What do you do when you want another baby and your husband doesn't...


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hmm well im the opposite, my lil trio is perfect. but i can see where he is coming from...more workload, sleepless nights,diapers, a cranky mom. its overwhelming i think. give him some time maybe

Kate CP - posted on 07/27/2009




My suggestion is...let him know what it's like to want a baby. My husband didn't understand until I broke down and told him what it's like to feel like you have a void inside you. You feel like your family isn't complete, that something is missing, that your body is physically aching for a child. I would also talk to him about why he *doesn't* want another one. My hubby was worried about money, where the baby would sleep, how I would cope with it, yada yada yada. I did my best to calm his fears and slowly (and I'm talking like 2 years here) he started to warm up to the idea. We're trying for #2 now (hoping for a BFP in 2 weeks! I'm so impatient) but it's been a hard road for us both. We both felt like neither one was listening to or appreciating our feelings on the subject. Don't push because he'll just push back. It's hard but you'll get through. :)

Liz - posted on 07/27/2009




I'm in the same boat. I've tried almost everything i can think of to try and convince him. I really want my kids close in age because I don't want them to have the huge age gaps between myself and my siblings. But he refuses to understand that even though he and his sister is really close in age. Any thing that you could suggest here would be great too!

Traci - posted on 07/27/2009




Just do your best to change his mind...but whatever you do don't get pregnant!!! You don't want him ever to feel like you "tricked" him or something.

Right now I'm trying to convince mine for one more...me, my MIL and my FIL are all trying to wear him down....LOL

Debbie - posted on 07/27/2009




Just my opinion, but I would not have another one if your hubby is not on board! If it is really a big issue, I would go to counseling.

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