What do you do when you want another baby and your husband doesn't...

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Kristine - posted on 08/30/2013

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Hi, I was reading some of the coments about having other baby, I have the same problem,my doghter is 5 years old know,and I desperately vant other baby,and my husband not really,because ,he saying that we have to many problems,with his sick mother who lives with us,and I take ceare of her,but im getting really depress,i feel that im used from his family a lot nowbody helps me with her,i been changing his mothers diapers since my little girle was 2 years old so last 3 years,and everybody thinks because I don't work so I can doit, and I feel like I don't have no life,i feel very alone ,here in USA im alone with my husband and his mom,i don't have nowbody ,I haven't seen my family for 6 yaers since I left to get married with my husband here in usa,i was very yang when I meat him,i was 18 and he was 46 ,so I never did any carier just to fallow him and be a good wife ,witch I enjoy ,I just vant to have biger family,so mine little girle would have siblings,she is very active little girle,and my husband use escuse ,that I hardly can put up with my life know, so I should be happy just with one baby,but I feel deep in my heart,that he is more afraid who is going to do all the work for his mother ,if I have other child,i apologize that I wrote with mistakes,im trying ,thank you

Stefanie - posted on 07/27/2009

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Pray and let God work on your husband. That's the only productive means I can think of.

Danielle - posted on 07/27/2009

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My husband and I have the same discussion only reversed. He would like to have another child but I'm not so sure. We had both said that we would like to have 2 kids before marriage but after having our daughter, I don't know that I could do it again. Really, it's an issue that you both have to agree upon to avoid resentment towards the new addition.

Louise - posted on 07/25/2009

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ive been haveing the same thing with my husband we have 3 children 2 of which are autistic the eldest and the youngest ive always wanted 4 and he knows this i admit with my boys it is hard work with the problems they have but i dont think it would effect them really haveing anuther child and my daughter often says she would like anuther brother or sister i keep asking but he dont seam to budge on the idear sometimes it does really make me cross i think your at work all day all my children will be full time school september so i will have free time on my hands to commit to anuther child so fustraiting i know x

Alissa - posted on 07/23/2009

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I can totally relate with you my daughter is 3 and1/2 and I want another baby and my husband says no. I have tried talking to him and he has not given in yet, but neither have I, Someone sent a post about throwing away the birthcontrol and acting like it failed. I do not recommend this, if he ever found out he would lose all trust in you.



I dont have an answer I just hope it helps knowing that you are not alone this is something a lot of couples disagree on.

Tracey - posted on 07/22/2009

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My baby is 10 1/2 months now, and I've been asking my husband for another baby since she's been 6 months... at first he was saying "NO"!!! So I let him be for a little bit, but momth by month, I ask him "are you ready to have another baby yet", and his response has been "no", up until last night, he finally agreed. Long story short... just have patience with your man, give him his time, bug him a little... hahaha and everything will eventually fall into place.

Cecilia - posted on 07/22/2009

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Have you asked him why he don't want another one? Maybe he has concerns that you two can address. Maybe he has other plans for the current time Things he's been wanting to do.

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I have a 2 1/2 year old and a 7 year old and well I am busy enough. If it came to me wanting another baby one day I would hope my partner were in with me on it because then it would be something we both wanted 100 %.

Jamie - posted on 07/22/2009

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No offense but this is probably something that you should have talked about before marriage. How many kids? How apart? How your going to support them? What if he never wanted kids or only wanted one? Or you only wanted one and he wanted 5?

Katherine - posted on 07/21/2009

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I know how you are feeling...I want to have all our kids (because we have agreed that we will have 4children) before i'm 30yrs we have 2 boys now and i want to go again as i'm 26yrs now, but my partner doesn't want to have anymore kids for 3yrs which makes me almost 30yrs. its very hard...

Mayela - posted on 07/21/2009

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Don't purposely get pregnant! I completely agree with Jessica! I would LOVE to have another, but my hubby doesn't, at least not yet. He is very immature, though, so I know I'd be asking for irreversible damage!

Jessica - posted on 07/21/2009

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You have too both want another baby, otherwise your asking for lots of fights, then regrets, and you don't want that. It took my husband almost two years after our first to say he was ready, so just be patient.

Momma - posted on 07/21/2009

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lol if you want honest answer, you can always poke a hole in his condom or not take your birth control. the way i look at it, is that it will happen if its meant to be. if it doesn't happen it isnt meant to be.

Julianne - posted on 07/21/2009

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It's not a question of trying to persuade your husband or "accidentally" getting pregnant, it's whether or not you want your husband to resent you for forcing him to be a father when he's not ready. Maybe he has other stressors in his life and this would just be an overload? A newborn should be a blessing....on both sides, not just for you.

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well you can try talking about it. go to couple counselling and rate your need for anohter baby on a scale of 1-10, maybe if he sees your eed for a baby is a 10 he will give in.

I know this will sound horrible but if you really really really want a baby you are untimately the one in controll.....think about it, just toss out the pills and tell him the birth controll failed.

now I dont normally agree with lying to a spouse but for this, men just dont understand the maternal need for a baby. a good husband will never regret having children and will love them all but you may regret not having the baby you wanted.

September - posted on 07/21/2009

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Wait until you're both ready :) No need to rush something that one of you are not ready for...

Tiffany - posted on 07/21/2009

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Oh My Gosh we are having this same debate.. I don't have an answer but your not alone!!

Tiffany - posted on 07/21/2009

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Oh My Gosh we are having this same debate.. I don't have an answer but your not alone!!

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