What do you think about single moms moving in with boyfriend

Cystaline - posted on 07/08/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




i have a two year old girl and i have always lived with my mother. i have been with my boy friend for about five months and we are ready to take the relation to the next level. i live in san jose and he lives in oakland. im not sure how the change will affect my daught. So i want to hear from you all. how would u deal with this and how do i make it an easy transition for her?


Mary - posted on 07/08/2009




5 months? Is just a little soon to be bringing someone who you've only been together with for 5 months into the life of your daughter. Your daughter is only little. While in the dating world you can do whatever you please ... I just think it's different when you have a child... because you want to make sure that he's the one. The only one she needs to get used to. You don't want to be one of those mothers who scar their children with many different men to get used to throughout their life. If you move... just make sure that it's serious and 5 months (to me anyway) is nearly serious but not serious enough. Maybe just a little longer? Lol not trying to be critical... but look whatever happens good luck with it all. When you do move make sure she knows him well enough and you trust him well enough. If she's comfortable with him then it shouldn't be that hard to move. Just assure her she'll still see grandma when you guys get the chance and she can take all her toys.


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Danielle - posted on 07/08/2009




I was a little freaked out by the idea of moving my daughter in with me and my boyfriend also. I just wasn't sure how it was going to work out. I think that if he is accepting of her and he loves you both it will be okay. Good luck!

Emma - posted on 07/08/2009




I understand where Mary is coming from but if you feel that you and your partner are ready to move in together then just reassure your daughter that she will get to see her granny anytime you can. If your daughter is comfortable with this man then moving for her shouldn't be a problem. Atleast it's before she gets settled into an education and you aren't messing with her schooling. Good luck whatever you decide. Just make sure you trust this guy 110% and just be as supportive as you can be to her as this will be a difficult time for your daughter aswell.

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