What is the Right Age?

Dayna - posted on 04/29/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




When I first found out I was pregnant, I was 22. I had my baby girl at 23. Sometimes I wonder if I was too young to have kids. I was 17 when I graduated high school and a year after ,women who graduated with me already started to have babies. I can say I waited a little while. I tried going to college and maintain a job at the same time, but having to pay for school wasnt easy and I ended up dropping out. So I just worked. I would work during the week and go out with my friends on the weekends. And I use to do a lot of shopping. My reason was, " I dont have any kids". I cant say that no more. lol There are still some females around my age that dont have kids. They either want them, but dont have them yet or just dont want them. I said I wanted them, I just never knew when I would have them. But I think 23 is a good age. Now that my baby is here, she inspired me to go back to college, which I am in the fall, and I'm going to work to support her. I know it wont be easy, but it has to be done. Now that I think about it, 23 isnt a bad age. I'm still young, I can go back to college and still be young when I graduate, and I can chase my daughter around when she starts to get older. ( For now lol)


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J - posted on 04/30/2009




age...over 18 or when you are done with puberty/developing....and be emotionally and financially prepared...i think having a baby at an early age is better...women are most fertile from 18 to 28 anyway

Jillian - posted on 04/30/2009




Well i've allways being a career girl so only just had my first at 28 and have a wonerfull husband we married two year ago we've had fab hols in the carribean and allover done all the girly weekends and have the money and a lovely home for him but as long as you have love for your little one you will be fine now he six month and i've being off work that long i've trained to be a breast feeding peer supporter while taking my little man with me so there is all ways options and will plan to go back to my job but also help support other mums so it's the best thing i've ever done so it's what's right for you :)

Ann - posted on 04/29/2009




I don't think there is such a thing as "the right age". Everything happens for a reason when its supposed to happen. Being a Mom just gives you the extra multi-tasking skills you need to make it through school. Good luck, you will do great...you have extra motivation and mouths to feed now :) Enjoy these days while they last...they fly by!!

Kate CP - posted on 04/29/2009




I think it depends on the mommy. I will always believe that under 20 is too young, though. I had my daughter when I was 24 but I had also been married for 4 years (had been with my partner for 8 years total at the time). I think a woman should know who she is before she makes the commitment to create a new life. So I guess there really isn't a "too young" versus "too old" to me. Just depends on the mommy!

Mel - posted on 04/29/2009




i think earlier is better but thats just me! i planned and had mine at 18 and dont regret it at all. Like i say to everyone i want to be close to my daughters age and be able to do things with her when she grows up. my mum was 30 when she had me and i was her first but she was career minded just wanted to work and buy a house etc even though she got married at 16. I started trying for my girl at 16 (not the most mature thing i could have done it happened at the right time for me). i still would be been just the same as a mum but im glad that it happened a bit later so we could get more money behind us and now we can look after her %100 and buy her new toys and clothes just the way i want it to be.

Amanda - posted on 04/29/2009




It is definitely worth it!! I had my little boy at 21 and now 24, newly single mom at that... I am a year away from graduation. I am STRUGGLING!!!! It will be a HARD road at times I will tell you. There are times where I think to take a semester off and try to save up some money... DON'T DO IT!! I have run into all sorts of issues and cried and cried and cried some more. Don't give up, no matter what.

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