What is a "single mom" ?

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I'm just curious what everyone else considers to be a single mom? Is it a women who has a child and does everything without the help of the father? Is it a woman who is just the primary caregiver but the father has the child on weekends or whenever? I personally believe a single mom is someone that does everything by themselves with no help.

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April - posted on 02/24/2014

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I am a part time single parent with a spouse that works 80 plus hours a week and is home maybe 3 days out of the week. I have 3 children and no family or help. His work just transferred us out of state. Yep Part Time single parent life :)

Serita Eiko - posted on 02/24/2014

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I personally believe a single mom is a state of mind. Lots of moms even moms who are married have been in this state of mind at some point. Whether the husband is gone on business or is a lazy waste of space in the house not doing their part. When people say single mom I think of a lady who is doing the parenting duties on their own. They don't get a break or five minutes to themselves in the bathroom. I have been a single mom in both situations and sometimes I feel like I fall in the single mom state of mind here and there. So some may say what casey bell and marissa mecca say in the other comments. But being a single mom is a state of mind to me. You choose to do things on your own or with out help. There are ways of asking for help and not trying to be a martyr. Some people make life harder than it is and for what? to say that they did it all on their own with no help? Plus there are many great "single moms" out there that don't consider themselves as that but considers themselves as a "MOM." A mom is a mom no matter if there is extra help or not. Take pride in the name mom, lots of people when they hear your a single mom immediately pity you or judge you in someway. I say this from experience.

Marissa - posted on 02/23/2014

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I am a single mom with no help but someone else might categorize themselves as a single mom because they are not in a relationship with the father. I'm with you though, when I think of a single mom I think that she is doing everything on her own :)

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Jodi - posted on 02/25/2014

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It is hard 99% of the time whether you do it all yourself, whether you get $30 a month child support from your ex, whether dad takes the child one afternoon a week or two nights a week. It is hard whether you are a stay at home mother or a working mother, no matter what type of mother you are. Single, married, doing it alone or sharing it. I don't think there is any way we can define who does it the toughest. I could sit here and tell you that 99% of the time it is also hard to go and teach children all day and then come home to my own and focus on their homework, while my husband is still at work, then have to deal with dinner, the washing, the ironing and the list goes on. I could tell you that I was 100% single with no help from daddy, but my own mum looks after my kids for me so I can get a break and it is still 99% hard work.

As I said in my earlier post, I am not understanding why the answer even matters, because we are all mothers, and 99% of the time it is hard for all of us no matter what our definition of single.

Marissa - posted on 02/24/2014

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I agree that being a single mom can be a state of mind, but I don't consider being a single mom a bad thing. I don't need anyone to pity my life. I love my son with all my heart and I am blessed to be a part of his life. Being a single mom is empowering. Yes it is hard 99% of the time but I would not change it for the world. I don't care what anyone thinks about the fact that I am a single mom. I am raising my little boy all on my own and I proud of it :)

Casey - posted on 02/24/2014

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I agree with you. Most women get it confused, a single mom does it all w/o the help from the child's father. If your getting help from the father your just a single woman not a single mom. There's def. a big difference between the two!

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