What is the best way to discipline a three yr old?

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Feah - posted on 01/30/2013

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I agree! As I give them time-out really when they need to cool down after a fight over a toy or something but as discipline goes taking things away has been the most effective for me. No painting this afternoon you have to color, sort of thing. Back when I took classes for child care they told us time out was the most effective method, I wonder if they ever had a house full of 2-4year old -_-..

Sara - posted on 01/29/2013

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Funny thing is, I run a dayhome, and I have a 2, 3 and two 4 year olds and time outs are extremely ineffective for all of them. They do not respond to the discipline at all. I have to pull them aside for a "time-in" explain why I took them away from the issue, talk with them about it and then I let them continue playing, if a behavior persists, I remove certain toys or tell them to have quiet solo time in which they are permitted puzzles and/or books and that is just to separate them and relax the behavior. I am all for time outs, but they just don't work here. I find that if you ask each of them why they were in time out they will just stare at you and say something like because you put me there or I was bad. I am looking for a real response such as "I wasn't sharing, I hit so and so." So do not get discouraged if a certain method doesn't work. It takes time to figure out what is most effective.

Feah - posted on 01/29/2013

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I find that time out 1minute per age works fine,IF too frequent it doesn't work. The method I find most effective is taking activities they enjoy away (for a set amount of time IE drawing on the walls= no painting this afternoon) or taking toys they enjoy playing with away(again for an afternoon or morning not whole day). Make sure to be clear why they are being punished and when they can have it back. If all else fails and you have a willful child use the wooden spoon as my mother and her mother before her did.

Melanie - posted on 01/28/2013

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Time out works great at this age. Sit them down and give them 3 minutes without getting up or mommy attention. This is the hardest part. If they get up, put them back. A timer works really well because you can't talk the timer into ringing, like you can with mommy.

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