what's the best way to handle a toddler tantrum?

Dana - posted on 07/16/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




i have a 2 year old boy who has major tantrums. he does not like sharing his toys with other children and will lose it. After nearly tearing my hair out I took him into his room, put him in his bed and closed his door for 10 minutes all of which he still screamed. I hate hearing him like this but don't know what to do sometimes especially hard when you have people around. would appreciate any advice.


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Deanne - posted on 07/17/2009




It is hard. & unavoidable most of the time.
The worst thing is to scream, yell, shout (whatever you call it) back at them cos 2 year olds will never back down.
Time out works but your forever putting them back to their 'naughty spot'. Persistence is the key, so they learn what will happen when they have a tantrum.
Of course most of the time nothing works & simply ignoring them will eventually give the message that you don't acknowledge that type of behavior. For a 2 year old any attention is what they're after, whether it's you spending time playing with them or you yelling at them.
I used to watch Supernanny & other programs on behavior all the time & sometimes nothing works at all.
My son's (at 2 years) sleep patterns were all over the place & this is a major factor to the tantrums.
You'll get through it ---- JUST!

Megan - posted on 07/17/2009




It is much harder when peolpe are around. my son is two also and i am going through that right now as well. When Mason decides he doesn't want to share his toys when other people are here I put him in timeout for two minutes and make him look at the wall. After the timeout,I gently have a talk with him explaining how he should share and so on. That hurts his feeling worse than me spanking him. He is getting the idea and has stopped a lot of the screaming when he has to share. The screaming is npt going to stop right away. It is gonna take time but stick with it and maybe you can get some results. Good luck

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