What do you do when the childs father was in the pic then left you 2 raise the child on your own?


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Jaylin - posted on 07/07/2009




I have twin boys who are 4. The father of my boys was there until about age 9 months and then left. It is hard but I believe that it's HIS loss! My boys are so amazing, they know that I will always be here for them! You just have to play mommy & daddy to them. I wouldn't trade anything in this world, I'm glad it happened the way it did. It has made me and my boys stronger people!

Rebecca - posted on 07/07/2009




You're NEVER alone. I'm sure you have friends and family around that are in some way supportive, and certainly GOD is always stanidng beside you. Keep your head up and hold on. All you need is perseverance. All happens for a reason. Don't look at in negatively. Celebrate that you are a mother instead.

Carol - posted on 07/06/2009




My daughter's father left when I was pregnant, then came back just to leave again. You don't need a man like that in your daughter's life. You can provide her a better home by yourself than you could with him. Stay strong, work hard and love your daughter and you will make it!

Jamie - posted on 07/06/2009




You cry your sad, but you pick yourself up, dust yourself off. If you havent you get your booty in school and get a good education. And you raise those kids the best you can and dont let anything get you down.

Vicky - posted on 07/06/2009




My sons dad decided to leave when i found out i was pregnant. I was living in a rented room with no money. I decided that i was gonna have my baby. It was the best thing i have ever done. I found that although it was hard, i had him all to myself. Now he is2 this month and i jus finish my second year of college and looking for a job. His dad came to see him when he was 8 months old and since has seen him 4 times since. I was 18 when i fell pregnant and everyone thought i woodnt cope. Im now 21 and surprised everyone. You will be surprised at how much you will be able to cope with. If you have a bad, jus sit there and cuddle your baby and know how much she needs you. when she smiles it will light up your world and make everything better. Good luck

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Unfortunately, we cannot control the choices of other people in our lives, but we do have a choice of how we're going to react to what they do that affects us. Just know that it'll be okay. You are not alone. Your child needs you, so you need be strong and do what's best for the both of you. First you need to be okay, so you can take good care of your child, so give yourself some time to heal and reach out to family and friends who cares, you'll need their love and support. You don't have to do this alone, so don't be afraid to ask for help.

Lauren - posted on 07/05/2009




You do what you have to do and provide for your child. There is nothing more you can do. He is missing out on one of the greatest gifts anyone could have. I worked 4 jobs at one time, I have gotten my bachelors degree and gotten a fantastic job. All he ended up with was a police record and a drug addiction. You will be fine.

Jessica - posted on 07/05/2009




You let yourself have some greiving time and then you show him he made the biggest mistake of his life by keeping your head held high, not thinking about him, raising your beautiful little girl the best you can and taking great care of yourself! Anyone who can even think of walking out on their own child is a scumbag and aint worth a penny out ur purse! Keep strong! Your a proud Mother with a gawgus girl and u don't need anyone to be ur crutch!

Michelle - posted on 07/05/2009




OMG well its not easy looking after children on ur own at the best of times but i have been there and yes its hard but u find away to deal with it and work it out dont think this has answerd ur question but just to let u no it does get easyer

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