother and brings me the remote when asked. No he isn't perfect he doesn't always listen and he does throw a wobbly when he doesn't get his own way and I'm not always as patience as I should be. He gets disciplined when he doens't listen and I repent when I get impatient.

How do you discipline? When he needs disciplining I bend down and look him in the eye and calmly say "I said this and you did that and thats not good" and I smack his legs. Not so that it bruises or welts or anything like that at all. After that I tell him I love him and we have a cuddle and life goes back to normal.

There is a fantastic book that I would reccomend "To Train Up A Child" by Mike Pearl. They are americans and well known so wouldn't be to hard to find them on the internet. They also have a regular magazine No Greater Joy.

I would encourage you to take the hard road and get strict and loving with your daughter. The loving thing to do is straighten out your daughter as she will benefit from a household were she is the child and you are the parent.

I hope this helps and encourages you in some small way.

Anna - posted on 09/16/2009

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I think that perhaps you need to go a little further then just ignoring your daughters tantrums:-)

Your daughters behaviour does not need to be like this. How do I know? I have a 20 month old well behaved loving boy. Was he born like this? No! He is such a bundle of energy and so smart its scary sometimes. Its hard work keeping him well behaved and e is constantly keeping me on my toes.

Consistency is the key! Its cliche I know but its cliche for a reason. If you call your daughter to come and she doesn't listen and you discipline her then an hour later you call her and she doesn't listen again and you let it slide or go to her instead what has she learnt? Nothing!

Children need training, you can't expect them to know what is expected of them unless they are told and taught. Try as hard as you can not to yell and to be patience.

Reclaiming your daughters behaviour is possible but it certainly will be hard work. But it is so worth it. I love beind around my children (19 monts and 5 months) I love it that I can call him and he comes, I can give him the nappies and ask him to put them in the bin and he runs to put them in, that he cuddles and kisses his baby brother and brings me the remote when asked. No he isn't perfect he doesn't always listen and he does throw a wobbly when he doesn't get his own way and I'm not always as patience as I should be. He gets disciplined when he doens't listen and I repent when I get impatient.

How do you discipline? When he needs disciplining I bend down and look him in the eye and calmly say "I said this and you did that and thats not good" and I smack his legs. Not so that it bruises or welts or anything like that at all. After that I tell him I love him and we have a cuddle.

I hope that this helps and encourages you in some small way. I would encourage you to take the hard road and straighten out your daughters behaviour. It will be hard but worth it! Your daughter will benefit as well from a less stressful environment where she is the child and you are the parent.

Shayne - posted on 09/16/2009

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My daughter is almost 20 months and I'm going through the same thing, it's terrible. I wish i had some advice to offer.

Chasity - posted on 09/15/2009

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Ignore her all the way, it can be tough but once she relizes you are not going to listen to that, she will stop. Kids crave attention and if that means she has to kick and scream and cry and act up then thats what she will do. It helps also to let her know that she will get more when she is good, and polite and nice about it.

Melissa - posted on 09/15/2009

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i have actually tried that today she was eating gold fish crackers and threw them on the table and started to smash them up into pieces so i cleaned up the mess and took them away from her well it almost felt like i was punishing myself by doing that because she screamed for a good 20 minutes slamming her little hand down on the table and yelling i was like you little girl need to stop NOW and she looked at me stopped an was like NO an kept going i was like OH MY GOD SOMETHING HAS TO GIVE

Melissa - posted on 09/15/2009

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i feel like i have terrible two's at 20 months an i hear this is only going to get worse for us =(

Alexis - posted on 09/15/2009

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I would love help with this as well. My daughter is almost 2 and the temper tantrums are out of controll.

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